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Don't want to go to NYE party

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Notjusta · 31/12/2022 12:12

I'm really just venting as I know I don't have to go - but I really cannot be arsed with it. I'm over socialising now, I don't want a hangover tomorrow, I don't want to be worrying about DS15 sneaking booze and getting drunk, I don't want to be walking home in the early hours.

DH will be all sad if I say I don't want to go and I can't trust him to keep an eye on teen DS if I'm not there.

How do I get into more of a party mood?! Or how do I help my DH understand me not wanting to go isn't a horrible anib of him or the party hosts (friends of ours).

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isthismylifenow · 31/12/2022 12:16

Meh I'm with you OP. I'm going out with a friend as she's had a crapper of a year (well haven't we all but hers has been bad), so I said I'd be her wing girl tonight to see the year out . I don't really want to go and would be happy to stay home and watch the telly.

But I said I would go and I'm not going to drop her now. So I'm going as a support base.

I'm sure I'll be OK when I get there, but the thought of it isn't thrilling me...

therealmccoy1234 · 31/12/2022 12:20

Are you me? I don't want to go to a party tonight either. I'm going to have a nap this afternoon and then a really long shower and hope it perks me up. I'm not getting there early - party starts from 7 but I've said I don't want to arrive til gone 8 really

Palmfrond · 31/12/2022 12:24

Ha OP. Me neither. Kids crawling up the walls hours past their bedtime, having drinks pushed on me. I never got NYE. What am I celebrating exactly?

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Notjusta · 31/12/2022 12:31

therealmccoy1234 · 31/12/2022 12:20

Are you me? I don't want to go to a party tonight either. I'm going to have a nap this afternoon and then a really long shower and hope it perks me up. I'm not getting there early - party starts from 7 but I've said I don't want to arrive til gone 8 really

Yep I was thinking of trying to arrive later but I think the kids are going to be clamouring to get there ASAP.

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Notjusta · 31/12/2022 12:32

Oh anib in my OP was supposed to be snub!

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Paranoidandroidmarvin · 31/12/2022 12:38

I never agree in the first place. People always say oh u will want to go on the night. No I don’t. I have being social , crowds , loud music and I don’t drink so I get that thrown at me as well asking why.
I am in my pjs, eating pizza and watching the tv. As a very huge introvert that makes me happy

iamthesparrow · 31/12/2022 13:14

I'm so done with socialising. Really don't want to go out tonight.

whattodo1975 · 31/12/2022 13:16

Stay at home with your son and let DH enjoy the party.

Awrite · 31/12/2022 13:19

I'm the sociable one out of dh and me. I stopped agreeing to Hogmanay parties years ago. No regrets.

katepilar · 31/12/2022 13:39

Its such a shame people are forced to go to parties when they dont enjoy them. I dont get this partying drinking culture at all.

Always4Brenner · 31/12/2022 13:41

Thank god I stopped parties decades ago. Chocolates and stranger things for me tonight won’t even see new year in.

slightlybonkersmum · 31/12/2022 13:49

Same here, new years eve is a total let down of an evening. Husband has booked a table with mates at the pub and we are going out at 7pm. So cannot be bothered. Takeaway and a movie is more my idea of new year fun

MeMyBooksAndMyCats · 31/12/2022 13:51

I'm not going out either. It's an anniversary of a very close family members death, ever since they passed away I've never seen the point in NYE.

LlynTegid · 31/12/2022 14:06

Say no now and think of how you can spend your evening at home.

ifonly4 · 31/12/2022 14:25

I'm only going out tonight for DH as I'll have to go to work on five hours sleep, and really need to be alert tomorrow as have no support if there's a problem with my first task.

DH has got good friends, but not many - he'd just said to me he wished he had one or two more friends, when a couple we know invited us and another couple for NYE - we've socialised as a group before - he likes their DHs and gets on well with them, so I'm doing it for him. In reality, I'll have a nice time as they're a great group, but I'm too old for lack of sleep.

AtSomePointInLife · 31/12/2022 15:30

You don't need to drink if you don't want to. I've not had any alcohol for the past year, been to 3 parties this Christmas and even hosted one, still not touched a drop. It's all about the clear head the day after, nothing better 😁

pompei8309 · 31/12/2022 15:33

Notjusta · 31/12/2022 12:12

I'm really just venting as I know I don't have to go - but I really cannot be arsed with it. I'm over socialising now, I don't want a hangover tomorrow, I don't want to be worrying about DS15 sneaking booze and getting drunk, I don't want to be walking home in the early hours.

DH will be all sad if I say I don't want to go and I can't trust him to keep an eye on teen DS if I'm not there.

How do I get into more of a party mood?! Or how do I help my DH understand me not wanting to go isn't a horrible anib of him or the party hosts (friends of ours).

But why do you need to drink until a hangover, can you not enjoy yourself without alcohol? and what your 15 yrs old doing stealing alcohol? can you not just allow him to have a beer or something so he don’t need to steal ?

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Notjusta · 31/12/2022 15:43

pompei8309 · 31/12/2022 15:33

But why do you need to drink until a hangover, can you not enjoy yourself without alcohol? and what your 15 yrs old doing stealing alcohol? can you not just allow him to have a beer or something so he don’t need to steal ?

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Oh yes totally he will be allowed a drink - but he and his mates are at a stage where they want to experiment a bit with alcohol so it's trying to manage that in a busy party situation where they can easily snaffle more than they've been allocated.

And yes of course I can enjoy myself without alcohol/getting drunk. But equally I know these people and what the party will be like. I just need to make sure I don't get caught up in it too!!

I would really rather just be enjoying something nice for dinner and a glass or two at home.

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stbrandonsboat · 31/12/2022 15:48

I haven't been to a NYE party since 1984 😂

Just cannot be bothered.

Catshaveiteasy · 31/12/2022 16:52

stbrandonsboat · 31/12/2022 15:48

I haven't been to a NYE party since 1984 😂

Just cannot be bothered.

Wow! Did something awful happen that night?!!

CovertImage · 31/12/2022 16:54

God, what a miserable thread

mackthepony · 31/12/2022 16:56

Wow! Did something awful happen that night?

^

No, she just realised NYE is the shittest night

Anotherdayinfaradise · 31/12/2022 17:01

I’m sure it’ll be fine and just think this time tomorrow it’ll be a distant memory.

tedgran · 31/12/2022 17:05

Going to have nice meal at home with DH,
and probably be in bed by 10.30. Will WhatsApp DCs and DGCs when we go to bed.

HappyMeal564 · 31/12/2022 17:21

I swing between being sad that I've not got a babysitter so not going anywhere to pleased that I can go to bed early 😂