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Don't want to go to NYE party

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Notjusta · 31/12/2022 12:12

I'm really just venting as I know I don't have to go - but I really cannot be arsed with it. I'm over socialising now, I don't want a hangover tomorrow, I don't want to be worrying about DS15 sneaking booze and getting drunk, I don't want to be walking home in the early hours.

DH will be all sad if I say I don't want to go and I can't trust him to keep an eye on teen DS if I'm not there.

How do I get into more of a party mood?! Or how do I help my DH understand me not wanting to go isn't a horrible anib of him or the party hosts (friends of ours).

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Mumrey · 31/12/2022 17:49

Hate NYE parties, much prefer to stay at home, have a glass of wine, watch a decent film then go to bed. Hubby feels the same at me.

I know, what a jolly couple !!

Always4Brenner · 31/12/2022 17:55

mackthepony · 31/12/2022 16:56

Wow! Did something awful happen that night?

^

No, she just realised NYE is the shittest night

Exactly totally over rated. Decided that decades ago.

jessieminto · 31/12/2022 17:56

I don't want to go either. It's just over to MIL, with all the family. Quiet drinks and board games with adults and by DS11. DH has been out all day at the football, I've had the shits since eating Xmas pud yesterday, rubbish sleep and feel exhausted.

I want to stay behind, take a bottle of wine to bed and be near to the toilet. Listen to my own choice of music and drink as much as I want (not as much as I possibly can!) and chill out on my own terms.

I don't think I have had any time on my own in the house where I'm not working, since Pre Covid. I'm an introvert an crave alone time.

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Glittertwins · 31/12/2022 17:57

I've never liked NYE and the enforced "you will have fun", even more so since pubs started charging ticket prices and all the spontaneity has gone.

LoveAHolidayOrTwo · 31/12/2022 18:05

I used to feel like this until about 8 years ago, then quite suddenly it hit me that we really do only have one life and actually I will get more out of my life and enjoy it more by embracing these special occasions compared to having yet another quiet night in.
Now I love to organise big treats for my birthday, go out at New Year, Valentine’s etc and any other opportunities I get.
The funny thing is I actually enjoy the following night in 10 times more than if I hadn’t made the effort and done something the night before.
So if you really don’t want to go to the party stay home and have the quiet night in, or you could go and have a night in tomorrow and the next day and the next day.

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Notjusta · 31/12/2022 19:03

LoveAHolidayOrTwo · 31/12/2022 18:05

I used to feel like this until about 8 years ago, then quite suddenly it hit me that we really do only have one life and actually I will get more out of my life and enjoy it more by embracing these special occasions compared to having yet another quiet night in.
Now I love to organise big treats for my birthday, go out at New Year, Valentine’s etc and any other opportunities I get.
The funny thing is I actually enjoy the following night in 10 times more than if I hadn’t made the effort and done something the night before.
So if you really don’t want to go to the party stay home and have the quiet night in, or you could go and have a night in tomorrow and the next day and the next day.

I get what you are saying - I'm the other way around. I used to love it but now I don't really.

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Divebar2021 · 31/12/2022 19:13

I’m very into the idea of celebrating these special events as they come along but I’m very much done and dusted with NYE. I have in fact been invited out for drinks tomorrow so looking forward to that rather than being crammed into a pub tonight. I’m happy not to have an invitation tonight although I suspect I’d go just to support my friends.

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