Can't stand seeing clutter . Is anyone like this?

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I hate seeing clutter on the sides. Whether its the front room kitchen or bedrooms im very much things should be hidden away .
This sounds horrible i know but Im really struggling with seeing my childrens toys ,pictures, lego, pens all sorts of stuff on their sides of their bedroom my eldest has just got a desk for her room the stuff that she wants to keep on top of it it is really bugging me.
I shouldn't feel like this as its there rooms. They keep there rooms tidy but its the stuff that bugs me help how do I deal with this

Me too. I hate clutter of any kind. Clever storage is a godsend like kallax units for toys. Encourage kids to tidy up. My 4 year old (my eldest) really enjoys tidying up to theme tunes off youtube like movie themetunes.

100% the same. Drives me crackers! I'll be interested in any suggestions!!!

You suck it up in their bedrooms otherwise you risk being an unpleasant controlling parent.

Well, desks were made for things to be placed on them. As long as it’s reasonably tidy I wouldn’t get involved. Toys can’t be kept out of sight in a house with children. There’s nothing to be ashamed of. I do appreciate tidiness but toys and pens are not things I can be bothered about.

Clutter and untidiness gives me low level anxiety. Not the sort that needs a doctor, just the feeling that every single room is irritating!

Yes I really struggle with this too. I find it hard to think clearly when it’s messy. My kids are allowed to make quite a lot of mess in their rooms but I’m a bit of a control freak about kitchen and living areas, and try to keep these areas cleared of excessive stuff.
At this time of year I find it overwhelming and I find the excessive waste packaging, extra toys and overflowing fridge quite hard to deal with. I try not to let it show too much because I know the rest of the family like it.

Some people just need visual calm, I can’t think to explain it any other way.

I have an very untidy husband and Dd. I really don’t think my husband sees the clutter. My Dd has her own home now and is trying to get on top of it.

The only way I could cope was to put certain rooms out of my mind. Every so often I couldn’t bear it any more and when my Dd was a teenager I’d just go into her room and tidy it. I’m sure she hated it when I did it, but I couldn’t stop myself.

I would try and tidy up my husbands office, but he’d accuse me of losing his stuff even though I assured him truthfully that I hadn’t thrown anything away. It stopped in the end because he was using my occasional tidies as the excuse if he couldn’t find something in this tip of a room.

Oh God, this is me too.

I’ve let go of the children’s rooms though.

My 8 year old has a love of pens, notepads and books and all things stationery. She has an huge, long desk and it’s just covered with what ever drawing project she has on the go at the time. And lego. She has two shelves of minecraft lego sets.

But it’s her space. I encourage her to try and keep it tidy but she’s “creative” 😄 so it’s hard.

Some people just need visual calm, I can’t think to explain it any other way.

yes, that’s exactly it!

And dh office is a lost cause. Thank fuck it’s just the box room. I pretend it doesn’t exist.

Exactly the same.
One day, when the kids have flown the nest, I shall live in a place that is almost soulless in its pristineness.
I cannot fucking wait.

I am going to live in an off white box with nothing on show.

I am going to be sobbing into my empty laundry basket every night. Not.

😂 I think I've found my people!

Until my DC were teens, I helped them tidy their rooms - which means I mostly did it myself but according to their preferences. Two of them like lots of their belongings on show. It's not my style and it stresses me out a bit, but just like I wouldn't tidy someone's house when visiting them (although I've wanted to!), I feel the stress and leave it anyway.

If it’s their rooms then I shut the door and pretend it doesn’t exist.

If they leave their crap lying about the house then I tend to get very twitchy and have been known to explode after several polite requests.

I am also looking forward to my soulless, clutter free house. If DH goes first I shall have a skip on the driveway as soon as the mourning period is over. Possibly earlier.

Me too. Just jobs waiting to happen

Well im certainly glad its not just me. God I felt awful admitting I don't like the stuff they make and want to have on show

Oh god I hate it too. We are in a holiday cottage with my in laws, they are so messy. Crosswords and newspapers everywhere. I have explained that mess sends me all twitchy and I have packed all thier rubbish into piles and placed by thier bedroom door but it returns and multiplies.. how can this happen, it's witchcraft....only another week and we will be home to my nice tidy house.

I didn’t used to be like this but I’m very much like this now. I can’t rest in a cluttered room.

Definitely me. No need to feel guilty about it either. You have the right to have your needs met/validated too.

I hat seeing people getting there and their mixed up 🤣

You sound like you have OCD

What you see as "mess: and "clutter" is their beloved stuff ready to be used.

Hate even 🤣

Controlling and uptight.

@bert3400 it’s their holiday cottage too surely