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Cant get round my mum looking to date!

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mumOfjackson2016 · 11/02/2023 05:50

my mum and dad broke up 14 years ago my dad remarried and i dont have much do to with him. I found text from my mum and a man not long after they broke up but he was married, mum said nothing was happening and they were just friends which i no if true as i mum wouldnt do that after what my dad done on her. They kept texting as friend over these 14 years but 3 months ago this mans wife has died. Mum has been a support for him and he and mayb she wants to see if there is any thing else in there friendship. I am finding this hard my mum has never been with anyone else i no i am being selfish not looking her too but i cant get my head around it. Then with his wife only dying how is that going to look? I really dont want anything to happen with them. I have told my mum this and i dont no what to do? I feel like she still wants something to happen but he is more him but my mum is going to looked bad on as wife not long pasted.
she likes to chats but is it worth it?

OP posts:
MiddleParking · 11/02/2023 05:52

You’ve got to be joking. How old are you?! Yes you’re being horribly selfish. And if you know if you should have already stopped.

allthelittlelights · 11/02/2023 05:57

It's absolutely none of your business whatsoever.

ArmchairAnarchist2 · 11/02/2023 06:22

Fucking hell! This is so not your business. Are you planning on staying with her for the rest of her life so she's not alone?
DD died after being married to DM for over fifty years together. I'd have been delighted if she met someone rather than be lonely at home living vicariously through us, her children, until she died.

DNAwrangler · 11/02/2023 06:24

You do nothing.

if they make each other happy then why should they not give it a go in case someone gossips?

BCBird · 11/02/2023 06:26

Your dad found someone else. Your mom.may want to too. Why can you mot see this? Why shouldn't she with your blessing. I am astounded to be honest. Are you worried about how a potential romance, with him.or someone else will impact on you?

WandaWonder · 11/02/2023 06:31

Is this real?

JackieDaws · 11/02/2023 06:34

Aww are you scared you might lose your inheritance?

ElizaGumpyLeg · 11/02/2023 06:38

You know it’s quite likely your Mom was seeing this man during your parents marriage if they were messaging that soon after it?

jackstini · 11/02/2023 06:38

It's absolutely none of your business and I can't believe you have said anything to her!

What you need to do is support any possible happiness for someone you love

You are all 'poor me' with no thought for a woman who has probably had some really lonely times over the past few years

Let her enjoy the friendship and if there is anything more then good for the both of them

RebeccaCloud9 · 11/02/2023 06:46

Ok, I was expecting this post to be more like it was her husband that died 3 months ago, not that she has been divorced for 14 YEARS!!

I get your concern for her getting together with him quite so soon after his wife dying, but not about her being with someone new herself.

FenghuangHoyan · 11/02/2023 06:49

You're well out of order OP. You seem to be more worried about what people will think than your mum's happiness and that sucks. She's been single for 14 years and can now maybe get some happiness and also help the guy recover too.

Take a long look at yourself and stop being selfish.

Roseyposeypudding · 11/02/2023 07:13

This can’t be real.

JorisBonson · 11/02/2023 07:15

Roseyposeypudding · 11/02/2023 07:13

This can’t be real.

This. Don't feed it.

Outandover · 11/02/2023 08:20

I assume you’re an adult and wouldn’t want your parents interfering in your relationships? Then what makes you think it’s acceptable and moral for you to dictate to your parents about their relationships?

Grow up or you risk losing your only remaining parent due to your gross immaturity. Build a life for yourself and butt out of other peoples.

Badbudgeter · 11/02/2023 08:23

Statistically men whose wives die often go on to new relationships fairly quickly. It won’t be shocking for anyone but you.

Knoblauch · 11/02/2023 08:25

You are being entirely ridiculous. Absolutely nothing to do with you. Keep your nose out and grow up.

2Old2BABPpresenter · 11/02/2023 08:29

so basically what you’re saying is you want your DM to live and die alone. Well that’s nice isn’t it…
Grow up, your DM is a person in her own right and this is none of your business.

Sucessinthenewyear · 11/02/2023 08:30

JorisBonson · 11/02/2023 07:15

This. Don't feed it.

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Good plan.

TetherEndOfMy · 11/02/2023 08:39

Nice try OP

massivesalads · 11/02/2023 13:17

No plans today OP?

Original poster
mumOfjackson2016 · 11/02/2023 19:59

I was coming here for advice and help
on this…. As i have never had to deal with it before. I no i was being selfish.
i dont want my mum to be alone or unhappy. I just dont want to see her get hurt again!

thanks for the hell

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Original poster
mumOfjackson2016 · 11/02/2023 20:00

Ment to say help not hell 🤦🏻‍♀️

OP posts:
doadeer · 11/02/2023 20:01

Why wouldn't you want your mum to be happy?

How selfish.

Pansypotter123 · 11/02/2023 20:04

Oh grow up! How old are you by the way?

GoldDuster · 11/02/2023 20:05

I just dont want to see her get hurt again!

You need to back off and let the woman live her life, and concentrate on living yours. It's not your job to decide if she's available for a relationship, your dad has been gone for 14 years.

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