What's "private school energy"?

[Gymqueenie]

On the royal forums there was an in depth discussion about the Middleton's & Pippa's sister in law Vogue William's. A few of the posters described the women as having "that private school energy". What is that? And excuse my ignorance 🤣

Being posh and stuck up, I expect.

Feeling superior and entitled.

Had no idea who she was, so googled her, and yes, this. Swishy hair, very thin, looks stuck up.

She might be totally lovely, who knows, but that is what they mean by it.

Confidence.

Not in a 'fake it till you make it' kind of way but a genuine confidence in themselves.

I think I understand, quite preppy? Swishy hair is a must I assume!

Do people call their husbands SILs their SILs? She’s married to James Matthews’ brother and she didn’t even go to a private school.

Oh I don’t get that vibe off her at all! She seems more footballer’s wife vibe to me. Those godawful fabric softener ads…as if she does any laundry!

I personally wouldn’t put her in the same class as Pippa.

Confidence and an assumption that things and contacts will work out, not being concerned regarding finances when given opportunities, just being able to take them, knowing your education and lifestyle are solid and will give you every opportunity to achieve.

@timetochangetheoil think it was more directed at the Middleton sisters. Another poster argued Vogue wasn't privately educated..

Private school energy to me is the deeply held confidence that comes from never, ever having had to worry about money or the serious consideration that life may become hard, very hard, because there's always a connection of your own or your parents' who can help, or enough money to buy yourself out of the situation.

You have lots of energy to direct towards anything, be it work or fun, because even if it goes tits up, you're not going to be unable to pay your mortgage etc.

It's also because you haven't seen people around you, the parents of people around you struggling, relatives struggling.

Not all kids in private schools have this, probably more guaranteed in public schools.

It must be an amazing bubble to live in.

You have lots of energy to direct towards anything, be it work or fun, because even if it goes tits up, you're not going to be unable to pay your mortgage etc.

AND even if you can't pay your mortgage, someone has somewhere you can borrow for a while. You're not going to end up on benefits living in one room of a Travel Lodge with your spouse and kids while waiting for a council property to become vacant on a sink estate.

This may be the aspiration and some are definitely like this. But most of the people I've met who went to private school (at work, uni and social life) seem constantly worried they aren't achieving enough, struggle to handle any failure and can come across as a bit stuck up until you know them properly (even though admittedly they mostly have good well paid jobs).

I think the above is more likely with the ultra rich at public schools than your typical independent

lots of parents sacrifice a lot to send their kids to many private schools so I can’t imagine their kids universally feeling that stable financially

Yes landed gentry / deep inherited wealth / top public school. Not Mr and Mrs Smith tightening their belts to afford St Custards down the road.

Vogue in my opinion doesn't have that 'public school energy' I would say she went to a really good state school

Vogue Williams not very "classy"

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My dd has this even though she’s year 10 and only been going for 18 months. I think it’s rubbed off from her friends. Their parents are pretty much all a lot wealthier than us. She has always done a lot of extra curricular and now happy to pretend our family are on apar. It’s a little game really and the truth doesn’t matter to her but it may take her far. I didn’t realise the demographic beforehand but there are a lot of farming families.

It will take her into farming?! In our small city the state and private teens mix socially you can’t tell them apart. But lots of middle class professionals send their kids to the single sex stAte schools so they are from similar backgrounds..

St Custards

I would interpret it as privileged, condescending, naive, overblown confidence in self, and a sense of superiority.

@NeuroWasabi @Changechangychange vogue Williams and posh in the same sentence 😂😂😂😂

Vogue William's 'royal connection' is that she is married to a guy, whose brother is married to someone, whose sister is married to a Royal! This doesn't make her royal.
She doesn't come across as having been privately educated to me at all. More, footballers' wife/Essex Girl vibe. But not from Essex, obviously, because of an accent.

This is what I see too. Its obviously not all private school individuals. Many dont have a vibe at all.

Not all privately educated kids come from really rich families and nor are they are oozing confidence, smug or any of the other crap that is regularly spouted out. Some are but there are a vast number that a not.