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Pretty sure my partner's dad saw me naked

70 replies

blubberball · 26/12/2022 00:39

I'm staying at my partner's house. I was in the bathroom getting ready for bed naked. I opened the door to go back to the bedroom, and his dad was wandering around in the hall. I said Aaahhh and shut the door, and kind of laughed it off out of embarrassment.

We had said good night a couple of hours previously, but they live next door and do just pop round every now and again. We usually put a chain across the door after they leave, but we forgot this evening.

Hopefully he didn't pop in 30 minutes previously, or he might have heard noises.

Does this sort of thing happen to other people? Just feels a bit like a Bridget Jones moment.

Going to be nice and awkward tomorrow. How do I even navigate this socially? Cringe

OP posts:
mrsharrisgoestoparis · 26/12/2022 00:46

His dad sounds like a pervert prowling his sons hallway after midnight knowing what you two were going to be doing on Xmas night

WafflesOrIceCream · 26/12/2022 00:50

Why on earth is your partner's dad hovering around his sons place at that time when your staying over?!Do mention this to your partner so that it doesn't happen again!

XanaduKira · 26/12/2022 00:51

Totally agree with @mrsharrisgoestoparis & @WafflesOrIceCream - sounds very strange to me.

DowntonCrabby · 26/12/2022 00:54

Goodness, it’s him that should be embarrassed and give you a genuine apology.

He does just sound like a perve though.

BlueSlate · 26/12/2022 00:54

Sounds like an unnecessarily odd thing for him to do...

How do you navigate it socially?

Just remember that everyone is naked under their clothes and don't forget the chain in future. You did nothing wrong.

HarrietSchulenberg · 26/12/2022 01:05

It's unlikely that he'd have come back on the off-chance that he might see you in the buff, but still a bit strange that he'd let himself back in after he'd already left. What did your partner say about it?

Itisbetter · 26/12/2022 01:07

Why was he there?

HarrietSchulenberg · 26/12/2022 01:09

Tomorrow you can either ignore it or acknowledge it with something along the lines of,
"Sorry if I gave you a fright last night, X, I thought you'd gone home", then let him explain in front of everyone what he was doing there.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 26/12/2022 01:09

Why are you wandering around naked (without locking the bathroom door) when you have guests staying?

Stop making something out of nothing. Chances are, he was more embarrassed than you.

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 26/12/2022 01:10

Sorry, re-read the OP. Why are you wandering around naked in someone else's house?

Judgyjudgy · 26/12/2022 01:12

I don't understand why people are saying the dad is a perve for being in the hall? Shouldn't you wear a towel if you're naked and going between rooms (unless it's an ensuite)? Awkward all round!

IrisCosyCottage · 26/12/2022 01:13

Just a reminder there are a lot of perverts about MN so probably best not to share stories about ILs catching you naked. 🙄

DiddyHeck · 26/12/2022 01:14

GreenFingersWouldBeHandy · 26/12/2022 01:09

Why are you wandering around naked (without locking the bathroom door) when you have guests staying?

Stop making something out of nothing. Chances are, he was more embarrassed than you.

Someone's going to feel silly when they read the OP again...

SouperNoodle · 26/12/2022 01:20

Why would he just be walking around the hallway in the middle of the night?? That's so ridiculously weird!!
Your DO needs to set some boundaries with his parents. How dare they just let themselves in at all hours.

SouperNoodle · 26/12/2022 01:22

Judgyjudgy · 26/12/2022 01:12

I don't understand why people are saying the dad is a perve for being in the hall? Shouldn't you wear a towel if you're naked and going between rooms (unless it's an ensuite)? Awkward all round!

From the OP, it sounds like it's her partner's house and they were alone. His parents live next door and his dad let himself into her DP's house and was wandering in the hall.

custardbear · 26/12/2022 01:23

Is it your home too or are you just visiting?
It's odd, I couldn't imagine popping next door to my child's home in the middle of the night especially when they're likely in bed of all lights off!
I used to scurry around naked before children too on my on home where it was just me and DH.
Your DH needs to set firm boundaries with parents

Original poster
blubberball · 26/12/2022 05:43

I'm visiting, as it's a long distance relationship, we see each other mostly at weekends and occasionally school holidays when my dc are with their dad.

We had just done the deed, and I wouldn't be wandering around with nothing on if I didn't genuinely think we were alone in the house.

I said to my dp about it, because I thought I heard his df talking to him. But he must have just been talking to himself, because my dp didn't even know he was there. I think he just popped in to get something. My dp said he didn't hear him ring the doorbell or anything.

It was about midnight, and we'd said good night to his parents when they left about 10.

I have genuinely had zero pervy/creepy vibes from his dad at all. He's a sweet old guy, completely in love with his wife. I think it was just an innocent mistake. They do usually call or ring the bell when popping round.

I think that I will mention it tomorrow, because it's a bit like the elephant in the room, as it were.

I think that my Dp probably will be having words after I leave. He just kept asking if I was OK. I said Yes, and just kind of laughing, but I think that he felt pretty bad for me.

OP posts:
Daydre4mer · 26/12/2022 05:50

Why did they come back after saying good bye/good night around 10pm? That’s the weird bit!

Original poster
blubberball · 26/12/2022 05:53

I genuinely have no idea. I think that he was getting something, but I doubt that he'll be doing that again

OP posts:
Daydre4mer · 26/12/2022 06:00

No hope not!

i would personally hate it if anyone (incl parents) thought it was fine to let themselves into my house.
i know it’s not your house.

i think I would say very clearly and infront of your DP his dad and especially his mum!

’Why we’re you wandering around DP house 2 hrs after you left last night and hovering around the bathroom door?’

Cinderella1 · 26/12/2022 06:16

Clutching for some relatively harmless explanation here but is it possible at all that the old guy has started having some issues with memory/confusion/sleepwalking? I'd definitely address it in front of everyone, even if it is in a light-hearted way ("Oh, I thought you were the Ghost of Christmas past last night - with you wondering around at midnight"). Please let us know what happens when you do 😉

ScrabbleRabbler · 26/12/2022 06:17

sounds unintentional and personally I would let it pass and not bother saying anything. Likely dad or mum left something in the sons house and he was collecting, glasses, phone or a book maybe. Or possibly they needed bread or milk? My parents are awake a lot during the night and get up to all sorts, watching films, crosswords, reading, making snacks, Facebook, endless cups of tea, even DIY!

Olivetreebutter · 26/12/2022 06:28

My assumption would be he'd come to get something/had forgotten something and didn't want to ring the bell etc as he didn't want to disturb you so late. Probably thought he'd just pop in and grab whatever it was with no one the wiser.

I'd get your DP to have a quiet word with him and say you'd got a bit of a fright coming across him in the house, and please make sure he knocks or waits in future, especially when he has guests.

ZED55JAX0 · 26/12/2022 06:51

You’re not the problem he is! He shouldn’t be wondering around and he should be giving you privacy instead
it’s him who should be ashamed and feed embarrassed

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 26/12/2022 06:54

What a horrible lack of boundaries they have! The parents live next door and let themselves in whenever they fancy even in the middle of the night? That's absurd