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Hes coming out of prison

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Notsogreat23 · 16/02/2023 19:50

Dds ex is coming out of prison in a few days. He went in for domestic violence. He originally got 9 months. That's automatically halfed. But then he broke restraining order whilst in prison. He got gate arrested and went back to prison. He was then let out briefly on licence but broke the conditions so back to prison. Basically he ended up doing 2 years.

Both me and Dd had to be housed under life in danger. There was a silver lining with that one as there were housing issues anyway.

My kids schools have all been made aware of her ex coming out of prison. And sent a photo of him. My 12 year old has been given a paper with a picture of him . That if he tries to approach her, she has to show it to a shop keeper or simlar it says that that the male pictured is a danger. Please can she wait in the shop until its safe.

Hes also told his probation officer that he actually knows where DD lives. When he was questioned further he did not give anymore information. He does play alot of mind games so hoping it's that . As a safety measure DD place is going to have an extra strong door. And locks . Also a button thing that directs to the police . Her address will also have a marker which means police will be fast to get to her.

It feels kind of scary now I wrote it down.
I know when he gets out he has to go to the housing department. From meetings its been said he won't be put close to the borough. I pray they put him very very far . I also pray he vanishes from the face if the earth 😭

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Augend23 · 05/03/2023 13:43

Oh my gosh, it's beyond absurd to break a restraining order 200 times in 2 weeks. I hope the police catch him soon, you must beyond concerned.

HangingOver · 05/03/2023 13:48

Jeez OP this is so frightening, your poor family Flowers

CoedenNadoligLanOHyd · 05/03/2023 13:53

Email your local MP about this, as they can support you with this.

It's unbelievable that you have to put up with the fear of him.

www.paladinservice.co.uk/

Also the above - set up to support victims of stalking and harassment.

Goodread1 · 05/03/2023 13:54

I wish extreme bad luck would happen to him like karma such as him having terminal Cancer or extremely deliberatiting health disorder that he is in constant pain that makes him feel seriously depressed type of thing,
Something like what I have got or similar like I have got Rumertoid Athritis and oestraAthritis
.I am sorry you have and your daughter experincing this type of thing,

It's like a living nightmare

At least the relevant Athorities are actually doing as much as humanity possible for you ,

What A Arsehole he sounds

notapizzaeater · 05/03/2023 14:03

Omg how bloody scary for you all

liveforsummer · 05/03/2023 14:09

Goodness, how is he finding her? So scary for you all

Bunnyishotandcross · 05/03/2023 14:13

Hope you and your family are safe op. What an utter bastard..

Panda8383 · 05/03/2023 14:17

Hope they find him, lock him up and throw away the key, what a horrible human being.

Oversharingnamechanged · 05/03/2023 14:42

I also hope he dies very suddenly, hit by train, car, Knight on a zebra with a sharp mop, anything to keep him the fuck away from you.

From one survivor to another, I'm crossing everything for you and your families safety.

Please update us.

Bitingnails · 05/03/2023 14:44

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Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 13:22

@Greenshake

I have been posting but i keep changing names. In a nut shell he's broken restraining order almost 200 times. Dd and grandson have to stay with me. Not allowed out alone . Have to get cabs everywhere until he is arrested. Police were meant to arrest when he went probation but they messed up. They tried to arrest at the place he's staying he was not there. His neighbours told him police were there so now he's hiding.

This man is a predictable and terrifying danger to your daughter.

How can the police fuck about with her life and risk it by making stupid mistakes? Sometimes I wonder if the police only take shit seriously when the worst has already happened.

I cannot believe how many times he’s already breached the restraining order. Monster.

Greenshake · 05/03/2023 15:26

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Because if he is on a determinate sentence there will be an automatic release point, after which he cannot be held any longer.

Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 15:27

Thank you everyone. I can't see him leading a full life because of the life he leads . He either going to get something bad happen to him or he's going to be in prison long term.

He was only with dd 8/9 months . Ended up in prison 2 years. Then he's on to her the moment he's out after 2 years would have thought he would stop

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Greenshake · 05/03/2023 15:27

Sorry to hear the updates OP, let’s hope he is is picked up soon.

Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 16:12

Sadly when they do get him I don't think he will get long.

Dds life has been upside down for the past 2 years because of him and it continues I seriously wish he was dead 😭

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LittleOwl153 · 05/03/2023 16:32

Can you move OP... you, your daughter and all the kids? Just disappear? I suspect that's the only way you're ever going to be even vaguely safe from this monster.

Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 16:48

LittleOwl153 · 05/03/2023 16:32

Can you move OP... you, your daughter and all the kids? Just disappear? I suspect that's the only way you're ever going to be even vaguely safe from this monster.

Both families have already been moved. As far as we know he does not know where any of us live although he seems to know the Bougher. Police have put things in place as a precaution. He does say he knows dds address but we think theses are threats.

We are not in the position to move. What does need to be done is for him to go to prison and when he comes out they need to move him far away as possible and put him on tag

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piedbeauty · 05/03/2023 17:36

I'm so sorry to hear this. How is he managing to contact your dd?? I hope the police pick him up asap.

Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 17:47

piedbeauty · 05/03/2023 17:36

I'm so sorry to hear this. How is he managing to contact your dd?? I hope the police pick him up asap.

Via social media. She has Been advised not to block , but not to reply. And to pass on everything he says.

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LaRitournelle · 05/03/2023 17:49

@Notsogreat23 she may have already done this but is she able to mute him/turn off notifications on all the platforms he is contacting her on so at least she isn't constantly seeing the messages? That way she can keep the evidence but without having to look at them?

kierenthecommunity · 05/03/2023 17:50

The absolute weapon. I used to deal with men like this in my last role. You just feel
like yelling at them to get an effing hobby, do C25K, learn Italian on Duolingo, take up fishing. Anything if it means leaving your ex alone.

Has she got evidence? Hopefully that’ll mean when he’s arrested he’ll be charged and remanded and be back inside. He must really like prison food 🙄

I think the maximum term for breach of RO is five years. The courts rarely impose this much but hopefully they’ll make an exception for him

Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 17:51

He sent her a pic. She recognises the place as his mums. but she does not know the address. I know the family are well known to the police surely if she gave the surname to police and the rough location they could look the actual address up. Saying that they can't even get to probation to arrest him so doubt they would put the effort in to look into him mothers address

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Bunnyishotandcross · 05/03/2023 17:54

Google maps may help you op. As much as you shouldn't have to but you may be able to find her house..

kierenthecommunity · 05/03/2023 18:00

They can seize his phone on arrest and find the messages. He doesn’t sound too bright if he keeps getting caught so the messages are still likely to be there.

Notsogreat23 · 05/03/2023 18:50

kierenthecommunity · 05/03/2023 18:00

They can seize his phone on arrest and find the messages. He doesn’t sound too bright if he keeps getting caught so the messages are still likely to be there.

We ate not worried about that dd gas everything anyway.

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