Male car driver had it in for me what can I do? Worried.

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A couple of days ago I pissed off another car driver by committing a heinous crime - he was cutting through my road and had to wait a few seconds whilst I reversed into my drive. He was going ballistic, swearing & hand gestures.

Yesterday same thing happened, I’m reversing into my drive meaning his quick cut through plan (to avoid traffic lights) was delayed as he had to wait the 2 seconds for me to get in my drive. More screaming and gestures.

On way home from picking my DS up from football club last night he was driving past me and started gesturing and swearing at me.

I have just driven to friends house and I saw his car on opposite side of road - it’s a distinct colour and yes it was him. He decided to start manically beeping at me even though I was just minding my own business.

I now feel I am being targeted and this is going to keep on happening. Last night I was worrying I’d see him again today and as it’s a small town and he cuts through my road several times a day it means this will keep on happening and of course he knows where I live.

He has a camera in the front of his car so it will be recording all this. I don’t have a camera in my car.

If I report to non emergency police will they even care? Im worried this will escalate things further. Kept worrying last night he was going to come to my house and smash my car up or worse.

Can you and DH swap cars for a bit so he's not just recognising your car and being a dick?

You need to get his reg for police to find him - jot it down next time - and yes police will have a word

If you're really struggling to see it, at least remember the numbers because that will tell you when it was manufactured which will narrow it down quite a bit.

It's easier to remember a registration if you keep repeating it out loud, look for patterns in the letters that might help you remember it, and try to remember the letters as words. The phonetic alphabet if you can but just anything that starts with those letters will help it stay until you can write it down.

Take a photo of his car next time it goes past you and fill out an online form from your local police (photo of reg no). I once reported someone for shouting abuse at me and said he was a policeman. Turns out (obviously) that he wasn’t. The police didn’t do anything because it was my word against his, but confirmed he wasn’t an officer and would keep an eye out.
Fill out a form every time something happens.

Feeling worried I’ll see him today ☹️

Oh he sounds a right idiot

He'll get bored of it soon...honestly if he's that easily enraged he must be in a feud with half the town!!!!

What would be great though is to see him with his wife or mum and ask him in front of them why he does this.

You have a plan for today OP, if you see him note the reg number & car description & time & location.
Each time you do encounter him don't engage, just make sure doors are locked, windows up & just keep doing what you need to. His behaviour is not your fault.
Keep up this log, get a dash cam, report.

In a way, if you do see him today it'll be a good thing because you might be able to get his car registration.

Scary and unpleasant in the moment, but giving an opportunity to stop him doing this to you and other women in future.

Hope you manage to get his registration number today... He sounds a right cockwomble... Wonder if he would behave like that if he had his wife and or children in the car?

elder sometimes he does have his kids in the car, seems to make no difference!

Ask the police for advice. You don’t have to storm round demanding they arrest him, just explain that you’re being harassed and intimidated by this driver and are scared of what he’ll do next ans don’t know what to do and what would they advise.

Hopefully they’ll have a quiet word with him.

Get a dash cam in case it continues and perhaps a Ring doorbell so if he comes on your driveway to damage your car it would be caught on video?