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Anyone else got a DH who is rubbish at DIY

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soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:02

DH is an electrician to trade. He's got tools galore. He works in a clinical environment where work has to be exact, clean and up to standard.

So why the actual fuck can he not even seal the bath without making a complete hash of it. It's a bloody mess. Silicone all over taps, looks like our 9 year old has done it. He didn't fill the bath with water or use masking tape. He didn't even scrape off all the discoloured old sealant. FFS.

I'm shit at DIY and think I'd have done a better job.

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cheese? · 06/03/2023 22:08

With such a supportive wife it's a wonder he doesn't try harder

Dacadactyl · 06/03/2023 22:13

My husband isn't handy at all. It's been quite an adjustment for me actually. My dad is extremely handy and only ever pays professionals when he absolutely has to (because it'd be illegal if he tried to do the wiring or whatever). If it wasn't illegal, my dad would learn how to do whatever it was himself.

I have struggled with DH over the years cos I just think "my dad would know how to do that", but then not everyone's the same.

But I grew up thinking all men were shit hot at DIY, which is not the case!

drpet49 · 06/03/2023 22:14

Why didn’t you just do it since you have all the answers?????

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Coffeellama · 06/03/2023 22:16

Why does the man need to be the one that’s good at DIY? What’s your excuse for being crap at it? If you can do better crack on and do it yourself, I’d neither of you can do it then pay someone or stop criticising the one who’s given it a go at least.

Lostinplaces · 06/03/2023 22:17

Learn to do it yourself. Don’t be a dick.

Thinkwicebeforeyouleavemylife · 06/03/2023 22:17

You're being quite unkind! Why not do it yourself :)

Daffodilsandbeer · 06/03/2023 22:19

You’re going to have to give more details, if you could’ve done so much better why didn’t you,

do you often like to abuse your partner for not doing things to your standards or is this a new thjng?

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soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:19

I'm shit at DIY. I accept I'm shit at DIY. I therefore don't DIY.

DH thinks he's good at DIY. The state of our bath suggests otherwise.

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Dacadactyl · 06/03/2023 22:20

Does he look at the bayh and think he's done a good job? Or does he reckon he's bodged it? What has he said about it?

Daffodilsandbeer · 06/03/2023 22:21

soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:19

I'm shit at DIY. I accept I'm shit at DIY. I therefore don't DIY.

DH thinks he's good at DIY. The state of our bath suggests otherwise.

Wow, you’re a little charmer aren’t you

MrBusiness · 06/03/2023 22:21

Dh is dispraxic and I have adhd and we are both utterly useless at diy (and adulting in general) :(

mrsmacmc · 06/03/2023 22:22

My DH is crap at DIY too and freely admits it. Either I do it or if it's beyond my skills we pay our tame handyman!

Spiderboy · 06/03/2023 22:23

Then clean it up and do it yourself. You aren’t shit at DIY. You just don’t want to try. Give it a go

YukoandHiro · 06/03/2023 22:24

Neither of us can do it. We know our weakness and throw money at the problem. Better the us botching it then having to pay twice as much to get the problem fixed.

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soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:26

Dacadactyl · 06/03/2023 22:20

Does he look at the bayh and think he's done a good job? Or does he reckon he's bodged it? What has he said about it?

I've not broached the subject yet. He was pretty pleased with himself for "sorting the bath" when I came home from work. Sigh.

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qpmz · 06/03/2023 22:27

It's not his thing and it's not your thing. Why didn't you get someone in to do it?

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soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:28

mrsmacmc · 06/03/2023 22:22

My DH is crap at DIY too and freely admits it. Either I do it or if it's beyond my skills we pay our tame handyman!

A tame handyman is exactly what we need.

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Dacadactyl · 06/03/2023 22:28

@soupmaker I think it's perfectly fine to tell him that you're happy hes made an effort to look at the bath, but that you'd really appreciate it if he could have another look at the finish because there's odd bits you feel could be improved on. Just be constructive with it and see what he says.

mybunniesandme · 06/03/2023 22:29

He's an electrician not a mastic sealant contractor presumably. You sound very ungrateful. Do it yourself or pay an expert

FYI mastic is harder than it looks.

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soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:30

qpmz · 06/03/2023 22:27

It's not his thing and it's not your thing. Why didn't you get someone in to do it?

Cost, mostly. Not having a "tame handyman" to hand. And the leak that appeared in our kitchen today which meant it needed sorted ASAP.

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Suprima · 06/03/2023 22:30

What weird fucking responses on this thread..

he’s done a shit job because he DOESN’T CARE and it would take more time for the prep work and finishing off

so slapdash it is

no electrician can possibly be bad at minimal DIY jobs. There are so many skills and such attention to detail needed to be a sparky. If his finish was so shocking on the job with wires and outlets, people wouldn’t pay nor bring him into jobs or dare risk complaints

it’s weaponised incompetence - nothing more

Jaffajiffy · 06/03/2023 22:32

My DH is shite so I do it. Or pay someone to do it. It is such a shock when someone is around who can do stuff. My brother in law was here at Christmas and helped me with two things that made me wistfully wish I’d gone for someone handier (not him)

CrotchetyCrocheting · 06/03/2023 22:34

Dacadactyl · 06/03/2023 22:13

My husband isn't handy at all. It's been quite an adjustment for me actually. My dad is extremely handy and only ever pays professionals when he absolutely has to (because it'd be illegal if he tried to do the wiring or whatever). If it wasn't illegal, my dad would learn how to do whatever it was himself.

I have struggled with DH over the years cos I just think "my dad would know how to do that", but then not everyone's the same.

But I grew up thinking all men were shit hot at DIY, which is not the case!

This is me. My dad has roofed, plumbed, put electrics, heating systems etc into houses. You name it he does it. I kind of grew up thinking that this was just how men were Hmm It sounds stupid now looking back! Dh is the exact opposite so I do everything. I have my dad to call if it all goes arseways or I need his advice but it is me that does everything in our house.

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soupmaker · 06/03/2023 22:35

I think you hit the nail on the head @Suprima He didn't want to do it today because he's off shift and had other plans.

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Coffeellama · 06/03/2023 22:35

Suprima · 06/03/2023 22:30

What weird fucking responses on this thread..

he’s done a shit job because he DOESN’T CARE and it would take more time for the prep work and finishing off

so slapdash it is

no electrician can possibly be bad at minimal DIY jobs. There are so many skills and such attention to detail needed to be a sparky. If his finish was so shocking on the job with wires and outlets, people wouldn’t pay nor bring him into jobs or dare risk complaints

it’s weaponised incompetence - nothing more

Weaponised incompetence?

What weird fucking responses on this thread..

Yep il say 😂