Hmmmm. In that case, I’d recommend a martial art that is about self-defence like Aikido.
Aikido is the way of harmony in which you take an attackers energy and redirect it to defuse their attack. The katas involve protecting your attacker as well…so you’d spin them but protect their elbow from being broken, or you’d throw them but also protect their head from hitting the ground. You might do a clothesline move to knock them, but you’re trained to hit collar bones and not the throat. How to break a choke hold and wrestle & pin someone without injuring them. It’s also perfect for smaller person defending against a larger & stronger attacker.
It includes weapons training so you can disarm someone attacking you with a knife or gun or stick/staff or even a sword.
It’s very effective, but also very anti-violence. There is no ‘sparring’ as it is all two partners and one is the attacker, the other the defender. So it’s all about learning how to defend yourself. For black belt you get attacked by five black belts at once…pretty fun. There is no winner or loser.