Things I haven’t said out loud this week

[YorkieTheRabbit]

1 - No, we haven’t asked you to come over for a meal in ages, no, I don’t care how many hints you drop, it’s falling on deaf ears.
I don’t expect you to help prepare or cook when you’re here BUT I do expect you to supervise your kids, not plonk down on the sofa and completely ignore them. Accidents may happen but if you actually looked after them instead of scrolling through your phones, we wouldn’t have had a house plant tipped over the carpet, used toilet roll and wee on the toilet floor, orange juice poured in the dogs bowl plus numerous others. Oh and by the way, we’ve never been invited over to your house in the eight years you’ve lived there!

2 - Im sorry your daughter would rather spend time with her gran but for god’s sake be honest, you spent the first ten years of her life bouncing from one disastrous relationship to another because you were desperate for a bloke. You put them in front of her needs. Her gran might not be perfect but at least she was there for her.

Can 2024 be marginally less stressful please. I am drained.

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Mine today is FUCK OFF AND DO IT YOURSELF THEN. The fact you can't so asked me to and the only reason I can't is because your clients don't answer the phone is NOT MY FAULT you TWAT

I know the last three years have been stressful

However, you've had three years to pack your belongings in some sort of order and not bring random shit to my door.

Being told constantly that you need to find something in one of your two storage lockers, because you can't find it here is getting very wearing

You've taken over my house, left me with nowhere to do the ironing and stitching, keep switching off the dehumidifier, IN SPITE of all the wet washing and you want to spend the next six months, cluttering my already busy house, upsetting my routines, leaving no drawer or cupboard unopened and then maybe find somewhere to live

Fuck's sake, brother, stop pissing your money up the wall on stuff and sort out a place to live first

Why does so much revolve around sex?

Sometimes I wish it didn't exist and people just cuddled instead.

Sick of you comparing another Grandchild to mine . Sick of hearing how this child is a genius and there is something not quite right with my Grandchild. We shall see . Tortoise and Hare comes to mind .

It's your own bloody fault I've gone NC. I've tried for YEARS to commit how much your actions (or lack of them) cause real hurt and heartache but you didn't listen. Well now you can lie in the bed you made. Your grandchild is amazing and it's your own fault she doesn't know you and never will.

Why do you expect me to say yes to every request your child wants. He is my step child and whilst I earn well I don't want to spend every spare bit of cash on him. Also, he has 2 parents who can provide (ie you and my husband). Now adult up. You created him.

Stop contacting me.

Said these: No, I don't care if you come to the festival we used to go to. No, you can't share my tent.

No, I don't care if you still love me and wish things were different.

Didn't say this: oh so now you want to cheat on OW with me? How fucking dare you. But enjoy your miserable life where the grass isn't green after all

Stop moaning you lazy oaf

You're not a customer when you don't actually pay for anything.
You're just a rude, chancing freeloader trying to bully your way through life.
Bet if you'd caught sight of the 6ft 6 rugby playing male colleague before you started kicking off you'd have had a change of heart but the 5ft nothing middle aged woman seemed like an easy target?
Unlucky.

I’m not perfect, nor are you.
You really don’t know how close to the edge I am.

Thanks for that slap in the face earlier heaven forbid you say No to the Golden Child looking to shirk parenting yet again

I don't want fucking perfume! I told you what you could get me for Christmas. I even told you where to go, and to ask our daughter to help you. She even knows where the list is of what I need. So why have you bought perfume? Because you can't be fucking bothered that's why and perfume is the easy way out!

@YorkieTheRabbit

I love this thread, would you consider starting a "Things I haven't said out loud this week Christmas Edition"? I think it might save some Mumsnetters sanity during the festive season.

I don't want to come "home" for Christmas. I want to go somewhere hot, by myself. But I do it because the drama isn't worth the hassle.

I am dreading the next few days with my DSS. Absolutely sick of splitting Christmas Day between us and his Mum. Why can't we alternate like most others?

"Do you know what? If you think you can do better, next year YOU can sort Christmas. I'm going to walk the West Highland Way instead and leave you to your petty, stupid, pointless, bickering and quarrelling and sniping. Do you know how horrible you're making yourself sound? Just stop it. STOP it, for fucks sake shut the fuck up. I'm not interested in hearing it."

Ahh, I feel better for that.

This year has broken my heart on at least 11 separate occasions and in four different ways.
I want it to be over.

But I can't see any way in which 2024 will be better. There's nothing to look forward to.

Is this really it.

If its dark enough to turn the lights on then it's dark enough to close the blinds or curtains. How do you still not get this?!!

@WhenWereYouUnderMe hope you are OK, that sounds really rough. Xx

Thank you @LaMaG ❤️

Fuck Fuck and Fuck you after 5 years of finally getting away from 20+ years of your serial cheating, emotional and financial abuse.
yes my boundaries were non existent due to childhood issues.
Gaslighting literally drove me to drink for a time, you actively tried to drive me insane,
I told you I was leaving , your response was ‘not with the children’ . When you said you were really going to hurt me by keeping my girls, you very nearly did break me.
Now I have a stable , mortgaged home and finally rebuilding a good relationship with my girls, but are an absolute CUNT for still trying to manipulate and control them.. and me.
she is 17 years old you bastard, you don’t give a shit that she has spent most of the week in bed, missing college and part time job just wishing her mum was there to support , I couldn’t even come and get her you prick , she knows I AM there but is trying to negotiate with a CUNT as you continue to spew your diatribe and emotionally abuse her as you did me ..
I wish you had died in that operation .. you are an awful, awful human being and they will both see YOU for the complete CUNT that you are in hopefully not to distant future
you hate women.
( CUNT has been allowed for use by my counsellor ) love that women as never ever used it but by god it’s cathartic now.

@TomHardysloofah 💐 I hope she's OK.

For anyone who needs to hear it, I said it out loud and the world didn't cave in. Some things do need to be said and the fact that everything will change once something is out in the open is not necessarily a bad thing.