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BarrelOfOtters · 2022-12-28T09:32:24+00:00

My dh has a good relationship with them which helps. They are a good laugh. Look after our dog a lot and house when we away. They are good with dh’s young adult kids and his ex… I like it when they pop in…

saraclara · 28/12/2022 19:16

I miss mine. My lovely MIL taught me what being a mother (and consequently a grandmother) is about. My mum is not a good example of either.

My PILs accepted me into the family with warmth and hospitality from the outset. They were totally accepting (and I probably wasn't the greatest DIL in the early days). My PIL would have given you the shirt of his back, and my MIL was love personified. They loved us all and we all loved them.

My SIL and I (my DH died a decade ago) try to keep that whole family warmth and the regular get togethers going, and my adult kids and hers all get along wonderfully. My PILs set that example of warmth and tolerance, and I'm very grateful to them for it.

WishIWasACavewoman · 28/12/2022 19:22

Curate's egg. I love my FIL, who's kind, gentle, interesting and absolutely gorgeous with the DC, endlessly patient and imaginative. Get on very well with younger BIL too, who's creative and sparky and fun. MIL though is self-centred to an extreme and deeply unempathetic, as well as being a bit thick, so hard work. Other BIL is uncommunicative so while I don't actually get on with him it's non-intrusive! I arrange for us all to spend meals and significant days together for the sake of their relationship with the DC and for my DH.

MaryDerry · 28/12/2022 19:23

I love mine. My FIL died 2 years ago and I miss him so much especially over Christmas as we'd sit back and giggle at absolutely nothing, we had so many little in-jokes with each other (not about other people, nothing nasty).

My MIL is totally unpredictable but I enjoy her company. And I love my BIL, he gives the best hugs. SIL does drive me (and her own family) crazy as she lives in a world where its "me me me" all the time, but if she manages to switch off from her other self, she is kind, support and wonderfully encouraging.

Wasn't always easy, had some family dynamics that made things tricky for a few years. But we did work through it and there's real affection for each other.

I come from.a family who don't do hugs or I love yous... and this family are full of hugs and showing love and telling you what they think you are good at. A great ego boost!

theparkisrising · 28/12/2022 19:33

Mine were wonderful. I had a lovely dad but he died when I was young. My FIL was like a second dad to me. MiL was a kind and thoughtful lady who always loved us very much. They are both missed and their ashes are scattered on our land.

BuckarooBanzai · 28/12/2022 19:42

I did have literally the best mother in law in the world but my ex forbids her from seeing me. Sadly she toes the line other wise my ex stops her from seeing my DD's, she sobbed in my arms as we said our last goodbyes. Fast forward to my new MIL, the women is hideous!! DP has never had a partner she's liked. It all stems from the fact that her mother took DP away from her when he was a baby. I just can't win. So after she shouted at me in the street I cut her off. I facilitate DP to see her but she treats him badly. DP still not allowed inside her house since covid. This makes me laugh as DP's brother is a golden child drug addict who snorts coke in the local dive at 3.30 on a Wednesday afternoon. DP's brother a committed cock lodger in between victims, sorry, relationships, lives of course in her box room. He comes and goes as he pleases but my beautiful DP is not good enough for indoors.

HellfireBaby · 28/12/2022 19:44

Wouldn’t piss on my MIL if she was on fire.

LindorDoubleChoc · 28/12/2022 19:47

Yes, I love them both. They live a distance away and we don't live in each other's pockets but I think they are good, kind people and I don't feel any animosity towards them whatsoever. There have been times when they've annoyed me but I know without a shadow of doubt that they are better parents to my DH than my parents were to me. They are very loving and supportive grandparents too.

Oblomov22 · 28/12/2022 19:49

My mil was lovely, she passed, but she was lovely. All Dh's siblings (loads) are lovely. Dh gets on just fine with my mum.

Only on mn is mil a thing, for none of my friends.

OrangePomander · 28/12/2022 20:02

Yes, mine are great. Also I share more interests with them than I do with my own parents.

icebearforpresident · 28/12/2022 20:02

I love my in laws, especially my mother in law who I get on with incredibly well. I’ve lost both my parents, dad died when I was 18 & mum died a couple of years ago, when mum died I was at the hospital with her and my husband was at work, he couldn’t leave until someone else arrived (key holder on duty that day) so my mother in law came down to the house so I wouldn’t be coming home to an empty house. I will forever be grateful to her for that.

limitededitionbarbie · 28/12/2022 20:39

I never got to meet mine as they died when DH was a teenager.

He gets on very well with my mum and dad. If we were to ever split up, they'd still have that relationship. He's very close with my dad as is my DSS.

maddiemookins16mum · 28/12/2022 22:38

icebearforpresident · 28/12/2022 20:02

I love my in laws, especially my mother in law who I get on with incredibly well. I’ve lost both my parents, dad died when I was 18 & mum died a couple of years ago, when mum died I was at the hospital with her and my husband was at work, he couldn’t leave until someone else arrived (key holder on duty that day) so my mother in law came down to the house so I wouldn’t be coming home to an empty house. I will forever be grateful to her for that.

How very lovely.

Anyone else get on well with their in laws?

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