You get one hour in a room with a person of your choice. Who do you choose and what do you do?

[WinterDream]

This is a scenario I think of sometimes: you get one hour in a sealed room with a person of your choice. You can do anything you want for that time and neither of you can ever disclose what you did/spoke about to anyone else.

Who do you take and how do you spend the time? I can't quite decide - I'm guessing a lot of people might use it as a hall pass or to confront someone they've always wanted to confront, though I suppose it could get a bit tense to do the latter!

My dad. He died in 2000, so there is so much that has happened in the intervening years that I'd love to be able to tell him - his grandsons getting their degrees, one getting married and the arrival of their first baby, the second grandson following him into maths teaching - and so much more.

@HartstoneHomme I wish you could have that opportunity.

I'm torn between my Grandma, who died when I was 12, and my Dad, who died 4 years ago. I miss them.both loads.

If we're not allowed dead people, then possibly David Cameron so I can tell him exactly what I think of his decision to hold a referendum on the EU.

Or I'll just go straight for the perv option and ask for Gabriel Byrne

My DS who has vanished. I'd hug him and listen to him.

I immediately though of my husband. We never get time to ourselves, our teen suffers with depression and doesn't leave the house. I'd just like some normal not-completely-silent sex with my darling man.

My mum. The last time I saw her was in late March 2020 as she was being put into the ambulance, looking scared. I just want to be able to tell her that I love her and I wish I could have been there for her when she died 2 days later. There are so many things I want to say to her, but never got the chance.

I choose my BIL
In the hour, I will commit murder.

We are NC with him and have been for years, but I do know that he continues to bully everyone he comes into contact with. He destroys people’s lives. Over and over and over. He is very good looking and that’s how he gets new victims and gets away with it time and time again.

Assuming living or dead, it has to be Olivia Newton John without a doubt! I'd love her to sing a few of her earlier "country" songs and do a finale of Xanadu! In between, just sit and chat, and have a few laughs, I'm sure she'd have lots of funny stories to tell of her life and , maybe a short period of meditation/contemplation in between songs and chatting, and she could sign a few posters/record sleeves that I have! She was such a genuine and "nice" person, no-one ever had a bad thing to say about her. It's my one regret in life that I never saw her live in concert, but I did meet her in person once, in a shopping centre toilet of all places, back in the early 70s when she was living in London - just a couple of minutes of small talk, but I could feel her "love and light" shining through, even in the ladies' loo! She was a beautiful person inside and out, and even a few minutes with her would be priceless.

David Cameron and I'm carrying a baseball bat.

My mum. She died when I was v v young so I feel like I've never really met her. I'd probably just want a long hug and to cry.

God that sounds miserable. Sorry.

A Billy Hargrove/ David lost boys sandwich and that's about as much as I can say 🤪🥰🤤

TW suicide and coercive control

Firstly i would like a quarter of an hour with my late ex husband. I’d like to ask him why in all his carefully laid plans to end his life he didn’t see fit to write our DD (then 13) any kind of note or acknowledgment of her existence. I’m not going to reveal all the sordid details but he deliberately arranged a scenario where it would be his brother who found him after several weeks . I’d tell him that his daughter has grown up to be an amazing young woman who is striving hard in life, despite the actions of her so called father. I would tell him that I won’t ever forgive him for how he cast her aside , less important than his fucking guitars.

id like to take another quarter of an hour with my late DP who similarly ended his life but did so in a huge confusion of drink and drugs on the first night of our first family holiday. I would want to tell him that despite his deliberate bad and selfish choices we’ve put ourselves back together and nearly seven years on he doesn’t take up space in my head anymore. I’d tell him that I see him what he was and that no man will ever treat me like that again and even though his death was very traumatic at the time I might even tell him that he did us all a favour when he leapt off a balcony. I’ve never said this out loud before. The psychiatrist who I saw afterwards declared the manner of his suicide to be the epitome of abusive behaviour.
Actually, five minutes is enough with him.

i know that suicide is complicated and different for everyone, these are only my experiences and I don’t extrapolate my specific feelings about these two deaths to other people taking their own lives, if that makes sense.

id spend the remaining time with my late Mum , asking her about her childhood in Ireland and her living in London in the sixties. I’d also like my very much alive sister with us as I rarely see her (geography and disabilities ) and I miss her a lot.

And I am happily single and intend to stay that way for as long I shall live.

The love of my life who died 25 years ago. He never knew 😢

Ok, you win

Oooh love him. He'd be pure filth 😁

I'd choose my beautiful late Sister who took her own life in 2013. I want to ask her so many questions and tell her so much that has happened since the. I miss her so much, we spoke and texted all day every day, saying good morning and night night at the beginning and end of each day. ❤️

My Ex....and a small penknife....

Oh I’m so sorry to hear that, that really struck a chord with me. How long has he been gone?

My best friend who died in our early 20s, a long time ago now. I'd hug her and tell her about my children laugh like I haven't since I last saw her.

i realise I sound bitter and angry but in reality i don’t think so much about them. But when I do , I do feel angry about how they left their children.

I can understand that! I was born in the late 60s so he was a bit before my time but I've been brought up on the music from that era and have loved him for as long as I can remember.

Lord Lucan. I'd ask him if it was him that killed the nanny and more importantly, where did he go and what happened to him.

I’d love to have my dad back for an hour…just for a chat and a hug.

If we’re talking famous people, Andy Warhol…I’d take a laptop and show him the internet, social media and reality TV and blow his mind!

My gran. She died at Christmas and I hadn't seen her for around 3yrs. She suddenly cut off almost everyone.

I don't understand how we could go from being close to her being happy to never see us again. She never met my 2 young children but I've since found out she talked about them constantly and had my DD photo in pride of place. I wish I'd have done more and said more.

Or my other gran who died when I was 15. We never had chance for a deep conversation about her life and experiences.

I misread that as Mary Berry and was momentarily confused before re-reading

My grandma she brought me up and died a number of years ago, I'd like one last hug and talk as I don't remember her voice 😢

If I can't bring people back from the dead, the room needs to have a kitchen and I'd love an amazing meal cooked by an amazing chef, maybe Raymond blanc? As he always seems fun and happy on his shows to chat with while he cooks. Get cooking man you have an hour!