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Autopsy report - is this possible?

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 13:48

I have a toxic and dysfunctional aunt who has been spreading rumours that my dad was starved to death by us. So not true, I was with him two days before he died and we went for a meal and spent the day together. He actually died of asbestos exposure and lung cancer. She claims she has a copy of the autopsy and this isn’t true and the findings say he had a tiny cancerous growth. She’s been putting this on facebook, it was told to me as I don’t have social media. Now I’m 99% sure this is bs, but I was wondering if it would be possible for someone to get a copy. I saw it can be requested but would be sent to a GP or doctor to talk through the finding. Can anyone request a random persons autopsy. It seems like it should be private.

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barneshome · 20/01/2023 13:50

In the U.K. it is called a post mortem

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:04

@barneshome thank you so much for that! Really helpful when I’m having an awful day thinking about my dads death and dealing with horrible things being said about how he died. A bitchy comment. You must be a lovely person.

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SophiaLarsen · 20/01/2023 14:06

I think it may be a clue that if your aunt is saying autopsy and you are in the uk it's BS from her.

Did the death go to a Coroner's Court? There would be a record of findings.

greenacrylicpaint · 20/01/2023 14:07

she's probably lying
an extract (not all details) of the post mortem report might be made public at the inquest. it would be unlikely for your aunt to receive the full report

sorry for your loss.

LakeTiticaca · 20/01/2023 14:08

I would think it would go to the police if there is doubt about the circumstances of his death. It would be made public if there is an inquest. I may be wrong so I'm sure someone will correct me.
Could you get a solicitor to send her a letter warning her to stop?
I'm.sorry you're having to deal.with this x

wasacasa · 20/01/2023 14:10

What does his death certificate say?

Everyonehasavoice · 20/01/2023 14:10

In Uk
All post mortem reports are available to the public
For a fee

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:12

@SophiaLarsen @greenacrylicpaint Thank you 💐. Yes she’s been saying autopsy and it didn’t go to inquest, it was going to due to mesothelioma being suggested. I had an interview with the coroner where we talked about the factory my dad worked at and his work history. Then they said it would not go to inquest. I had to give permission for his organs to be sent to Wales to be tested, it was a couple of years ago and I was in the thick of grief and shock so can’t remember all the details now. Ok that’s good to know that it’s probably bs.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:13

Death certificate says lung cancer.

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TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 20/01/2023 14:14

Assuming the death occurred in the UK,

I think a post mortem is only done if requested by a coroner, but you can get a copy of the Death Certificate that states the cause of death (it cost about £3 ten years ago).

Hoppinggreen · 20/01/2023 14:14

Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:04

@barneshome thank you so much for that! Really helpful when I’m having an awful day thinking about my dads death and dealing with horrible things being said about how he died. A bitchy comment. You must be a lovely person.

I get that it’s upsetting but I think that’s an over reaction to what was probably an attempt to help.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:15

@Everyonehasavoice oh ok. Gosh it seems so intrusive.

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OgdensGoneNutFlake · 20/01/2023 14:16

barneshome · 20/01/2023 13:50

In the U.K. it is called a post mortem

This wasn't bitchy, it was (presumably) trying to help you.
Knowledge is power.

FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee · 20/01/2023 14:19

I get that your aunt is being a dick but you were unnecessarily rude to a poster trying to help and you've still not apologised.

Anyone with half a brain cell will know your aunt is talking shit. Ignore her.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:20

This family are so toxic. Leaving horrible messages on the grave, kicked the hearse at the funeral and tried to start a fight with me outside the room I was identifyingy dads body in so I’m very sensitive to them having the post-mortem report.

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CavalierApproach · 20/01/2023 14:20

I don’t think that pp was being bitchy op, don’t take it to heart too much. I thought they were just saying what a subsequent poster also pointed out, but with a bit less explanatory wording.

Sorry for what you’re dealing with though. It sounds appalling.

Is it legally slander to falsely spread a rumour that you starved him? — is that even a thing people can be pulled up for, or am I just thinking of stuff that happens in old novels?

bloodywhitecat · 20/01/2023 14:23

My dad died from mesothelioma and had to have an inquest as it is usually not classed as a 'natural death' as it comes from exposure to asbestos. I would've thought if there were any irregularities with your dad's death the coroner would've have picked up on them. Your aunt appears to be lying.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:23

@CavalierApproach It just seemed an odd grammar police response to a sensitive post. Maybe I over reacted. I’m not sure if it wouldn’t just add fuel to their fire. I think they are doing it to get a bit of attention on Facebook. It seems odd to wait a couple of years and then start saying such odd things. My dad was very loved, lived with my brother and we were all heartbroken when he died. I’d love her to stop but our family have taken a grey rock approach with her so far. I’m sure some people might believe her though.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:24

@bloodywhitecat sorry for your loss.

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Can2022getanyworse · 20/01/2023 14:27

Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:04

@barneshome thank you so much for that! Really helpful when I’m having an awful day thinking about my dads death and dealing with horrible things being said about how he died. A bitchy comment. You must be a lovely person.

Whoah - pp was trying to help.

Sorry for your loss op. I don't think a post mortem becomes public unless there is an inquest.

CalloohCallayFrabjousDay · 20/01/2023 14:28

So if it was mesothelioma, did you get a payout from the company that he worked for? Is this why your family is creating drama?

Also, I don't think other posters meant to be rude, I think it was just pointing out that it means that she was lying if she said it was an autopsy report as it's not called that in this country.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:29

@bloodywhitecatit was so odd as there was a date for the inquest booked and the coroner I spoke to called me to ask if he had worked with asbestos and where he had worked. My granddad worked in the same place and died of mesothelioma. Then suddenly inquest cancelled. I had a toddler, was pregnant and moving house so I just had so much on that I didn’t think about it much at the time and just accepted that it was all over and put it behind me.

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Mycatsgoldtooth · 20/01/2023 14:30

@barneshome sorry, I’m obviously over reacted.

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bloodywhitecat · 20/01/2023 14:34

Are you in touch with Mesothelioma UK? A previous poster is right, there is a compensation scheme in place for those who are affected by work place mesothelioma. Your aunt is just out to cause drama and upset, ignore her.

lemmein · 20/01/2023 14:39

My mum got a copy of my brothers post-mortem at the inquest.