Can't stand seeing clutter . Is anyone like this?

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I hate seeing clutter on the sides. Whether its the front room kitchen or bedrooms im very much things should be hidden away .
This sounds horrible i know but Im really struggling with seeing my childrens toys ,pictures, lego, pens all sorts of stuff on their sides of their bedroom my eldest has just got a desk for her room the stuff that she wants to keep on top of it it is really bugging me.
I shouldn't feel like this as its there rooms. They keep there rooms tidy but its the stuff that bugs me help how do I deal with this

I’m the same OP. Everyone who knows me thinks I’m v chilled out. It takes a lot to get me stressed in a work or situational capacity; I’m v spontaneous and have done a lot of adventurous travel etc.

However, I grew up in an immaculate household and am in a constant state of low level anxiety about mess at home. I walk into a room and within seconds spot everything wrong with it (DIY snagging type stuff), through to what needs cleaning, plus mess. I rarely genuinely relax in a room. I’ve learned to live with it as I have DP/DC, but learning to live with it comes as a cost to me and not other people. I’m not obsessively clean or tidy but know my preferred standards, whilst below perfectionist, are higher than what most people consider ok. It’s a source of internal turmoil for me in all honesty.

I’m the opposite and wish I was more like you. I follow all these cleaning pages on instagram and YouTube but it doesn’t inspire me. I think it’s partly an ‘I give up, no one else helps to keep things clutter free’ but also partly this constant depression I carry around. So I would love some of what you have, I wish I had more get up and go.

Exactly this especially as mine are now teenagers 😭 I have to shut their bedroom door over so I don't see it.
It's their room and they do tidy/de clutter now and then but I have come to accept that I can not control it and have made my peace with it.

Me too! Mess stresses me out so much and the past month our house has been getting worse.
People always say it's really tidy but there's stuff on the shelves/microwave and in the halls and I could honestly happy throw it all in the bin but DH won't let me.

I’m the opposite. I like “stuff”, and I think it makes a room look nice and comfortable. I don’t like anything too tidy, because I can’t relax.

Yep, clutter messes with my head.

@SouperNoodle isn’t that the point of shelves?

I struggle a bit with this too, but much more so if I’m on a bad mood or tired, I’ve noticed, then it really brings me down. Ridiculous no?

I don’t understand this aspect of myself at all. My best response is to remove my glasses - then I can’t see it …

Having no clutter doesnt mean an empty immaculate soulless house!

I don’t like living with clutter, but I try to accept that DD (6) likes having stuff, and her room is hers. Teach them to take care of their stuff, to keep their rooms tidy, and how to pass on things they’ve outgrown, but accept that they might treasure things that don’t have meaning to you.

Oh I really struggle too. DC are very crafty, pens, paper, lego +++, plus they both leave socks/cups everywhere (like DH!!). I try to relax about their rooms but I feel so much calmer if everywhere else is neat.

Things put neatly on shelves, yes.
Crap piled high, no.

I’m the opposite

tidy homes make me really anxious- I just can’t relax if I’m always on edge in case I make anything untidy

it feels cosy and safe if there’s clutter around

Watch some if Dana K Whites YouTube's or listen to podcasts. You don't have to be a hoarder to benefit from her wise words. In your case 'clutter threshold' videos would benefit you most. You have to start with your own stuff & communal space & hope your DH starts to see the benefits & joins in.

1. Take a rubbish bag and a box you can take things to a charity shop in. Remove all actual rubbish & things you can donate.

2 Easy - all things that have another place n the house, take it straight there. anyway, I could type pages if stuff, best to go watch her podcasts.

@UnicornsDoExist
T works for you,
again, Dana K White, her podcasts will really help you.
And really make a difference and NOT leave pikes if stuff to sort out.

she will explain certain theories that are about decluttering to a clutter threshold that works for you, progress & only progress so that you can do 5/10/15 minutes which help not hinder.

Me too. I have learnt to close the kids bedroom doors but I can’t have clutter elsewhere. I’m not dealing well with my messy uni student Leaving a trail of belongings everywhere he goes

Me too. I've learned to suck it up when it's in their bedrooms and close the door on it even though it drives me nuts.

Thank goodness I’ve never had that problem. I hate minimalism - so soulless and sterile.

As opposed to a room full of dusty tat. No thank you, I'll never have that problem.

Bingo!

@userxx , non-minimalism does not equal a room full of dusty tat!

@toomuchlaundry errm no it's our holiday cottage, all paid for by us including all food and booze. But that's another thread completely.
Yes, we invited them as we like to share with each set of parents each Christmas - but newspapers, games, tissues 🤮, coats and pressies constantly left everywhere is making me a little crazy 😂

I'm very tidy and organised (military background) but sometimes I will leave something in a place for a specific reason. (Normally to help me remember to do something)

If that gets tidied away. I'll forget. My DH has caused me problems by doing this. I should be allowed to put things down and then go back to where they were to find them. It's my house too. I don't move his stuff.

I'm an out of sight out of mind person for sure.

Sometimes I have regular places I leave things (a hidden hook for my car keys for example). Once my DH decided to tidy it away and make it "safer" but didn't tell me.

To help you deal with it - talk to the other members of the house and come to a compromise. Find something that works for all of you and keep doing that until it becomes a habit.

I hate where there is no clutter & nothing is left out. it's looks so sterile & unloving.

I hate clutter. The Christmas decorations may last until NYE if they are lucky.

what are xmas decorations clutter.?