If your relative is in a care home A) how much do they pay per week. B) what is included. C) are you happy with their care

[Proudofeveryone]

After feeling guilty that mum needed to go into a home
and had I chosen the right one.
Just had a letter to inform that's mums fees are increasing in April.
She will now pay £960 per week up from £890. This is in a dementia led care home.
For this she has a very large private room, own toilet and all toiletries provided.
3 freshly made meals a day plus enough tea/coffee and lots of cakes.
Food is made on the premises. Copy of menu is sent to me every week.
Entertainment is 5 days a week. This includes dancing and singing.
Organist one afternoon. There is a pub, cinema room.
3 private conservatorys for family visits. Beautiful gardens.
All chiropody included.
One lead staff nurse per unit(there are 2 units) plus 8 carers again each unit during the day and One lead nurse and 4 carers during the night.
Next month the home are starting to update the bedrooms.
There is plenty more things that made me know I chose the right home.
The staff treat the residents with love and care.

All this is completely different to what care my late mother in law had in a nursing home hardly any staff, the tiniest room and no private toilet. Unfortunately we had no choice as she was discharged to this home during covid.

What does your love one get in there home and how much do they pay.
Are you pleased with the care they get.

4 years ago we paid (well our parent paid, but we had PoA finance and health) something like £1200 per week, this was for nursing care for very advanced dementia. We had to pay extra for chiropody and for a once a week nice shampoo and blow dry in the in-house salon.

All meals activities and entertainment was included. The staff were devoted and attentive, from the manager to the linen ladies and the gardener, they made it their business to know each resident. We never had clothes go missing, no mis-haps, no falls or accidents or losses of personal items. We were very lucky, the home was astonishingly good.

Our parent died, as expected with the progression of the dementia - a good death though, if there can be such a thing.

£1050 per week.
No entertainment
Sparse Garden
Unused living room area which could be lovely.
Kitchen/dining area where the less mobile are wheeled in and sit slumped and asleep most of the day.
Some lovely staff but a few young male staff who sit and talk amongst themselves whilst they ‘watch’ the residents in the kitchen/dining area.
Pretty bare, but private, room with en-suite.
No idea on the food choices but they are well fed.

So far in 5 months they have lost footwear x 2, £300 worth of prescription glasses and several items of clothing.
Everything had their name on.

I hate it and want them to be moved but there aren’t a lot of options for dementia care in their area, I don’t have POA, I don’t live very local to them.

Dgm's care bill was £1800 a week! She died in 2020 dp not even current prices. Thankfully the nhs picked up the tab through continuing care. Advanced dementia with 1:1 even 2:1 24/7

Private room with wet room, 3 meals a day cooked on site, entertainment/enrichment programme weekdays, ecumenical church service on Sunday (popular hymns from childhood were the biggest hit). Was independent, not part of a chain. Staff should have got danger money caring for her, she lashed out constantly, i have scars from pre care home incidents

Mil was £1400 per week and yes they lost her clothes and the food was disgusting.

My dad was in a home which specialised in mental health care, he had Alzheimer’s and had been sectioned. His care costs were over £1700 a week and it’s over three years since he died so I’ve no idea what the costs would be now.
Included
Private room with own shower room.
All meals, snacks etc, dietary needs well cared for
All laundry
Beautiful gardens including an outdoor bar (no alcohol)
Regular entertainment and classes, art and crafts
Chiropodist
Day trips

Not included
Toiletries
Hair cuts, they had an in-house salon

He received excellent care, always plenty of staff and he often had 1 to 1 care

£1550
Nursing home, my DM has dementia.

Small but cosy room with loo and sink

A few different places for my DM to sit

Wonderful genuinely caring staff with a good staff to resident ratio. I’ve never seen the staff go off and chat, they always sit with the residents or walk around with them etc.

Small but nice garden

Not many activities so far, my DM has only been there a month.

No extras to pay so far.

£800 per week for moderate dementia, private room of decent size, activities like gentle exercise class and visiting local school and going to cafe. Small garden, two lounges, choice of food.

