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Male car driver had it in for me what can I do? Worried.

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Agosleeflorrick · 21/02/2023 15:22

A couple of days ago I pissed off another car driver by committing a heinous crime - he was cutting through my road and had to wait a few seconds whilst I reversed into my drive. He was going ballistic, swearing & hand gestures.

Yesterday same thing happened, I’m reversing into my drive meaning his quick cut through plan (to avoid traffic lights) was delayed as he had to wait the 2 seconds for me to get in my drive. More screaming and gestures.

On way home from picking my DS up from football club last night he was driving past me and started gesturing and swearing at me.

I have just driven to friends house and I saw his car on opposite side of road - it’s a distinct colour and yes it was him. He decided to start manically beeping at me even though I was just minding my own business.

I now feel I am being targeted and this is going to keep on happening. Last night I was worrying I’d see him again today and as it’s a small town and he cuts through my road several times a day it means this will keep on happening and of course he knows where I live.

He has a camera in the front of his car so it will be recording all this. I don’t have a camera in my car.

If I report to non emergency police will they even care? Im worried this will escalate things further. Kept worrying last night he was going to come to my house and smash my car up or worse.

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smooththecat · 21/02/2023 15:25

He’s insane and you should def. file an online report. Any chance you can be reversing one day with someone with a penis in the car? You might get a different reaction…

Triflenot · 21/02/2023 15:26

I’d. be tempted to get my own dash cam OP

MithrilCostsMore · 21/02/2023 15:27

Get your own dash cam

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Agosleeflorrick · 21/02/2023 15:27

My DH said he will get a camera for our car which I guess may deter him when he sees it. I haven’t got his reg number just recognise the bright colour of his car which is quite rare.

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BitOutOfPractice · 21/02/2023 15:27

God what a dickhead he is. I’d be worried too. I think I’d call the police to ask advice if you feel scared. And get a dash cam if you can afford it.

I mean, the cheek of you, using your own drive like that!

smooththecat · 21/02/2023 15:29

I’d be tempted to stop my car across the road whilst reversing and get out to confront him about being a rat-runner and general anti-social c*, videoing on my phone. But probably best not to engage.

LakeTiticaca · 21/02/2023 15:34

Get a dashcam and also report him to the police for harassment and threatening behaviour. Pretty much guaranteed the arse wouldn't do it to a male driver 😡

kitsuneghost · 21/02/2023 15:37

I get this on my road a lot. It is a through road and people use it as a shortcut so get super annoyed at being held up. I just take a little longer to get parked if they are being twats.

GoldDuster · 21/02/2023 15:43

Next time you see him try to concentrate on getting his reg, and phone it in to the police. It's unlikely to come to anything, but that might help you feel a bit better about it. Honestly, angry men behind the wheel do my absolute nut in, they are vile.

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Agosleeflorrick · 21/02/2023 15:50

Well just saw him driving again - my nerves are in shreds. He must be doing the school run as I’m seeing him every morning and afternoon and sometimes in between.

I hate how he makes me feel. Driving home I had a plan to park outside my neighbours house (4 doors up) she’s a police officer, if he was behind me in the car. I even drove home a different way.

God I hate this. I’m a middle aged mother of 3 not some little mouse but he really scares me.

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GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 21/02/2023 15:57

I recommend a friend’s tactic. Some road rage idiot was cutting her up, then blocked her way and came steaming over, red faced and spitting with fury.

What he hadn’t reckoned with was her huge Newfoundland dog (incidentally called Hero) who’d been dozing in the back, sitting bolt upright and telling the bloke in very deep, baritone woofs, exactly how he’d like to tear him limb from limb.

She didn’t see the bloke for dust. 😂

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Agosleeflorrick · 21/02/2023 16:00

getting I love that!! Unfortunately we don’t have a dog, but what a great idea.

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Dodie66 · 21/02/2023 16:00

Have you talked to your neighbour who ins a police officer? Maybe she could be around when you get home. Arrange for her to meet you. If he saw her it might put him off

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Agosleeflorrick · 21/02/2023 16:02

dodie she’s not really a friend, just someone I talk to casually & don’t really want to have to put her in that position. I’m friendly with all my neighbours so might mention it to some, that way if I randomly park on their drive or something (if he’s following me) they’ll know why.

