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Wearing period pants every day between cycles. Yes or no?

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BrightSparkInTheDark · 26/02/2023 08:38

Are there any down sides (aside from the expense) of wearing period pants every day between periods? DD15 has ASD and is severely anxious about having to deal with periods at school to the point she’s struggling to attend (she’s not in MS). Her periods are not yet regular.

She feels secure if she has protection from period pants and it makes her life easier; she also finds them comfortable. I’m planning to order her multiple pairs of high protection pants to wear every day between cycles to help her.

DH thinks I’m mad. Are there any reasons this is not a good idea?

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BrightSparkInTheDark · 26/02/2023 09:42

Thank you for all of these helpful replies. She does track her periods, they are just too irregular to fathom at the moment. Switching to period pants 10 days after one could work and would cut down on usage.

I will also look at re useable pads.

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Bauhausstolemyhair · 26/02/2023 09:42

My ex H objected to costs like this. Note the word ex.
DD needs to wear what makes her comfortable.

Lordofthebutterfloofs · 26/02/2023 09:43

Could washable pads work?

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BrightSparkInTheDark · 26/02/2023 09:44

DH will of course go with whatever DD needs, he is balking at the expense but he knows it will be better for DD and will oblige with his card <grin>

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DorotheaHomeAlone · 26/02/2023 09:45

Do all the people agreeing with you on this thread actually wear these pants? I use them on my periods and they are very much not breathable. I’d be really concerned that she’d end up with thrush or similar which could definitely exacerbate your problem by making her very wary of the pants altogether.

Magenta82 · 26/02/2023 09:47

DorotheaHomeAlone · 26/02/2023 09:45

Do all the people agreeing with you on this thread actually wear these pants? I use them on my periods and they are very much not breathable. I’d be really concerned that she’d end up with thrush or similar which could definitely exacerbate your problem by making her very wary of the pants altogether.

I wear them, the breathability depends on the brand. I am fine with the ones I have and to me they are more breathable than some of the synthetic knickers some women wear.

pizzaHeart · 26/02/2023 09:50

forgot to add that my DD wears a liner before periods as she generally uses pads , she doesn’t like the feel of period pants so only wear them for specific activity a few hours. And as she’s got additional needs too sensory aspect is big for her.I also suspect she doesn’t believe that they are ok for the whole day and worries about leaking.
Your DH doesn’t have a say in period management for sure. He can’t even imagine how stressful and humiliating periods might be.

I’m sure we can find something in his spendings which might be cut to leave more money for period pants. Just give us the list OP.

viques · 26/02/2023 09:53

She will eventually be having regular periods every month for the next however many years, so will be using period pants for a long time ( though probably not the same ones for 40years) so it’s not as though they will be thrown away every couple of weeks. She will get the use out of them so the cost is justified on that score alone.

More seriously I would also ask your OH what price he puts on her mental health, her education, her socialisation and her confidence with her changing body , be interesting if he can put a figure on it.

DancingDaughter50 · 26/02/2023 09:55

Apparently some brands have a certain chemical in them that a poster on here was warning about

MaryJean87 · 26/02/2023 10:03

Do they lose absorbency if they are overwashed?That's the only issue I can think of. I'm looking at period pants for my own daughter with ASD when the time comes as I think she's going to struggle to cope and they sound like a good idea.

NoSquirrels · 26/02/2023 10:05

Cheeky have 25% off everything this weekend, OP.

itsgettingweird · 26/02/2023 10:07

I had a period for 82 days that went on a cycle of 22 hours 14 hours off and 8 hours bleeding.

When bleeding I flooded through 2 layers in 20 minutes so wore period pants all the time to catch the sudden start of the flooding. It was fine.

When I started northisterone I was anxious about still bleeding suddenly and continued wearing them for months until I'd relaxed.

It was fine.

As someone said they are also designed to absorb urine so I can't think of any reason it's bad. Especially if she wears cotton pants at home the rest of the time.

Hope she manages to relax about it soon. My ds is autistic and it's horrible seeing the things they get worried over.

Fernanfrank · 26/02/2023 10:08

My mum wear a then everyday for her light incontinence issues so it's not a problem at all.

You 'D'h downs ther a day in how your teenage daughter manager her periods and expert around it.

Tryingwithheart · 26/02/2023 10:09

Look up the brand first as I believe there is a few to be found using PFAs which people believe can lead to infertility.

itsgettingweird · 26/02/2023 10:10

And remind DH that the dla is designed for exactly this type of thing - the extra costs involved in managing a disability.

gettingolderandgrumpier · 26/02/2023 10:11

It wouldn’t even be a subject I’d discuss with dh if he even passed comment he’d be shot down in an instance with when you start your periods you can pass comment.

Fernanfrank · 26/02/2023 10:11

Or that should say...

You 'D'h doesn't get a say in how your teenage daughter manages her periods and her anxiety around it.

doadeer · 26/02/2023 10:12

I can't see why not. I have erratic cycles on contraceptive injection so I wear Modi Body ones a lot. No downside to me. If it gives her peace of mind and you can afford it, it's a good easy fix.

No offence but what would DH know?

7eleven · 26/02/2023 10:14

I wear them every day, for very slight urge incontinence. No problems at all and find them extremely comfortable. I wear modibodi.

doadeer · 26/02/2023 10:15

Just read your updates. It's worth the expense to remove an easy source of stress for her. DH has no idea how anxiety provoking it can be to start a period at school, I'm not autistic and I used to feel so anxious. It's a no brainer to me.

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BrightSparkInTheDark · 26/02/2023 10:19

An interesting thought about the chemicals used in some pants. The only brand we have found to suit are ModiBodi and having just looked they are, according to their website PFA free.

Thank you for the Cheeky Wipes nod, unfortunately DD did not get on with the materials in those.

I’ve discussed with DD about wearing the pants regularly and she’s feeling relieved. Initially she wants to wear them daily and then she will swap to 10 days after once she’s got the hang of dealing with them (she’s only on to her third period). It is such a big thing when you have sensory aversions.

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WeCome1 · 26/02/2023 10:19

I find DD needs 5 pairs when she just uses them for her period. You maybe only need about three more to make it enough for everyday use, depending on your washing habits. Yes they will wear out more quickly I suppose, but her shape may change, the problem may lessen.

WeCome1 · 26/02/2023 10:20

Chemicals? Jeez. That’s crap. I didn’t know about them.
Thanks for the heads up.

GoodChat · 26/02/2023 10:21

I think people are being unfair to DH here. He's her parent too. If he was a single dad and left her to find her own way through her periods he'd be slated.

Thetigerateit · 26/02/2023 10:22

Do you receive any DLA for DD? I imagine this would fall under an extra cost due to disability if so.