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Where is dh?

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:08

Dh went out last night - still not home, no answer on his phone, very unlike him. Worried and angry in equal measure. Please handhold until he walks through the door with an excuse and apology.

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Starred7 · 11/03/2023 08:09

Hi hope you’re ok. Where did he go, who with and when was last contact?

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:11

Out with work colleagues in local town, left 6:30pm yesterday- that was the last time I spoke to him

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User129867588 · 11/03/2023 08:11

I hope he’s ok. Have you tried to contact the people he went out with? Social media?

pizzaHeart · 11/03/2023 08:11

Handhold from me. Hope he is back soon with a simple explanation.
Is it out of character for him?

crazycatladyof6 · 11/03/2023 08:13

Handhold right here OP.

where did he go? Was he out with friends? Could you contact one of them?

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:16

I don't know the people he was out with as it was an unofficial works leaving do (not for him) I've checked his social media but he doesn't really use it and there are no updates.
I checked our bank account and he was in a club according to that but barely spent anything all night.
It's very out of character- he goes out about twice a year and does overdo it but has never not come home.

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FastingFaster · 11/03/2023 08:17

I'd send one last message saying you're really worried and will call his boss if you haven't heard within 20 mins. Even if he's not with his boss, they will be able to contact people he might be/have been with. I think that's reasonable when your staff member is missing overnight.

It's hard to know what to hope for isn't it.? Obviously you want him to be safe, but if there's nothing wrong he's an arse. Hopefully he drank too much and is sleeping it off on a mate's sofa.

Emmamoo89 · 11/03/2023 08:20

Handhold. I hope he's okay.

TidyDancer · 11/03/2023 08:23

Is there anyone not in the group that he went out with that he might've met up with or otherwise contacted? Obviously the chances are he's crashed out on someone's sofa with his phone battery drained, but it doesn't stop you worrying in the meantime.

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:24

I've sent another message- I'm going to scroll through his Facebook friends and see if I can find anyone he went out with to message.
I'm meant to be going out for the day with dd for her birthday and wanted to be well rested, instead I've been wide awake worrying for the last 2 hours. What an arse

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Fuckitydoodah · 11/03/2023 08:24

I bet he's passed out on someone's sofa. How far are you away from the town? Maybe he couldn't get a taxi.

Hopefully, he'll be home soon to explain himself and apologise.

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 11/03/2023 08:25

You say he has form for over-doing it when he goes out, so I suspect he's just drank too much and slept on someone's sofa.

But it's really shit behaviour and it never ceases to amaze me how common it is - threads like this pop up every Saturday morning like clockwork!

FiFiWrites · 11/03/2023 08:27

Oh just get ready and go out as planned. He'll appear at some point and then he can explain

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:28

We're walkable from the town centre - would be more likely for someone to crash here, the walk takes you past the canal, a lake and a river so of course my head is going there
I've messaged someone on his Facebook who I know was out last night to see when they last saw him.
His phone is ringing and then going to voicemail.
I really hope he's just sleeping it off - he's an early riser though and would normally be awake by now even after a night out

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:30

FiFiWrites · 11/03/2023 08:27

Oh just get ready and go out as planned. He'll appear at some point and then he can explain

I've got younger children here and only 2 tickets for the show - it's not until later though so I'm sure it will be fine, I'll just be cross and knackered

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Cosycover · 11/03/2023 08:31

Would he take coke?

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:31

coffeecupsandwaxmelts · 11/03/2023 08:25

You say he has form for over-doing it when he goes out, so I suspect he's just drank too much and slept on someone's sofa.

But it's really shit behaviour and it never ceases to amaze me how common it is - threads like this pop up every Saturday morning like clockwork!

So true - I read those posts and think at least my dh wouldn't do that Confused

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Velvian · 11/03/2023 08:31

Handhold. My DH is similar, overdoes it on a work do a few times a year and comes home between 1 and 5 usually, so I would be worried too. Hope he gets in touch soon.

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:32

Cosycover · 11/03/2023 08:31

Would he take coke?

I'd like to say no - I know he took it once about 20 years ago but definitely not a regular thing

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TitoMojito · 11/03/2023 08:33

Assuming he’s alright and just overdid it and crashed somewhere, it's shocking that he’s done that on your DD's birthday!

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:34

Velvian · 11/03/2023 08:31

Handhold. My DH is similar, overdoes it on a work do a few times a year and comes home between 1 and 5 usually, so I would be worried too. Hope he gets in touch soon.

Yes he's always been back by 5, the club closes at 6am so even if he stayed until close and went for breakfast after he would be home by now.

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alsonotmyname · 11/03/2023 08:34

TitoMojito · 11/03/2023 08:33

Assuming he’s alright and just overdid it and crashed somewhere, it's shocking that he’s done that on your DD's birthday!

It's not her birthday today - just the closest weekend to it

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WinterMusings · 11/03/2023 08:35

@alsonotmyname

I can totally understand why you're so worried.

✋🏼 to hold while you wait to hear from him.

if his phone is still ringing, it's highly unlikely he's fallen in the canal or other water.

I think I'd try to wait until 9 then call the police & hospitals to see if they have any unidentified males.

MaggieFS · 11/03/2023 08:38

I agree with pp, of course you are worried but he's probably just over done it and passed out at a mates rather than wake you all up in the small hours.

As you say, these threads appear every weekend.

And much as he's an early riser, after too much booze and v little sleep, it would be expected he wouldn't wake up early.

It is poor form though.

Handhold in the mean time.

HoppingMarchHares · 11/03/2023 08:38

Why do people automatically presume the DH is a bad person who has behaved in a shitty way? I'd be worried something had happened to him if it's unusual behaviour.