Hes coming out of prison

[Notsogreat23]

Dds ex is coming out of prison in a few days. He went in for domestic violence. He originally got 9 months. That's automatically halfed. But then he broke restraining order whilst in prison. He got gate arrested and went back to prison. He was then let out briefly on licence but broke the conditions so back to prison. Basically he ended up doing 2 years.

Both me and Dd had to be housed under life in danger. There was a silver lining with that one as there were housing issues anyway.

My kids schools have all been made aware of her ex coming out of prison. And sent a photo of him. My 12 year old has been given a paper with a picture of him . That if he tries to approach her, she has to show it to a shop keeper or simlar it says that that the male pictured is a danger. Please can she wait in the shop until its safe.

Hes also told his probation officer that he actually knows where DD lives. When he was questioned further he did not give anymore information. He does play alot of mind games so hoping it's that . As a safety measure DD place is going to have an extra strong door. And locks . Also a button thing that directs to the police . Her address will also have a marker which means police will be fast to get to her.

It feels kind of scary now I wrote it down.
I know when he gets out he has to go to the housing department. From meetings its been said he won't be put close to the borough. I pray they put him very very far . I also pray he vanishes from the face if the earth 😭

How is he sending her pictures? How on earth did he get her phone number?

He does not have her number. Its other forms of social media

Shes kind of scared not to look. Because she would rather see if he says anything that could put her at risk.

I’m sure you have done all of this and I haven’t read the full thread but …

I would get your local MP & local councilor involved with anything regarding the council rehousing as the council on its own are hopeless .

get cctv ring doorbell
& buy an Alexa because if you link to the ring doorbell Alexa will notify the moment anyone comes near the house

I would get one for the front and back if you can
also a few motion sensor spotlights that come on when activated

I would also seal up the letter box and have an outside mail box - men like him can’t handle rejection of any type and will often go to extreme lengths to get what they want

window locks and locks on bedroom doors with keys so that you can lock your self in the bedroom
spare phone on charge or panic alarm button in the bedroom or other areas of the house

a Apple tag or tile and find my phone would also be useful for your daughter so she can be tracked easily if necessary

i know this sounds extreme but think and plan for the worse is the advice I was given

make sure the restraining order has distance included ( Sometimes it can just be a no contact order ) which is no good as no real punishment and it’s hard to define what is “no contact “

I recently successfully went to crown court and got a variation of a restraining order to include 100 meters distance of myself and the street that I live in as well as no contact ,

I basically emailed the judges chambers and asked for advice

The Judge was absolutely brilliant and we had a hearing and it was until further notice so basically no end date unless I or thr
asshole neighbour asks for a variation which is exceptionally unlikely

and this was for a neighbours
not a ex partner
neighbour lost his council house as he can’t ever return to the street

he didn’t break the order himself but was trying to use other people

It is so very sad that you and your family are going through this and have had to make so many changes to your lives and yet he seems to come out of prison obviously not a changed man and would seem without any checks on him or his movements. He is still deemed a threat why is his whereabouts not tagged and his movement curtailed to a certain area? It all seems so one sided. I hope everything works out for you and you all stay safe x

Mp is no good and not helpful in this case.

On my own address has a silent alarms which records and also silently calls the police. And a marker on my address and dds. Dds home has extra secure locks , a ring door bell and something on her letter box so things can't be put through. An outside mail box would not be good.

As far as we know he does not know where she lives although he says he does, we think this may be mind games. But she has to stay at mine until he's arrested. As a precaution. Also can't go out alone and has to get cabs.

The restraining order is 15 years I know he's not allowed to approach her or try to make contact in any form. He's broken that over 200 times now .

Police are going to try and arrest him again although I can't see it happening.

Yep because he's done all his hime he's not in licence. Just a 2 months supervision order thing . All he's got to do is go probation once a week for 2 months . And that's it . But he won't go now as he knows he's wanted for breaking the restraining order . Lots of people are saying to dd when he's caught he will be in alot of trouble ect . I do think much will happen though.