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Can't put my finger on what is up with me!

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gobbleguts · 13/02/2023 20:53

Hi - I need some wisdom and also to see if anyone feels the same.

The last couple of months I have just felt what I can only describe as rather flat. I don't think I'm depressed and I don't feel sad just low I suppose. Feel a complete pack of motivation, not looking forward to anything. I'm annoying myself as I have no reason to feel like this.

My finances are finally looking up, I don't have money worries, I'm newly married and love my husband. Kids are healthy and a job I enjoy. I have great friends and family.
We have a holiday booked just the two of us soon and I am looking forward to that, I feel tired and lacking motivation. I could just lay around lazily at home all day. Work is tiring and I just can't be bothered doing anything.

I vaguely remember feeling a bit like this the same time last year and I am starting to wonder if it's some sort of vitamin deficiency- maybe vitamin D?

I'm trying to exercise and eat healthy but it's not lifting this doom feeling.

Any ideas what I can do? I am usually the time to be grateful for the small things and optimistic etc but I just don't feel myself.

OP posts:

catsnore · 13/02/2023 21:01

Iron deficiency maybe? Or thyroid? Get a decent multivitamin to start with, see if that helps. If not blood test might be needed.

SophiaLarsen · 13/02/2023 21:02

How old are you? Have a look at perimenopause symptoms

RosieLemonadeAndSugar · 13/02/2023 21:07

How newly married?

We got married 18 months ago and I've felt the same for probably a year on and off.

I wondered if it was to do with all the build up / excitement for the wedding, the looking forward to, months ( years ) of planning and now it's all done, dusted and nothing significant to look forward too?

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gobbleguts · 13/02/2023 21:47

@catsnore yes that's a good shout I have some multivitamins so will start those

@SophiaLarsen I am 42 - this did cross my mind but I'm not sure if it's a bit early

@RosieLemonadeAndSugar it's been 6 months now, to be honest I was glad it was not her and all the stress was done but maybe it is the anticlimax of that combined with winter blues!?

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UhhhhhhhOK · 13/02/2023 21:50

Lack of vitamin d? People do suffer from feeling low due to lack of sun/daylight and get SAD lights around winter time?

Januaryisthelongestyear · 13/02/2023 21:52

Id try vitamin d as an easy fix

Dillydollydingdong · 13/02/2023 21:54

Seasonal affective Disorder. You can get special lamps which shine like sunlight to improve your mood.

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 13/02/2023 21:56

SophiaLarsen I am 42 - this did cross my mind but I'm not sure if it's a bit early

It really isn't a bit early

Addictedtohotbaths · 13/02/2023 21:56

Could definitely be peri menopausal, mine started in late 30’s.
Also could be winter, I can feel like this, Vit D plus tumeric and ginger shots gives me energy.

peanuttery · 13/02/2023 22:39

I am very much the same. Weirdly the same. Also have been so poorly constantly all winter - I just feel so 'meh'.

This weekend, I realised how little sunlight I get, so have started with vitamin d. If you get it, you need Vitamin D3 plus K2 supplement (buy as a joint item, it cheaper. You need the K2 to metabolise the D).

I'm hoping it'll start to perk me up!

tigerbear · 13/02/2023 22:41

Feel exactly the same as OP and @peanuttery
just cannot be bothered with anything at all right now.

Cruis · 13/02/2023 22:42

I am feeling the same an remind myself that I feel the same this time every year, it’s the lack of daylight that gets me I think.

Fizzadora · 13/02/2023 22:44

I read the other day that medical experts reckon that everyone in the UK should take vitamin D all year round. Worth a try.

Marmitemyway · 13/02/2023 23:16

I was going to say peri menopause
thats how I felt - flat, little motivation, confidence gone and cross with myself that I couldn’t be the mr o usually was
i was around 48 though - went on HRT it helped and had CBT
good luck

Marmitemyway · 13/02/2023 23:18

Also maybe try magnesium rhodiola and ashwangada as stress / anxiety relief

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gobbleguts · 05/03/2023 17:31

I'm revisiting this thread to check in and for my own record.

I'm still feeling flat. As though the usual enjoyment has been sucked out of me. I feel lacking motivation and even when I do force myself I'm not getting the same enjoyment out of social activity that I usually would.

I've been taking a multi vitamin and vitamin D. I've cut down on caffeine and lost some weight. Still got that strange feeling I can't shift. It's like feeling really bored but the idea of doing something makes me think I can't be bothered

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CyrilBasket · 05/03/2023 17:36

gobbleguts · 05/03/2023 17:31

I'm revisiting this thread to check in and for my own record.

I feel like this too and despite being fully aware of it, I can't even pretend to shake it most of the time making my poor family suffer my irritability.
I'm 41. Have considered menopause but I don't think it's that. Have been taking multi vitamins for some time now.
Almost hopeful that it is SAD so I can look forward to the fog lifting and lighter times. I've never had a period like this before that has lasted so long.
Sorry, a very unhelpful response but you're not alone.

Mabelface · 05/03/2023 17:39

Do a bit of reading around peri menopause, as it can really change how you feel. Read up the NICE guidelines before you visit the gp. There is also the possibility that you are depressed and need a bit of help. Gp will probably want to do a full blood screen.

FatAgainItsLettuceTime · 05/03/2023 17:56

I'm feeling this, for me I'm fairly certain it's the 'I'm ready for spring, fed up of cold, grey, shitty horrible weather and if another fucking paper says we're in for a beast from the east snowmageddon I'm going to just sit and cry and eat a pack of goddamn chocolate cookies and thats that!' feeling.

I need for winter to be over.

Bluevelvetsofa · 05/03/2023 18:06

It’s the time of year. The end of winter, still cold, still dark fairly early. We’re desperate for the buds to bud, the leaves to turn green and the weather to warm up.

Slimjimtobe · 05/03/2023 18:08

I’m slightly older and I have been taking St. John’s wort for about six months and it’s taken that horrible edge off the Winger doom and gloom (was quite tearful etc) fine now

Aquamarine1029 · 05/03/2023 18:08

I am 42 - this did cross my mind but I'm not sure if it's a bit early

42 is not early for peri-menopause at all, in fact it's quite the norm for it beginning, and peri can last 10 years before full menopause. My peri-menopause started at 40.

Slimjimtobe · 05/03/2023 18:09

Winter

HamstersAreMyLife · 05/03/2023 18:12

Late 30s for me too. Am 40 now and had a really down 6m which I'm pretty sure is Peri induced and hoping the lighter nights will help give me a boost. I've been up and down for 3 yrs now.

TroysMammy · 05/03/2023 18:18

@gobbleguts I'm the cba's syndrome too (can't be arsed). I'm 55 and the other side of the menopause. I have plenty of indoor hobbies but I spend a little bit doing them and a lot of faffing under the disguise of crafting. My greenhouse needs tidying ready to start planting but I can't motivate myself. My house needs cleaning, tidying and decluttering, the kitchen floor needs a bloody good scrub and I need to get tradesmen around for quotes and for work to be done. At the moment it's not happening.

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