Advice about a carer please.

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My mother has been having carers in for her husband (who has dementia) since October.

One particular carer (who is amazing, funny, very good at his job) keeps mentioning how poor he is. On Christmas Eve he said his family 'back home' had no electricity and was telling my mum how worried he was about what he was going to do as he was out of money, so my mother being the person she is transferred him £50.00.

Today he came in asking where my son was (which was strange), he made his way upstairs and told my son that he needed to talk to him as it's what 'he felt in his heart'. He followed that up by saying his mother 'back home' was very sick and he needed £40. This time my son transferred this money to him.

As much as we love him coming, we feel that he might be taking the mick a bit.

Would you mention this to the agency he comes from and risk losing a good carer OR just say nothing and carry on as normal?

I mentioned it to the other carer last night and apparently he's heard the same thing from at least 3 other people.

Just as we all suspected.

I assume you're going to contact the police today then?

He is a con man. He is abusing his position and you need to report this to the agency as a minimum. I would also be reporting to safeguarding team at social services to make sure it is followed up. Personally, I would also log a call with 111. You need to protect your family and all the other vulnerable people he has access to. He is an abusive asshole who needs to be prevented from being employed in care.

Realised in my red mist I said report to 111. Wouldn't be much help, I meant 101!

It needs to be reported to police, otherwise his dbs will be clear next time he applies for a role with vulnerable people. He may even have previous for such behaviour, but gone unreported or unprosecuted. How old is your ds?

I suspect @RedRedDiamond is referring to the story the carer is stringing to you and your family.
Report, no question.

For at least 3 people to have mentioned it to this carer you have to wonder how many people he does it too. Probably dozens and dozens. Please please report it to the police, if not for your family then for others sake. He will just agency hop and continue this for years.