Awake and anxious, anyone else awake?

[SuspiciousLampshade]

Hi,

DS2 got D&V (we’ll really just the V) from nursery on Thursday. DH has now started with it and has been going for several hours now.

I have a phobia of puke so I’m absolutely terrified - not just that I’m next but also at the whole situation. I’m also scared DS1 will wake up with it and DH is obviously out of commission as I wouldn’t make him do it!

I can’t sleep and my mind is whirling, I’ve tried music and TV and nothing is helping. Is anyone else up? Why are you awake (not that it’s so late I guess)?

I’m watching snapchats come in of my best friend with my exes new girlfriend because I like to torture myself. He wasn’t good for me but her husband is his friend. And my hearts still broken over two years later.

I hope no one else in the house gets the bug I shall keep my fingers and toes crossed for you.

I'm sorry this must be awful. You can't change what happens but maybe try to prepare.

Make sure you have clean bedding and pjs available and bowls and water for all.

Make sure you have water or tea and biscuits for you as a sugar boost if its a long night....

You can do this.

I’m so sorry @ExofanAddict that must be really hard. Try to find something good to watch instead? I’ve just started White Lotus and it’s pretty good when DH isn’t retching and ruining it

Thanks so much @DDivaStar - currently set up on the sofa bed in the living room with both DS as they didn’t want to sleep alone and I don’t particularly want to sleep next to DH at the moment…probably best for him too because then he gets the comfort of the whole bed!

I have enetophobia too OP and know just how you feel. Remind yourself that the anxiety IS just anxiety and even if you do get it that you will get through it and life will carry on. Sounds stupid but I kind of forget all that when in the midst of it.

I'm awake because I have another UTI and waiting until I can take a second antibiotic before I fall asleep.

Also disappointed it seems likely I didn't get a job ii interviewed for and just a bit meh about it.

I am up waiting for my DS to get in from work he is autistic has only been driving 12 months and has had one accident so I canf sleep till he is in. Stressing about my grandparents too one of them in hopsital and trying to care gir the other round the clock. All the family taking turns but there is no end in sight and no idea what we are going to do.

Poor you OP…
I cant deal with people vomiting either

Im awake cause i bashed my head earlier
Got a headache, Ear pain, as well as neck and shoulder pain
After i bashed my head i walked into a wall
So all fun 😂

Hope things settle for you OP

Aww I’m sorry to read that things are tough in your house. What are your plans tomorrow? I hope you can have a slow chilled day.

Well, I started falling asleep about 22:30 and then I could hear a scratching noise in the attic which woke me up… now I can’t get back to sleep.

It sounds bigger than a bird… maybe a squirrel.

@thaegumathteth its a horrible phobia isn’t it. I’ve been doing just this and am feeling marginally better, talked myself down from a full blown panic attack so counting that as a win. Hate UTIs, I always have to take antibiotics when I get one and it feels like it takes an eternity to kick in! Hope you feel better soon.

@tootiredtospeak sorry to hear about that, caring for family is really exhausting even with all the love that’s there. I’m sure your DS will get back soon 🙂

I’m propped up in bed because I can’t breathe if I lie down. Every time I cough, I bring up loads of mucus, so I keep having to get up. My neck hurts too.

But- I’m not having to smell sick. You have my sympathies OP!

@Cincinnatus theres a squirrel in your attic? That’s a new one! At least it’s not a rat.

Fortunately no plans tomorrow, I intentionally cleared our weekend when DS2 came down with it because I knew DH would get it (he gets everything) and it would take 2 days, so would happen today. Not looking forward to having to entertain a 3 and 1 year old while DH lies in bed all day though…if DS1 stays well it’ll have been 48 hours since DS2’s last V so I think we’ll be off to the park!

@MissingMoominMamma yes THE SMELL! It feels like it’s infiltrated every room. Hope you feel better and manage to get some sleep soon! We have a plug in Calpol thing for DC and it works for us too, can really recommend for breathing easier at night

Wide awake and so, so tired and anxious. I can’t sleep through the night no matter what I do, and it’s been like this for months. I’ve had a headache on-and-off since before NY which is really starting to scare me. I’m hyper-focussing on this when I try to sleep and (I think) making it worse in the process. I’ve had a thorough eye-test and the optician was happy with everything. My head feels like it’s in a vice, with intermittent stabbing pain. Christmas was incredibly busy and stressful so perhaps I need to recover from that…? Doc aware and trying me on HRT. Not sure what to do, but hoping writing this down will help. Argh! I feel like I’m going insane trying to hold things together. I need fresh air and a walk tomorrow, right? Then there’s the chores, laundry, food shopping etc before back to work on Monday. Can we just stop the world for a day? I think we all need it. Love to all x

Poor you OP! I have a dread of vomit as well. Hopefully everyone can get through the night and it's just a short bug...
I'm up because I've been unwell all week and my sleep pattern is still off, even though I feel better now.

@misslooloo i hope writing it down did help you. Sounds awful. Hope the HRT helps you. The things we have to put up with eh? Take a nice long walk tomorrow, listen to the birds and have a good stretch. Unmumsnetty hug to you x

You poor thing, everything crossed that you don’t get it. Open the windows if you won’t be too cold.
I had norovirus a while ago and my family didn’t catch it. Could hardly believe it but they didn’t.

