How do you cope with being unpopular?

[Nofriendzone]

A couple of women I thought were fairly good friends are having milestone birthdays this year (as am I). They’re both having large celebrations, inviting mutual friends, workmates and acquaintances, but I’m not invited.

This keeps happening.

I think I’m ‘good’ friends with someone, they confide in me, are warm and friendly but when it comes to anything social I’m overlooked.

It’s like there’s an invisible barrier. I don’t think they’re doing any of it deliberately, they simply don’t think of me beyond when I’m right there.

It is starting to upset me so much. I was thinking of having a birthday celebration of my own for the big one but I honestly don’t think anyone would come.

If this sounds familiar to anyone, have you managed to come to terms with it and if so how?

I just feel so sad and pathetic right now.

The most useful thing anyone ever said to me about friendships/relationships was ‘you don’t need (or want) to be everyone’s cup of tea; you just need to be a few people’s shot of whisky’

These people aren’t your friends, but your tribe is out there. You just need to find them.

Thanks for all your thoughts. Lots make sense to me, I think maybe I need to reassess my perception.

I don’t really want a big group of friends, I just wish I wasn’t invisible. But hey ho, such is life.

Thanks again, I will take some time to think over the comments and advice so probably won’t be back to the thread to comment much if at all. I do appreciate you taking the time to chat though!