Do your kids just walk in and out of your room?

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Just that really. I'm sure when I was a kid my parents' bedroom was basically off limits - ie I had to knock before I went in, there was no open door policy. My own DC (8 and 6) just wander in to ours at will, jump around when I'm trying to get dressed and so on. Obviously when they were tiny it was one thing but I find it a bit grating now, I would love just one space in the house that is adult only! Do others accept their kids wandering in and out or is this something that people clamp down on when they outgrow the toddler stage? My parents were quite hands off and I don't want to be like that.

My 9 year old always wanders in and out. I love chatting to her when I'm getting ready or sorting stuff.

Out of interest, why do people stop their kids from coming in? What's the big secret? I'm also intrigued by people who don't want their kids to see them naked. Is there an age limit on this?

I'm also intrigued by people who don't want their kids to see them naked. Is there an age limit on this?
I think this is down to the kids , fwiw mine started keeping their nudity to themselves at about 10+ ( unless they want my opinion about something as I’m an ex nurse ). Personally I’m not fazed by nudity at all and they have both regularly seen me starkers and don’t seem in the least traumatised .

I have the smallest room in the house and yet the most used room! me and my girls are always in my tiny room 😆no closed doors here that includes the bathroom 🤣🤣🙈

I don't think I have ever closed my bedroom door tbh.

Knock in our house but we knock on DC bedroom door if we wish to.speak with them. No barging into other personal space as I am think it hat I am rude.

So they don't just wander in when we're busy together. So they know that some things are private and personal. Because I'm entitled to privacy as much as they are.

Not a “limit”, but from around starting school age I expected them to leave me alone when I’m getting dressed, in the bathroom etc - I just prefer my privacy. Occasionally needs must (like family cubicles in swimming pools) but generally I am fairly private about my body. They have unfettered access to me pretty much all day, they don’t need to witter on about barbie doll antics to me while I’m showering and trying to get dressed.

As for my bedroom, it’s not a “big secret” and they can be in there if they need to be but it does contain my personal stuff, including things that for various reasons I don’t want them seeing - from adult things to their birthday presents to my bank statements. So I don’t particularly want them just hanging out in there and deciding they’ll poke around. We have more than enough other spaces for them to be in.

I have 3 teens and always knock on their doors before I go in. But my bedroom door is always open and they come straight in, plus the dog is usually in our room and sometimes they come in to have a cuddle with her. I’m fine with it and actually like it because they are growing up so fast and will be leaving before I know it so they are always welcome to come and sit on the bed and chat. Even my ds who usually appears with a football or a Beano under his arm.

I valued my privacy tbh. I always shut the door including bathroom apart from when they were tiny

No knocking here, and bedroom doors are all open until the dc go to bed when they close them. That’s more to block out the light than anything else though. Sometimes dd asks me to keep the landing light off so she can leave her door open for the cat to have access.

We never close our door, but we have the top floor to ourselves so the dc don’t tend to come up here much.

There is a strict no friends rule in our bedroom and the guest rooms though, and the dc abide by that.

I can’t remember what age it was but it was more them not wanting to walk in on me naked rather than me saying they couldn’t come in. If I’m in my underwear or have a towel round me they’ll come in. If I need to get ready I’ll say the towel’s coming off and they tend to leave the room.

In our house a closed door means knock. An open door is free to enter. This applies to everyone equally.

Is that not a pain if they need the toilet in the night?

When I'm on my own, they wander in but when my partner is round, they don't.

The kids come in and out as they please, it's just another room in the house.
I knock on their doors as I do like them to have some privacy.

In our family bedrooms are basically that person’s private space- I wouldn’t go in their room, lie on their bed and read a magazine either. Everyone knocks on bedroom doors unless door literally wide open. The DC watch tv in my room sometimes but ask first- I always say yes.

We all quite like our own space and a bit of peace and quiet away from each other.

Yes totally agree