I'm awake because I left my contact lenses in by mistake. Then I remembered but I was nice and warm by then so I haven’t got out of bed to sort them. Also don’t want to wake DH doing it.

Poor you, D&V is awful! I’m up with a cluster feeding newborn whilst DH deals with our toddler and his cold upstairs, but that’s not the same level as vomiting children.

Honestly, sickness is horrible (both having it and looking after others), but it passes quickly. Before you know it everyone will be back to normal

Thanks @Boringcookingquestion - just have to focus on this I suppose. MIL said once she’d rather have D&V than a cold because “it’s only one day”…I think she’s bonkers! But also understand the sentiment.

Whenever we have a round of D&V I sit on our patio the morning after with a cup of tea and just appreciate the quiet. Looking forward to that time already.

DH still making noises but hasn’t been properly sick for a little while yet and DS1 still sleeping soundly beside me so hoping we’re done for tonight.

Also awake…. DP snoring away and my anxiety is keeping my brain wide awake

Where do I start. Been just me and 2 Dd's for the last 3 years. Ex has turned into useless pile of, so all parenting and finance is down to me.
DD1 15 has MH issues, anxiety and depression, has self harmed recently. while trying to study for GCSEs, she is having weekly councilling, so that's something. But has had a really lousy week. But I've no idea how to help her. Other than to just sit up with her in small hours when she can't sleep.

I work full time in a full on role, which I'm not really doing well with ATM. I'm supposed to complete a qualification by April, and if I don't, I can't do my job. I've done pretty much zero work on it in the last 12 months, due to workloads and my own MH issues, that no one really knows about. My Manager has basically said get it done in the evenings, but she has no kids and a husband so has no clue. Even though I have told her having kids and a home to look after all by yourself doesn't work like that.

After renting for the last 10 + years, next week I'm due to complete on a house purchase. Sounds exciting and it should be. But I feel like a failure, the only reason I can get this house is thanks to my mum selling our family home and downsizing, and gifting me 60% of the house value. I feel very lucky and grateful and lucky to be in this position. But I'm 44, I should have been able to get there on my own or at least with a partner.

But there's so much to do, even before moving in, getting decorating and new carpets, electrics, etc it's so overwhelming. For a time I'll have both the new house and the rental to deal with.

Today I found out my application for life/ mortgage protection insurance got rejected due to my BMI. So that's gonna affect any insurance I now try to get, for anything.

And Tonight youngest DD10 laptop has stopped working, my tech knowledge is limited to switching it off and on again but that hasn't worked, so got to sort that out somehow too.

And today the ear infection I had a few weeks ago has returned.

Wow its weird writing it down. How do I do it all

I feel your pain! Currently sat with my 16 year old who has stupidly, along with his friend, drank the entire contents of my alcohol cupboard dribs and drabs over 1.5 hours. Emetaphobic too and no one else here to clean up 😥 It sucks. Hope your little one will be ok, mine is self inflicted at least!

@78gingernuts in case nobody has told you - you’re amazing. What a bloody hard situation to be in. I don’t think receiving help in your 40s is so unusual any more (sadly), we’re in our 30s and still renting and no hope of buying somewhere in the near future without help from DP. Who have criteria if they are to help that we don’t want to go along with. That’s a whole other thread though. Wish I could solve all your problems x

Oh no @Justanotherdaytoday that would also be one of my worst nightmares. We can do hard things - that’s what I keep thinking. Every time DS1 moves I tense up but then I think well, if he is sick, it’ll happen then it’ll be over. Only helps marginally but is a start! Very thankful DH is big enough to take care of himself because he’s been going almost 7 hours now and I can hear him moaning and gagging from here 😓

Oh wow that is a long time 😥 If this is any consolation at all when my children were very young whenever they had D & V I used to call my parents down and literally hide in my bedroom crying, I'd starve myself for the week after to make sure that if I did catch it that I wasn't sick. So I've come a long way! I've successfully cleaned the bathroom, 🤮I'm just watching over him now. How are you feeling? You can do this

@SuspiciousLampshade thank you for your kind words it has been a long time since anyone said that.
It's hard accepting financial help, even with no strings whatsoever the guilt and feeling indebted just eats at me.

I wish you the best of luck, but time just goes so quick, don't leave it too, being the wrong side of forty really hit my mortgage options.

I hope your family feel better soon.

@Justanotherdaytoday oh wow, proud of you for being able to clean the bathroom tonight, you’ve come so so far!

I haven’t slept but have been resting between my two boys and thinking it’s not been too bad, then DS1 had a little cry out in his sleep and a cough (totally normal for him) and now I’m wide awake and my heart is beating fast again. Merde.

How’s your boy doing?

@SuspiciousLampshade oh that's the worst when something just sets you on edge again! Bless them, you must be exhausted though. I doubt any of us were planning on pulling a late one tonight 🥱 Have you tried counselling or CBT? He is in my bed sleeping now, waking occasionally and apologising profusely! If you need the number of an EXCELLENT mortgage broker I'm happy to suggest one as I never thought it would be possible and was in fact turned down by four different brokers before who told me I'd NEVER get a mortgage. Ended up with a natwest one 😂 As it happens I'm now selling and my first viewing is on Monday - there's vomit all over the landing 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️