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Any tips to reduce the postpartum deppression?

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Suzz232 · 07/02/2023 15:19

Hi guys
I'm a new mom and recently i realize that i'm having post partum deppression... I'm feeling awful at times. I even get angry to my baby as well...Anyone going through the same? Any tips?

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Thelnebriati · 07/02/2023 15:35

The best thing to do is pick up the phone and talk to your midwife, health visitor or GP today.
There are some charities that offer support and advice, and some forums. But speak to someone before you Google.

www.postpartumdepression.org/

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Suzz232 · 14/02/2023 14:26

Thankyou so much

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Thelnebriati · 15/02/2023 00:36

How are you today? I've been thinking about your thread, I'm so sorry you haven't had more responses.

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MeinKraft · 15/02/2023 01:35

Sertraline helps with the anger. Speak to GP right away and get some help

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Suzz232 · 15/02/2023 09:22

Spoke to a therapist and had two section with them..feeling much better now..but still not feeling happy

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SomeAlienConcept · 15/02/2023 09:25

Happiness is overrated. For now just be well and not angry with baby.
Stop breastfeeding, take your medication, get help with the baby if you can afford it. Speak to someone professional and tell them the truth. Absolutely no drugs or alcohol at all.

foghead · 15/02/2023 10:04

What support do you have?
Firstly healthwife and gp
Secondly, is there anyone around who can help? Are you getting sleep?
Can someone take the baby and do nappy changes for a day? You just rest, sleep and feed the baby (however you want to feed)
Is there any practical help with meals and chores?

foghead · 15/02/2023 10:05

Healthwife? Sorry was thinking midwife then realised it's health visitor after birth

bussteward · 15/02/2023 10:22

It takes time. Well done for going to therapy. Can you have more sessions? Don’t expect a magic happy button overnight.

Exercise, fresh air, proper nutrition, rest and sleep all help – all tricky to come by with a baby! Strapping the baby in a pram or sling and going for a walk each day will help: endorphins from the exercise, vitamin D from daylight. Try to avoid alcohol and sugar and maximise intake of vegetables; go to bed at the same time each night; basically be really boring! But it helps set a baseline for your body to feel OK which helps your mind – eventually.

WorryMcGee · 15/02/2023 10:29

I had antenatal depression as well as PND (one of the many, many reasons I will only have one child) what helped were: sertraline, at least one night a week of uninterrupted sleep where DH was responsible for all night wake ups, having some time to exercise (gently at first!) and - honestly - my baby getting older. I am not a newborn baby person, they are screaming potatoes. She’s a little person now at 10 months and far more interesting. Sending you lots of love, it’s so bloody difficult but it will get better.

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Suzz232 · 15/02/2023 12:53

The thing is I cant sleep well...also feels like no one is giving attention to me😥...Is that normal in this time to feel like this?

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Thelnebriati · 15/02/2023 13:29

Have you spoken to your doctor or health visitor yet? You need a bit more help right now than a therapist can give.

foghead · 15/02/2023 13:33

If you need help, reach out to people. They might not know.
Who around you could be of help? Partner? Parents? Siblings? In laws? Close friends?
Ask.

TooMuchPowder · 15/02/2023 13:33

Can you specify who you'd like to give you attention? Do you mean no attention to you or baby or are they focused on baby but not on you?

TooMuchPowder · 15/02/2023 13:34

People sometimes don't want to interfere and assume you're doing fine. Let people you trust know you're struggling. Sleep is a fucker, find a way to sleep if you have a husband he will need to get up or get someone to get up with baby get some sleep is a priority but it has to be done safely.

Lavender14 · 15/02/2023 13:38

Hi op, I agree with pps who have suggested reaching out especially to your health visitor or gp so they know where you're at and it's fantastic you've been so on the ball at seeing a therapist.

I think for me, getting out of the house was helpful - I notice a difference in my mood when I've been at home for a couple of days with baby as opposed to days where I've been out for a walk or done some messages.

Just as an aside, your feelings are normal and common and they're no reflection on you as a person or as a mummy. We all react differently to the massive hormone changes that come with pregnancy and birth. That being said if you had a particularly difficult birth with your lo or it didn't go to plan or you feel badly in any way about it, then you can contact your midwife and they'll do a debrief with you to help you get some closure around why things worked out the way they did. Just incase you think that might help in your situation but again, you don't need to have a difficult birth to feel the way you do.

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Suzz232 · 15/02/2023 13:39

I have my husband with me for the support..But i feels like i'm alone at times..I told him about this..he is trying to do everything as possible..he is really helpful..I hope i will be alright in coming days..

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PipMumsnet · 15/02/2023 15:11

Hi OP,
We're sorry you're feeling so low.
We can see that you're getting some good support from other Mumsnetters here on your thread but we thought we'd post some links to the help that's available to you in real life. We'd urge you to take a look at an organisation called PANDAS Foundation which was set up to support families through PND & AND. Their webpage is pandasfoundation.org.uk/ and they have a free helpline, available 7 days a week, from 11am-10pm - 0808 1961 776.
Here too is a link to the www.nhs.uk/mental-health/conditions/post-natal-depression/treatment/. NHS webpages on postnatal depression
We really hope things start getting easier for you soon.
Best wishes
MNHQ

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