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Terrible mother I am

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feelbloodyterrible · 22/03/2023 06:50

Poor ds has got a sickness bug and I thought he was blagging me !

Yesterday morning he started with the "I feel sick' before school, i thought he was trying to get a day off as his friend had been off the day before with a cold. Then yesterday at school they tried Jewish foods in a lesson, last night my ds said he couldn't stop thinking about the beetroot that he tried and how it was making him feel sick (now ds is autistic and does have looping thoughts when something gets 'stuck' in his head and he can't stop thinking about it)
So I'm all just stop thinking about it get back into bed you're fine! A couple of hours later I'm woken up by him shaking telling me he's just been sick, go into his room and there is a pile of vomit next to his bed, I feel bloody awful! He's been sick every couple of hours all night, he also has a fever.
So thinking back to yesterday morning ds saying he felt sick was probably the early stages of this bug and I totally ignored him.

Has anyone else ever thought their dc was pulling a fast one when actually they were genuinely poorly ??

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MichelleScarn · 22/03/2023 06:51

Oh absolutely! Don't feel bad!

DustyLee123 · 22/03/2023 06:52

Don’t worry about it, kids can look perfectly well but be brewing something.

Nimbostratus100 · 22/03/2023 06:55

yes of course I have! My adult sons still never let me forget the couple of occasions when I breezily continued sweeping them into school with "you'll be fine" -only to be called to collect them later because they were ill.

My adult sons have completely forgotten the hundreds of occasions when I breezily continued sweeping them into school with "you'll be fine" -only NOT to be called to collect them later because they were fine.

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feelbloodyterrible · 22/03/2023 06:56

Nimbostratus100 · 22/03/2023 06:55

yes of course I have! My adult sons still never let me forget the couple of occasions when I breezily continued sweeping them into school with "you'll be fine" -only to be called to collect them later because they were ill.

My adult sons have completely forgotten the hundreds of occasions when I breezily continued sweeping them into school with "you'll be fine" -only NOT to be called to collect them later because they were fine.

Oh yes this !! I always say if you're that bad the teachers will send you home... apparently not lol

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HeyMicky · 22/03/2023 06:57

Unless my child is actively bleeding or vomiting, or there's a bone poking out, I take the approach of, "Let's see how you go". I wouldn't have done any differently to you in those circumstances

Weallgottachangesometime · 22/03/2023 06:58

I think every parent has done this. If you let them off school every time they said they felt a bit sick they’d be off all the time. Well mine would anyway.

My daughter scammed me a couple of times. I kept her off and as soon as we got home she was cartwheeling around the house. Now unless she is obviously unwell she goes in to school for them to call if she really needs to be at home.

Dacadactyl · 22/03/2023 07:00

100% I have done this with both of my kids and been wrong.

Although usually the threat of them having to stay in bed all day with absolutely no TV or electronics does the trick and unless they are really really ill, they try to go to school.

If they're too sick to go in school, I make home as boring as possible for them. Although when they were 4 I would mollycoddle them a bit more at home if they were poorly. It's a fine line!

Cheesedoffandgrumpy · 22/03/2023 07:06

I did this to my partner once when on holiday. He got tested when we got home and it was a mildly serious exotic mosquito borne diesease.
He has never forgiven me. I made him go out to dinner.

MushMonster · 22/03/2023 07:11

It happens to us all. Children milk it forever!

Itcouldhappenabishop · 22/03/2023 07:14

Join the club OP we've all done it!
My own mother refused to believe my ankle was 'that sore' and I hobbled around for 3 days before she reluctantly agreed to take me for an x ray. It was broken! cow

JacobsCrackersCheeseFogg · 22/03/2023 07:20

Erm, yes, definitely.

My daughter cried wolf on one occasion though. Made noises a few days before an exam that she was ill. She wasn't. Packed her off to school on exam day. She said, no mum, I've got a headache and a cough...I was still annoyed at her BS in the previous days so forced her out of the door.

Three hours later school rang asking me to pick her up. She was running a temperature and said her chest hurt. Tested her for Covid-19 which came back positive. She was wiped out for 10 days. And she had to do the exam when she returned to school.

