Would this give you The Ick?

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Or is it perfectly acceptable? Your first holiday away together. Romantic, right? Only when you arrive he awkwardly sighs, steps back from the bar and says "I think I'll let you get this one as I drove us here and paid for the petrol"

For the record. I had inwardly decided that I was going to treat him to dinner but I hadn't said anything at that point.

I bet he started off like my (very short term) first bf when I was 15 ……

We went on a picnic, he studied the 2 packs of crisps his mum had packed with the other food for ages and said he needed to check the exact time of manufacture so that he could ensure he had the freshest pack 😂🤦‍♀️ In that moment I just thought wtf am I doing here with this idiot

Is this a wind up?

Is this a wind up? How does funding your G and Ts make someone a man?

Maybe he picked up your shitty attitude from 20 paces and refused to be taken for a mug.

Or maybe he's just a fucking tight wad

so a man’s only a man if he pays a woman’s way? What bollocks. I think he was being fair tbh about you buying the drinks if he drove to the holiday. But I am a feminist and I do subscribe to such woke ideas as women being financially independent and splitting costs 50/50.

@TomHanksIsFuckingAmazing I wasn't judging you 💐. You gave him another chance & he blew it!! Sounds like you gave him a lot of chances. Situations like this make me agree with being able to tattoo their foreheads!

Hope you have a nice day today 🌷

There's a certain type of man who subscribes to equality when it suits him. Savvy women spot these men a mile off. They want 50/50 regardless of who earns more or, god forbid, being nice and generous to show off their good side?

Fwiw I pay my way, but I really respect when a man picks up the tab. It shows a generosity of spirit that I value. All too often people who tally up who spends what and jump straight in to say 'you pay for x now as I just paid y' are indicating a deeply selfish nature, and are not generous in other areas of their lives that don't concern money. Helping friends and family out with favours etc. I like kindness in the people I surround myself with.

The way to be generous but NOT be taken advantage of is to see how it plays out. Like this trip, he could have waited to see who paid for drinks, and later, who paid for dinner. If OP took the piss and didn't offer anything, he could then draw the line and say surely it's your turn? But he didn't, his priority was setting out his stall that he was keeping a running tally and assumed she would take him for a ride.

Major turn off imo.

His delivery was crap but you’re obvs a freeloader and he picked up on it.

Nope. I wanted to up until that point but after that I didn't bother and just paid for myself.

I'm not a freeloader! I'm just traditional. Nothing wrong with that. I actually get a lot of joy from treating someone and do so regularly. Just without reminders.

I'm 38 and he is 49, at the time I earned slightly more than him (£5k) but I've since reduced my hours and income for mental health reasons. Obviously we lived separately because it was a new relationship but it started during lockdown 3 so until we went away on that break we'd not really had the chance to spend money at all! But on the odd occasion in a pub it would just be a natural thing... he would buy me a drink and I'd automatically get the next one. "My round" etc.

I'm shocked you're still single op, shocked I tell you 😲

I'm just surprised he waited for you to dump him, without getting in there first.