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Just bloody say no?!

27 replies

IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 13:29

I offended under asking price for an item on Facebook and instead of declining she just left the chat without saying anything😂

are we not meant to offer on prices for second hand items anymore?! If she’s declined I would have brought the item anyway.. but there’s no harm in asking no?

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AlisonDonut · 31/03/2023 13:31

I don't understand - you were offended? But she left the chat?

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IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 13:35

Oh gosh sorry, typing and parenting! I meant I offered!

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Todaynotalways · 31/03/2023 13:37

but there’s no harm in asking < in this case, there obviously is harm in asking.

I'd feel the same as the seller, the moment someone tries to knock me down on price I just see them as a chancer and a potential pain in the arse.

I'd be concerned that they'd try to negotiate further when they came to pick the item up, and I just don't need the faff.

You either want it, or you don't.

UndercoverCop · 31/03/2023 13:37

It depends I list things really cheaply on FB then people take the piss. Eg 15 items of new/nearly new children's clothing from next/m&s/Boden £5 then someone will offer me 75p. I'm not dignifying that with a response.

MuffinToSeeHere · 31/03/2023 13:39

To be honest on FB market place you often get people making ridiculously low offers and as a result I too sometimes ignore them completely or leave the chat because what's the point in me wasting my time responding if they aren't actually serious about buying the item.

If you wanted the item then just ask if it is still available and then buy it. Why waste everyone's time with silly low ball offers.

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IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 13:41

The item was £50, I offered £40? Was that too low? I would have thought that wasn’t too bad.

with marketplace I thought it was always a unspoken rule that you put the item up for a little more than you’d be happy to take, so that when people do offer less you’re not too disappointed.

I would understand if I’d offer £20/£30 as that’s quite a drop and might annoy. But leaving the chat instead of just politely declining is a bit rude imo 🫣 ruder than ignoring me 😂

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MuffinToSeeHere · 31/03/2023 13:55

with marketplace I thought it was always a unspoken rule that you put the item up for a little more than you’d be happy to take, so that when people do offer less you’re not too disappointed.

Not at all quite often people price items cheaper as they want them gone and to then have people try to reduce the price further is a pain in the arse. Chances are many others had also offered lower and she just couldn't be bothered to reply to you all.

If you were happy to pay £50 why not just buy it for £50 or ask what her best price would be if you were able to collect asap. There are politer ways of getting a discount than just outright offering 1/5 less of the price it had been listed out.

DandledASandle · 31/03/2023 13:56

On FB market place as a seller you get a lot of people who just don't come back to you, or say they will turn up and then don't. Don't overthink it, it's just a transaction and in this case, yes you lost out by making an offer.

Mrsjayy · 31/03/2023 14:03

IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 13:29

I offended under asking price for an item on Facebook and instead of declining she just left the chat without saying anything😂

are we not meant to offer on prices for second hand items anymore?! If she’s declined I would have brought the item anyway.. but there’s no harm in asking no?

Just pay what she asked for why wouldn't you ? She had no time for time wasters do didn't reply its not a big deal.

LindorDoubleChoc · 31/03/2023 14:07

"with marketplace I thought it was always a unspoken rule that you put the item up for a little more than you’d be happy to take, so that when people do offer less you’re not too disappointed."

That's not my understanding at all. My understanding of FB marketplace is that it's generally quite a pain in the arse to use it and I want the least amount of messaging and to-ing and fro-ing possible. I just want an item out of my house, or to buy something as easily as possible.

Just bloody pay what people are asking! If I sell on FB I put the minimum price I would accept, to make it attractive to buyers. I don't waste everyone's time trying to second guess people. It's FB not the Istanbul Souk!

GoodChat · 31/03/2023 14:11

If you'd have been happy to pay asking price you should've paid it. She's probably fed up of people offering less than the asking.

What was the actual message you sent her? You didn't just send '40' did you? That's what riles me Grin

wedonttalkaboutyouno · 31/03/2023 14:16

I’ve just ignored someone who offered me way less than the asking price. I can’t be bothered with it. I feel they’re the same chancers who turn up at your door with ‘whoops, I don’t quite have enough money on me’, and to be honest, I would rather not get so far down the line with these people that they have my address.

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IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 14:29

@GoodChat
I firstly asked if it was still available, she said yes it was so I asked if she would consider £40 if we collected asap whenever suits her. She then left the chat. So it wasn’t abrupt, and I wasn’t demanding that she take £49. I always ask if they will consider as I always think it’s worth asking 🤷🏼‍♀️

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MarissaG · 31/03/2023 14:33

Of course you can offer. There’s a button that literally says ‘Send offer’.

