Just need to rant!!!!

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So just going to start off. My boyfriend (who is the father of my son) has a brother and wife who I can just tell despise me

It was recently our sons (1st) birthday. Everyone either side asked for something to get him. I give little things I don’t expect family to get massive gifts. His brother never asked. I gave the benefit of the doubt in that maybe with 3 kids and a loan to pay for the recent wedding, they didn’t have much spare.

The amount of gifts doesn’t bother me! He’s 1 and tbh I ended up asking for family to buy him pjs or clothes because he doesn’t need anymore toys etc! It’s the thought in them and family time that matter on the birthday.

so, they hand a wrapped gift. I thought this is nice!

they got him a girl toy? Now again it’s not me wanting a big lavish gift - but at least buy a gift for my son, that is for boys?

I thought it was really thoughtless and people have agreed with me

My boyfriend sits on the fence a lot he wants to be neutral but him and other family members see his brothers wife steers him and pupeterrs him a lot. But wow

id rather they just didn’t wrap that gift and gave it to a little girl instead

No arguments over toys and gender etc here please - this gift was clearly given as a big message of “watch us be completely thoughtless”

I'm sorry but what a ridiculous post. A doll and pram is not a "girl toy", it's just a toy.

Your sons penis is not going to drop off if he plays with a doll.

Ds had a doll at that age and loved it. He's nearly 5 now and loves playing with the toy pram we have. He's also been given a lot of stuff second hand, which I fully support. There's enough plastic crap out there in the world, I'd rather something was regifted than dumped. Really not seeing the issue here.

Right. So the problem is actually they gave a toy that would deliberately annoy you.

I'm afraid this makes you even more unreasonable op.

If they know and you know that a 'girl' toy would make you rant, then you need a serious look in the mirror op.

This. They could have got him something age appropriate instead.

Seriously are we still here?

My boy loved his pram and dolly when he was learning to walk between 1 and 2. He could hold the handles and toddle around the house. He'd cuddle baby and we talked about being gentle. I think it's a great gift for both physical and social development.

I think you're taking it too personally. You say 'my' son and that they don't like you and imply the gift was a dig at you. Don't they like the father too? You obviously don't like them so I suspect anything they do will come across as wrong.