Will be about £950 per week when dementia gets severe.

Area will play a part in costs, though - mine is quite rural

Our relative had a very similar set up to yours @Proudofeveryone, but also needed a lot of one to one supervision because apart from the dementia they were very fit and well, and quite capable of giving carers the slip and getting into mischief. It was £2k per week.

We were very happy with the care they received. Everyone was kind.

Dad was in a lovely home for respite 5/6 years ago

was £2500 a week then

But wine was served with meals.
He hated it

could never have got him back into any home after that, he’d tried the nicest and still complained

I paid £1500 pw for my OH - he died 3 years ago, so no doubt it is more expensive now. I sold my house and downsized.

I also got the money back posthumously from the NHS on appeal under the Continuing Health Care Funding rules.

Late aunt, died a few months ago, paid appx £3500 a month, bupa home, nice food and staff. aunt was very happy there. a diamond ring went missing along with some clothes but never found out what happened to those, was told she probably threw ring on floor and it got hoovered up....i dont believe that.

We have a posh Signature one opened near ilus. Standard dementia care is £1800/week, more if they need nursing care or more one to one.
My dad's was £1500 for dementia nursing a few years ago. I think they wanted £1800 but it was being paid for by the NHS so they got them down to £1500. It went onto special measures not long after he died.

Good thread, it would be useful to include area to so we can see the regional differences in prices.

My gran's in a lovely little nursing home. Its £1200 a week but the staff are very attentative and they do have entertainment too. They also take then out to the shop to get things if they need/want to go. She seems really happy there and the way care has become she's lucky to find somewhere so nice.

£1800 a week for my relative (selling their house to pay fees)

Very happy with the care, relative is reluctantto leave their room but a member of staff sits to chat with them and feeds them etc.

Choice of bedroom, lovely large window etc, ensuite bathroom, hairdresser comes to the room.

We can ring anytime for updates and speak to our relative but we need to book this but it's always fine

A grandparent has been staying in a 'needs improvement' (or similarly phrased) CQC rated care home for the last 3 years. Her fees are paid for as she has no estate and is technically detained under DoL after having been sectioned.

She gets a small room with a bed and a chair with a private toilet and sink. The room is unkempt and unclean. Food is provided but it is typically sandwiches every day and things like the cakes are bought from Costo, etc. No toiletries, pads, linen, etc are all self-supplied. There is no external entertainment, no trips out and all services (chiropody, hairdresser, etc) are all paid extras.

Whenever I visit you can always hear one or two residents constantly calling out for help the whole time I'm there. There always seems to be a high turnover of staff.

It's a sad place.

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That is very sad.

We’re in the north west.
£990 for dementia specialist care (but more if they need more nursing care).
it’s a small place and the staff are fantastic, really get to know each person. You can call anytime. Activities 6 days a week.
Small rooms but big enough for what they need.
we are very happy with it.

Mums home is in Cheshire.
The owners are a lovely couple.
They own 3 homes in Cheshire.

@DuvetDownn The old saying "you get what you pay for".

If we had the money we would obviously choose better for her, but she was relocated from 2 other homes before this one due to her aggressive and challenging behaviour towards staff and other residents, so even if we went private I don't think she'd be welcome in many places.

£1,050 a week in a village in the south west. Dementia care but not a nursing home. Basic but so lovely, staff seem attentive, meals included, day room (not for guests).

That sounds quite good value tbh.

I am expecting a fee rise but currently my parent pays £750 per week shared room and in dementia led care home. Bathrooms are shared between several rooms.

Meals and entertainment included but not toiletries and hairdresser etc. Large garden. Two lounge areas. One has dining facilities in.

Staff are lovely. The manager is very hands on and knows each resident personally.

They will charge a taxi fare to take to appointments.

f we had the money we would obviously choose better for her, but she was relocated from 2 other homes before this one due to her aggressive and challenging behaviour towards staff and other residents, so even if we went private I don't think she'd be welcome in many places
I understand, my DM got tuned down from a few homes and I’m praying she doesn’t get thrown out if her current one.