RightOnTheEdge · 22/03/2023 07:20

I sent my ds to school and told him he might feel better when he's had some fresh air and I I had to pick him up a couple of hours later because he had been sick at school. He was sat in reception hugging a bucket.

I felt awful but if I kept him off every time he said he felt a bit sick in the morning, he'd never be at school.

itsgettingweird · 22/03/2023 07:23

Of course!!!

Feeling sick is very different to being sick.

I have days where I feel sick and it comes to nothing so I always take the feeling and being as different things!

Jellycatspyjamas · 22/03/2023 07:26

My daughter scammed me a couple of times. I kept her off and as soon as we got home she was cartwheeling around the house.

Yep, my DD was most put out when, having made a “full recovery” by 10.00 she was told to put her uniform on and was duly deposited at school.

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feelbloodyterrible · 22/03/2023 07:27

Thanks everyone - these replies do make me feel less neglectful 😆 he is still going with the sick, although it's just watery stuff now as there's nothing left to come out ! What are the chances of the baby catching it ??

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Ostryga · 22/03/2023 07:31

Everyone has done this. DD’s school want them in if there’s been no sickness/poop so I dutifully dosed Dd up with calpol when she had a bit of a fever and sent her in. 1 hr later she had projectile vomited over the sitting carpet. She was most furious when I picked her up!

Like everyone says if you keep them off every time they say they’re ill they’d have every other day off.

LakeTiticaca · 22/03/2023 07:40

Been there Don that got the T shirt 🤣 my kids were the biggest bloggers going😉

LakeTiticaca · 22/03/2023 07:41

LakeTiticaca · 22/03/2023 07:40

Been there Don that got the T shirt 🤣 my kids were the biggest bloggers going😉

*blaggers 🤣

GreyCarpet · 22/03/2023 08:00

Yes. We all do it - sending your child to school and trying to minimise illness becaue children try it on and its impossoble to work out how ill they actually are. Don't feel bad.

My finest moment was getting a call from my daughter's school at 9.20am becaise she'd thrown up everywhere. But then I contrast that with my son who I sent to school with a tummy ache. They called me at 11am to collect him because he was writhing around in agony. 20 minutes and a huge fart later, he was fine.

Holidayneededplease · 22/03/2023 08:32

My mum didn’t belive me once when I told her I’d broken my foot a week later when I was still moaning she said fine I’ll take it to hospital thinking I’d say oh no I’m ok - few hours later and a full up to knee cast 😬 we laugh about it now I was a bit mushy as a child

doublechocolatedigestives · 22/03/2023 08:37

Oh yes been there.
Once my son was picking at his food and was saying his mouth was sore. I thought he just didn't want to eat his vegetables.
I stood next to him with the whole "I'd bet you'd eat it if it had chocolate on it" speech only for him to start crying. I look in his mouth and he had a few sores.
Turned out he had Hand Foot and Mouth disease 🤦🏽‍♀️
Guilt for weeks

Eranzer · 22/03/2023 08:39

I assume my kids are pulling a fast one every time they're ill.... they're usually pulling a fast one to be fair.

But yeah, been there, so many times 😬

Gerwurtztraminer · 22/03/2023 08:41

My best friend at school was sent to school feeling sick and ended up being rushed to hospital in an ambulance, where she was operated on on for a burst appendix. Her parents never quite lived that one down!

But I agree, don't feel bad, all kids try it on & its hard to tell the difference between real & faked illness.

Woahhohoho · 22/03/2023 09:35

I brought my 3yo home one morning as he had such a bad stomach ache he could barely stand.

5 minutes after walking through the door he'd managed to get his lunchbox out of the bag and was merrily eating sandwiches while demanding I put the tv on for him. He sat there like a smug little king all day.

My DD had a stomach ache the next day but I was now wise to this. I got her ready in her uniform, teeth, hair etc while telling her she'll be fine once she's there. She threw up over her bedroom moments before we had to leave.

I can never quite get the balance right 😂

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feelbloodyterrible · 22/03/2023 09:36

Oh god, I remember my brother broke his wrist and he didn't go to the hospital for a good couple of days because my mom said there was nothing wrong with him

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