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How often do you see your friends?

32 replies

DuchessofSandwich · 28/12/2022 07:08

Inspired by another thread, how often do you see / want to see your friends?

I think a couple of times a year is enough, what do you think?

OP posts:
Bepis · 28/12/2022 07:10

I probably only see my friend once every couple of weeks. I only have 1 good friend and I don't really have time for more than that. I'm also not the kind of person that likes to socialise a lot.

Jellybean2023 · 28/12/2022 07:27

When not on maternity leave I'd say my close friendship group (4 of us) once a month. More acquaintance type friends maybe once every couple of months? Hard to fit in once you have a family and kids.

InterstellarDrifter · 28/12/2022 07:36

Some I see regularly and we'll go for a walk or shopping. Like once a week. Others a few times a year.

Wonderwoman333 · 28/12/2022 07:57

Some friends I see once weekly, others maybe once monthly

Overthebow · 28/12/2022 08:02

Less now we have kids. I see some friends every week or two, but some I only see every couple of months (the ones who don’t have kids that makes meet ups harder).

sonjadog · 28/12/2022 08:04

Some I see weekly, some monthly, some yearly. Depends on where they live and how close friends we are.

user1487194234 · 28/12/2022 08:06

Best friend a couple of times a week
Close group including BF once a month
School friends 4 times a year

TedMullins · 28/12/2022 08:10

A couple of times a year wouldn’t be anywhere near enough for me! I see friends once or twice a week

BertieBotts · 28/12/2022 08:17

A couple of times a YEAR? That seems much too far apart for me.

For local friends I try to see them every couple of weeks. I try to socialise in groups so that this makes things easier.

Obviously some friends live far away so I might only see them once a year or less often, that's fine (and I love it when we do meet up) but for friends who are local, I try to see them often, even if sometimes it's several months for whatever reason, that would seem like a long time.

EspeciallyD · 28/12/2022 08:22

I'd say on average I meet up with a friend or group once a week but not the same ones every week. There are some I only see maybe once a year because of distance.

PandaOrLion · 28/12/2022 08:23

every week we’ll see someone

Dogsgottabone · 28/12/2022 08:25

I see my good friend twice a year, though last time we managed 3 times. We live at opposite ends of the country.

There are a few mums who I might walk the dog with every six weeks or so but I wouldn't socialise at night with them etc.

SquigglePigs · 28/12/2022 08:43

We've got good friends who live a long way away and we see them 3-4 times a year. I've got another friend who I probably only see once a year & distance and kids has made it harder recently. A local friend I go out with about once a month. DH sees his friendship group once a week for an activity and go out for dinner about once a month. Other friends we see every couple of months with all the kids. It varies depending on proximity and family commitments, kids ages, jobs etc.

Parky04 · 28/12/2022 08:45

Local friends, twice a week, as well as trips away with each other 2/3 times a year. Friends who live far away, maybe 3 times a year.

EmmaStone · 28/12/2022 09:22

Different friends I see at different frequencies. Local friends, we'll go for walks, or go to exercise classes together, pop round for cups of tea or occasional dinner parties. Friends further afield, it takes more of an effort to see, so a few times a year.

PumpkinsandSpice · 28/12/2022 09:22

I'm a member of two social groups (hobby related), which run every week so I see a lot of these friends. Tbh they're more 'acquaintance' type friends at the moment, but I can feel some long-term type friendships forming with a few, which is lovely.

The people I class as 'close friends' , 2 or 3 who live locally, who I went to school with/worked together etc, I only see if I make the contact. I tend to message them about every 3 months suggesting a catch-up, which then does happen but then no contact from them again.

I may stop making the effort and just concentrate on my new 'acquaintance' type friends. A shame, as I value long-term friendships, but I just get the feeling the others aren't that bothered now, and I'm having to make all the running.

NerrSnerr · 28/12/2022 09:25

I see my school friends 2-3 times a year. My university friends about the same (although we do a Zoom meet every month or so). I see local friends more often, but that's often in passing, on the school run etc.

Hbh17 · 28/12/2022 09:27

My 2 closest friends, of 40+ years standing, both live over 200 miles away from me (in different places). One has poor health, so at the moment it's probably only once or twice a year.
The other I see more often - maybe half a dozen times a year, and including a week on holiday together.
The point is that, if you are good friends, then it doesn't matter too much as you soon pick up where you left off, and as long as you keep in close contact in between.

yadaya · 28/12/2022 09:28

My best friends - at least once a week. We have a standing arrangement to meet at a certain time every week unless we're on holiday or busy but we're often on holiday together!
We also spend time together on special occasions such as Christmas Day, New Year's Eve, Easter etc.

My other friends - every couple of months but we don't live local to each other so it's more difficult to arrange.

ClarathecrosseyedLioness · 28/12/2022 09:28

We see friends a few times a year due to distance.

They live all over the country because we have moved around a bit (DH was in Armed Forces)

It's nice to have breaks in different parts of the UK !

dustofneptune · 28/12/2022 09:28

It just depends on the weather, how new the friendship is, how close we live, what we have in common, etc.

My best friend of 15yrs lives down the road. Used to meet up weekly and text loads, but now he has a gf and I adopted a dog, our lifestyles are very different. We now tend to text infrequently and meet up around what we have in common - gigs every 1-3 months. The love is still there, just a different phase of our relationship.

I have newer local friends who I meet up regularly with, but for low key stuff like dog walks. Might be weekly in the summer, not so much in the winter.

Overseas friends, I see once every 1-5 years.

I feel like I see friends more if they're new local friends and we have an activity in common. Meeting up just to drink / have dinner / "catch up" feels forced and doesn't appeal to me that much, for some reason, so I tend to put it off and not do it at all.

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 28/12/2022 09:29

I see at least 2 friends each week, not always same friends. Easy though as we all have kids so meet up so kids can play while we chat! 1 set of friends we nornally see every week eitherfor a takeaway at one of our houses, of out with the kids somewhere.

OP if you were my friend and you only wanted to see me a couple of times a year, i wouldn't be putting much effort in as that isn't a friendship to me!

HomeAGnome · 28/12/2022 09:33

Less and less , we all have aging parents and grandchildren come along so that stretches commitments out

DelurkingAJ · 28/12/2022 09:44

None of my close friends are local (all more than an hour away) so it’s probably a couple of times a year. I wish it were more but we’re not near anything they’d come to so if they come to us it’s just to see us, which was fine pre DC but is much more difficult now (for them). Equally, my DC now have commitments etc at the weekend locally so it’s harder for me to just sweep everyone onto the train for the day like I used to. Pre DC I’d have seen someone every week, now it’s more like monthly.

Frankly, it sucks, but I’ve made my peace with it for now and I know we’ll all pick up again once DC are old enough to be left home alone.

Fentylipgloss · 28/12/2022 09:56

I speak to my friend of 33 years everyday without fail, maybe more. Getting to see her is harder because of work, kids and she has a new partner.

My other good friend, is a man, we see each other once every 6-8 weeks. He lives quite a distance from me and work commitments keeps him very busy, but when we do see each other he will stay for the weekend.

Other friends I will see sporadically and I'm okay with that :-)