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HurryShadow · 21/02/2023 16:04

Get a camera, report him and keep reporting him each time, saving evidence on your own camera each time. You won't be the first person he's done this too, so the more reports they get, the more likely they are to do something about it. Particularly if you've got video evidence.

The bloke clearly has a screw loose or is just a classic "angry man". Honestly - can life really be happy being that angry all the time?!

I had a guy like that behind me once - he was trying to use a short cut/cut through to get somewhere quicker and hated the fact that I was doing 20mph on a 20mph road, and slowing for the ridiculously big speed humps that my bumper grounded out on if I went any faster than 15mph on. (It was a 20mph zone with speed humps because the residents had got fed up with it being used as a rat run... what a surprise!).

He too was flashing and gesticulating wildly, wanting me to speed up.

As I was then using the same route as him, he got even more angry, which quite frankly only made me stick to the speed limit more.

When we got to a fork in the road, he sped off down the route that I'd not taken.

What he failed to realise though, was that the route I'd taken was quicker and I hit a run of pure luck in the next road, as I turned out without traffic, whereas he got caught up in some and had to pull out right behind me again! He was so pissed off! Eventually he went a different route to me, but flashed and beeped at me when he did so.

Pardon me for obeying the laws of the road!

LadyOfTheFliessssss · 21/02/2023 16:12

Get a dash cam and in the meantime, try to get his registration.

You might even be able to wangle a discount on your insurance with a dash cam or it could end up being super useful in the future.

Hopefully he's just overconfident because he's in a car and it won't escalate, although I appreciate it must be horrible enough as it is.

BMW6 · 21/02/2023 16:32
  1. Get his registration number and report to Police on 101 because he's being intimidating
  1. Fit the dashcam
WhereIsMumHiding3 · 21/02/2023 16:37

Get a dash cam for front and back of your car , ideally with sound

This is really affecting you

Once you've recorded his behaviour , you can report to police, make a statement - write dates times and behaviour- and email them a digital copy of the videos you have which will support your statements

Because he's doing it with a car repeatedly , there may be more offences than harassment involved as it's effectively road rage behaviour

WhereIsMumHiding3 · 21/02/2023 16:45

speedytests.co.uk/blog/is-road-rage-a-criminal-offence

Hmmm
I didn't think that road rage in itself was a criminal offence but is prosecuted under other motoring legislation such as careless or dangerous driving etc including threatening behaviour and gesticulating

It's worse that it's repeated road rage from this aggressive man

Have you any witnesses ? That could make a statement if not some cctv or dash cam evidence should be sufficient

Please don't get out to confront him or respond as sounds like it would escalate

BitOutOfPractice · 21/02/2023 16:50

So he’s behaving like this with his kids on the car at least half the time. What a man eh?

Twizbe · 21/02/2023 16:57

Report him and report every act of intimidation.

I reported a road rage incident once and the police officer told me that the reports all add to someone's file. These sorts of people will often have a few reports on them and eventually they will have enough to act.

Jericha · 21/02/2023 16:59

Similar happened to my friend, she kept seeing him on her way home from work after the first run in and he was acting the same as the idiot you keep encountering. She called 101, she gave them his registration, police paid him a visit. She's not had any bother since.

CalistoNoSolo · 21/02/2023 17:00

Don't change your behaviour because of this squitty little shit of a man. You need to woman up because if he thinks he's getting to you he will get worse. Get the dash cam, get a rear cam too so you're completely covered. Get his reg number the next time you see the car. Report every time he behaves like this, in the meantime ignore his pathetic gesturing and rage and if you see him act as if he doesn't exist.

Redglitter · 21/02/2023 17:05

You'll need to get his car registration number. Without it there's no point reporting it because there's nothing that can be done.

Get it & absolutely report him. His behaviour is appaling & not normal.

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Agosleeflorrick · 21/02/2023 17:07

OK thanks for all the advice. I will try and get his reg number - I’m sure I will see him in his car cutting through my road tomorrow 🤦🏻‍♀️ and yes I do need to woman up! So far I haven’t reacted to him but this seems to annoy him more!

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