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How often do you go out?

33 replies

DessertsForAll · 11/03/2023 23:08

I mean to do something nice with family and friends? I don't mean a walk in the park, but going out for a meal, to theatre, to pub, day out, etc?

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TheChosenTwo · 11/03/2023 23:13

We aim to do something like this every weekend. We usually manage it, last weekend we went down to the seaside and had lunch and dd2 and I did a bit of shopping.
Tomorrow we are going to Kingston for a walk along the river and through the park and have lunch.
We try and make the most of the weekends although there are undoubtedly some which are just quite boring (but lovely!) staying at home and not doing much.

LesserBohemians · 11/03/2023 23:39

DH and I went to Rome a couple of weekends ago, I’m going walking on the coast with a friend for a couple of days soon, last weekend I went to two art exhibitions and a play, last night I had a drink and went to a film with my sister.

Iwannabeacrocodilehunter · 11/03/2023 23:49

Very rarely. Perhaps twice a year?

Icecreamandapplepie · 11/03/2023 23:51

Once a week usually. Can't afford it really with 5 of us but we do anyway.

Alphabet1spaghetti2 · 11/03/2023 23:53

Never. I do meet friends at the social activities I attend, but not outside of those. Eg knitting friends and knit club, dance friends at dance lessons etc. but I wouldn’t intentionally go on a day out coach trip with any of them (for example).

Greygate · 11/03/2023 23:58

Every Saturday, and more often during school holidays. Mostly theatre trips, concerts, museums, and galleries with my DC and DH. Tend to book months ahead as things sell out, so we always have something lined up.

Don't get out much to do adult stuff like pubs as the DC like me to put them to bed so we're not used to using babysitters.

JunkinDonuts · 12/03/2023 02:01

Usually 3-4 times per week to a pub, restaurant or cafe.

Zippedydoo123 · 12/03/2023 06:01

I am stingy socially but do value my friends. My two local friends I meet up with twice a year or so. One I spend no more than a tenner and the other he brings a flask of tea and we have a cuppa either outside or in his car. The latter does this with all his friends. I have many other friends but they live elsewhere in the UK and or abroad. I keep in touch with all my friends through WhatsApp Facebook email and text etc.

Abcdefgh1234 · 12/03/2023 06:16

With family 2-3 times during weekend. With friends we go to london every month. I got bestfriends who are not in the same city. So we meet up in london every month to go to nice restaurants

LobeliaBaggins · 12/03/2023 06:21

several times a week. I am not a domestic person.

asplashofmilk · 12/03/2023 06:22

I'm a lone parent with little family support. I do a fair bit just me and the kids, I'd say perhaps two or three times a month for a day out.

But if I want to do something child free I have to take a day off work. So I'd say maybe once every 2-3 months. And never in the evenings as my lo is still preschool and I don't feel comfortable with a babysitter yet.

garlictwist · 12/03/2023 06:31

Rarely go out for dinner or the theatre as don't really have the money for that. I meet friends in the pub probably once a week/fortnight.

GreenCup · 12/03/2023 06:33

We have 2 toddlers so all outings tend to be geared towards them - swimming, play parks, feeding the ducks, softplay, etc. We do something every weekend as a family.

With friends, very rarely. I value my own space so tend to spend my free time alone. DH will meet up with his friends every 3 months or so.

Just us (DH and I) - 2/3 times a year we'll go to the cinema and for a meal or attend a gig. We are going away for 2 nights at the end of the month, the first time we'll have left youngest DC overnight.

Motheranddaughter · 12/03/2023 06:34

3 or 4 times a week

frozendaisy · 12/03/2023 06:41

Once a week, bit more in summer

carriedout · 12/03/2023 06:45

For us it totally follows a seasonal cycle - much less in the cold, dark months. It also varies month to month depending on what's happening in the rest of life. On longer/lighter days our favourite thing to do is take the train somewhere.

QueenMabs · 12/03/2023 07:13

Twice a month probably for lunch or dinner out.

Entertain at home same amount.

Coffee and cake most weeks

Theatre trips twice per year

Days out not as often as I'd like.

CeriB82 · 12/03/2023 07:15

Very rarely est out as we cannot afford it. Birthdays and a lunch in a pub on Christmas eve. That is all.

Autienotnautie · 12/03/2023 07:18

We do stuff every weekend it can be park/ activity with kids, see Friends/family . We do lots of dog walking too. It's most cheap tho, Anight out maybe once a month.

Beezknees · 12/03/2023 07:49

Every weekend. Not always with DS as he's a teenager and would rather spend time with mates than me, but I go out and see family or friends pretty much every Saturday. Sundays I stay home and chill.

PandasAreUseless · 12/03/2023 07:52

I went out for lunch with DH yesterday, and I'm meeting a friend this morning for coffee. I'd say that's about normal, so once/twice a week.

PlantPotato · 12/03/2023 08:01

Probably about once a month on average, mostly family things.

Noicant · 12/03/2023 08:09

Weekends atm are basically taking DD to the park, lunch and swimming (swimming as at an awkward time). We do whatever shopping etc needs to be done around that or pop into a museum etc. We live in a place with extremely limited cultural options.

We have a slow start in the mornings because week days are busy and DD isn’t a great sleeper so out the house between 10-11 and back home at around 5ish.

familyissues12345 · 12/03/2023 08:10

We try and go out for a meal once a month with both of our sons. Eldest DS is away at Uni currently so we don't see loads of him, but he isn't too far away so we make a point of seeing him once a month.

DH and I are now also making a point of doing something like going to the cinema once a month too, we also enjoy staying away at nice spa hotels so do this a few times a year - we have to time it with DS1 being home as DS2 isn't quite old enough (or confident enough) to be home alone overnight.

Equimum · 12/03/2023 08:32

It depends a bit on the time of year, but two weeks ago, we all went to the theatre, last weekend we met friends at a National Trust place, had different friends over for dinner and went to a restaurant for a meal as a family. This weekend DH & I met my brother for a pub dinner and today we'll be going to friends. We are away visiting family at the start of the Easter break, and I have several trips out with the kids planned - London museums, local Science place, cinema etc. we'll also do NTs and the seaside. This would be fairly normal for us.

We realise we are very fortunate and that many don't have the option to do so much.

for us, now we have some spare money, we really prioritise experience, and spend very little of personal grooming, clothing, possessions etc.