Moanycowbag · 31/03/2023 14:39

Op, I'm with you, I will always make an offer and if selling I will always price £5 or £10 over as everyone normally like a haggle and feel like they are getting a bargain.

NettleTea · 31/03/2023 15:58

i dont want an offer. I want to know who is going to pay me what I asked and come and get it. If I accept 40 from you, I will then kick myself if 10 mins later someone offers the full price. Or I have to keep you on the back burner in case nobody offers full price, and thatss a hassle. Just say you want it, come and get it, and pay what you agreed when you arrive at the time you said

DragonbornMum · 31/03/2023 16:16

Going against the majority here... I thought haggling was the point? I always put things up for more than I'll accept. I expect people to offer lower.

Except obviously cheap stuff, like haggling on a £5 thing. It's a hassle to get change lower that that these days.

£40 on a £50 item IMO is definitely worth asking!

MarissaG · 31/03/2023 16:36

If you never accept offers then you’ll be left with things. If it’s not selling at the full price it’s obviously overpriced. I’d rather accept slightly less and get rid of stuff.

SnowyPetals · 31/03/2023 16:40

I think it's fine to make an offer - second hand stuff is worth what buyers are prepared to pay for it, not what sellers want to sell it for. If someone makes me an offer I don't want to accept, I just say "I don't need to let it go that cheaply just yet".

WeAreTheHeroes · 31/03/2023 16:44

FB marketplace can be painful. Lots of accidental "Is this available" messages. People who want to knock 20% off an already low asking price. People who want you to deliver 20 miles away when you're offering something for free.

She probably had a full price offer so accepted that OP. At least you asked politely.

Mrsjayy · 31/03/2023 16:55

IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 14:29

@GoodChat
I firstly asked if it was still available, she said yes it was so I asked if she would consider £40 if we collected asap whenever suits her. She then left the chat. So it wasn’t abrupt, and I wasn’t demanding that she take £49. I always ask if they will consider as I always think it’s worth asking 🤷🏼‍♀️

She has probably thought bloody chancer and couldn't be bothered so just left it, she is under no obligation to be polite to you .

neilyoungismyhero · 31/03/2023 16:59

I have to say it gets on my pip being asked to lower the price before they've even seen the item. I leave the building too or do sometimes just say no...depends how irritated I am.

lv884 · 31/03/2023 17:46

I might have missed extra information here as I admittedly haven’t read the entire thread but I find it irritating and sometimes exasperating when people take the piss with offers, to be honest. Not saying don’t do a bit of bartering but I’m talking about, for example, selling expensive, clearly high quality furniture and people offering prices as if it’s a battered and poorly assembled flat pack something from somewhere more reasonable like Ikea. (I love IKEA, by the way, and have bought loads there!) I’ve tried Vinted and things but nowadays usually give to a charity shops as I did before these apps rather than try to make a little bit of cash back as I can’t be bothered with people who do it. Not sure the money made/offered is worth it but I haven’t sold much. I have a relative who sells on Facebook and she said the people who tend to offer unreasonably low prices sometimes cause more problems like complaining about an item in some way to knock off a bit more. So maybe she would have a similar approach to your seller…

Moanycowbag · 31/03/2023 17:55

neilyoungismyhero · 31/03/2023 16:59

I have to say it gets on my pip being asked to lower the price before they've even seen the item. I leave the building too or do sometimes just say no...depends how irritated I am.

I wouldn't want to have to fork out petrol money to come see something in the hope you might lower the price, which is why I ask before coming.

mumof1or2 · 31/03/2023 20:57

IamCuriousGeorge · 31/03/2023 13:41

The item was £50, I offered £40? Was that too low? I would have thought that wasn’t too bad.

with marketplace I thought it was always a unspoken rule that you put the item up for a little more than you’d be happy to take, so that when people do offer less you’re not too disappointed.

I would understand if I’d offer £20/£30 as that’s quite a drop and might annoy. But leaving the chat instead of just politely declining is a bit rude imo 🫣 ruder than ignoring me 😂

I agree with you. I often make offers and am also happy for buyers to make offers when I am selling something. If I haven't had the item up long I'll reply and say I'll give it a couple of days to see if I get full price first, and if it's already been up for a couple of days then I often negotiate and take an offer. Absolutely no reason not to reply and I don't think it's rude to make an offer. It's absolutely what's expected on fb.