How do you find out where a funeral is being held?

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This is on behalf of my stepdaughter, whose beloved step-grandad passed recently.
In the last couple of years, after he was widowed, he had formed a new relationship, and his new partner didn't consider her to be his family even though he brought her up and was very close to her. He was the only male parent/grandparent in her life.

She's a very kind and thoughtful girl and she's knocked sideways by his passing.
She'd love to attend his funeral to pay her respects and say goodbye.

She knows where he was living when he died - are funerals advertised anywhere these days? It used to as simple as checking the classifieds in the local papers.

Grateful for any tips.

How did she find out he had died?

I did ask but there wasn’t a reply.

Well over a hundred funerals?! Is it your job? That seems like a wild number of funerals to have attended!

Nothing to do with my job, but I went to my first funeral, as a teen 40 something years ago.

If you belong to communities where there are adults of all ages, then it isn't uncommon (by the time you add in parents, Aunts, uncles etc who are family) to attend 3 or more a year.

Unfortunately, I've been to 3 funerals so far in 2023.

Those who think people don't get invited to funerals clearly never had to organise one during Covid.

Outside of Covid, the invitation usually comes in the form of being told when and where the funeral is taking place.

Check his local crematorium diary if it's a cremation. It'll be online. Or just call each undertaker on that area. They'll tell you if they're handling it.

Also funerals are for anyone that wants to pay their last respects. Never experienced one that required invitation. Crematoriums and cemeteries are public places. You can attend then leave.

I hope you’ve found an answer to your question OP. A friend of mine posted on FB all details about her her mum’s upcoming funeral. The post was public so it’s worth checking.

It's often in the local paper but that's dying out now. Ask at the funeral parlours nearby

also stalk social media

Noone ever gets an invite to a funeral a notice goes out. They are a matter of public record. You can't ban someone from one either

You can have a private funeral, I was at one a few weeks ago, not published in the paper or online, not even on the board at the crem, I got a fright as I thought I was in the wrong place. By invitation only.

A notice sent out by whom? We invite people to funerals in my family: service and wake only, burial or cremation for immediate family only. It doesn’t go in the paper. We invite the people we want to be there. It’s not a free-for-all. I’m aware it is in other cultures but not everyone is the same!

people saying you can’t ban someone from a funeral are showing a cultural and religious bias and presuming there will be a funeral service in a church. a church service that happens to be a funeral would indeed be open to the public. There are many other funerals that would not. For example, we held my mother’s funeral in a reception room at a private club.

you can likely find out the details by looking at the individual websites for local funeral homes near where he lived. Instead of newspapers running obituaries, the funeral home websites now host them as part of their service.

Funerals don't have to be public events, otherwise direct cremation wouldn't be a thing.