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PurplePetalPip · 2023-01-19T14:16:14+00:00

DP's wallet has disappeared and I'm pretty sure I was the last one to see it. He never takes it out anywhere as tends to use apple pay on his phone for purchases unless he's sure he'll use cash. I'm fairly certain I saw it yesterday morning as I needed cash to get my eyebrows threaded and didn't have enough. So I took a fiver and told him I was doing that (he was on the loo at the time if that's helpful!). I thought I left it either on the shoe cupboard in the hallway or on the side in the kitchen. But it's nowhere to be seen! We went into town but he's adamant he didn't take it and didn't go anywhere after that. I'm facing accusations of having thrown it away now. I'm suffering long term sleep deprivation from our toddler but I can't think I'd have thrown it in the bin! We've looked everywhere we can think of!

Ohgodthepain · 19/01/2023 15:31

Glitterandcard · 19/01/2023 14:39

Is your shoe cupboard near/next to your front door/letterbox? It’s not unheard of for easily accessible small items to get stolen…

Your DH says he didn’t take wallet to town - did he need to pay eg a window cleaner? Check a business card in it? then put it back down somewhere else?

That's what I was thinking, is the shoe cupboard near the front door Op ?

Dontlistitonfacebook · 19/01/2023 15:33

I lost my bank card once, cancelled it and requested a new one.

İt turned up behind the toaster.

Do you have a toaster?

listsandbudgets · 19/01/2023 15:41

Glitterandcard · 19/01/2023 14:39

Is your shoe cupboard near/next to your front door/letterbox? It’s not unheard of for easily accessible small items to get stolen…

Your DH says he didn’t take wallet to town - did he need to pay eg a window cleaner? Check a business card in it? then put it back down somewhere else?

This was my first thought as it actually happened to dd. Her phone was on the hall table and gone when she wanted it a few hours later. The stupid idiot left the tracking on and when police appeared at his house they linked him to numerous burglaries!

Hopefully not that

Bluetrews25 · 19/01/2023 15:52

How about you re-enact the day?
Get him on the loo. You have a dummy wallet that you get the money out of...replay it like that and see if it comes back to you what you've done with it, or watch to see if any small people in the house move the dummy one, too.

Mildmanneredmum · 19/01/2023 15:52

We lost DP's wallet in the bed. After we had looked everywhere else then cancelled all the cards etc. No idea what it was doing in the bed, but I went to change the sheets and there it was.

billyt · 19/01/2023 16:01

You have to think of the very last plan you would look. Lost items are ALWAYS found there!

I know, not helpful....

PenelopeRidesAgain · 19/01/2023 16:12

My daughter put a wallet in the drawer under the cooker when she was a toddler. Also, most recent wallet 'loss', it had gone into the lining of DH's coat pocket. He checked the pockets several times but didn't check lining.

mathanxiety · 19/01/2023 16:15

Does your toddler like to post things?
Have you called the eyebrow place?

You need to reenact your day from the point where you took the money - without verbal interruption from anyone as much as possible. Take a little lie down during the day and rest your mind. The answer may come to you.

AMalteserForYourThoughts · 19/01/2023 16:48

This is a nearly foolproof method to find stuff in this sort of situation.

What you need to do is physically re-ennact - physically not just imagining it - what you actually did, with a substitute wallet and do everything else you did before that moment and afterwards.

So for example if you grabbed your coat and your car keys first, then remembered the money then do that before you go to the subsitute wallet and then if you go out to the car, do the same. Basically physically replay the whole thing and if you were in a hurry, do it in a hurry.

The reason it works is because usually you put stuff in places automatically and it can be disturbed if you are holding other stuff or wearing a coat that has or doesn't have pockets and so on or in the middle you remembered you needed to post the letter that was on the kitchen table - that you can put something somewhere without thinking about it.

It is very effective but you actually have to get up off the sofa and physically go through the whole thing. I've found so much stuff with this method.

If it doesn't work, also check whether whereever you think you put it, whether anything else is put there and it's been scooped up with a pile on top of it - like a pile of clothes or documents for filing or newspapers and so on.

Nosecan · 19/01/2023 17:19

AMalteserForYourThoughts · 19/01/2023 16:48

This is a nearly foolproof method to find stuff in this sort of situation.

What you need to do is physically re-ennact - physically not just imagining it - what you actually did, with a substitute wallet and do everything else you did before that moment and afterwards.

So for example if you grabbed your coat and your car keys first, then remembered the money then do that before you go to the subsitute wallet and then if you go out to the car, do the same. Basically physically replay the whole thing and if you were in a hurry, do it in a hurry.

The reason it works is because usually you put stuff in places automatically and it can be disturbed if you are holding other stuff or wearing a coat that has or doesn't have pockets and so on or in the middle you remembered you needed to post the letter that was on the kitchen table - that you can put something somewhere without thinking about it.

It is very effective but you actually have to get up off the sofa and physically go through the whole thing. I've found so much stuff with this method.

If it doesn't work, also check whether whereever you think you put it, whether anything else is put there and it's been scooped up with a pile on top of it - like a pile of clothes or documents for filing or newspapers and so on.

I did this after losing my phone and found it at the back of our storage room on top of a box of Christmas decorations!

Nosecan · 19/01/2023 17:19

I did this after losing my phone and found it at the back of our storage room on top of a box of Christmas decorations!

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pippinsleftleg · 19/01/2023 17:39

AMalteserForYourThoughts · 19/01/2023 16:48

This is a nearly foolproof method to find stuff in this sort of situation.

What you need to do is physically re-ennact - physically not just imagining it - what you actually did, with a substitute wallet and do everything else you did before that moment and afterwards.

So for example if you grabbed your coat and your car keys first, then remembered the money then do that before you go to the subsitute wallet and then if you go out to the car, do the same. Basically physically replay the whole thing and if you were in a hurry, do it in a hurry.

The reason it works is because usually you put stuff in places automatically and it can be disturbed if you are holding other stuff or wearing a coat that has or doesn't have pockets and so on or in the middle you remembered you needed to post the letter that was on the kitchen table - that you can put something somewhere without thinking about it.

It is very effective but you actually have to get up off the sofa and physically go through the whole thing. I've found so much stuff with this method.

If it doesn't work, also check whether whereever you think you put it, whether anything else is put there and it's been scooped up with a pile on top of it - like a pile of clothes or documents for filing or newspapers and so on.

Try not to lose the substitute wallet too!

Mammyloveswine · 20/01/2023 12:03

Pray to st anthony..never lets me down!