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I got a text from a drunk man last night

69 replies

Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:05

He's a nice man, married and known to me as part of a friendship group who like a good night out. His wife doesn't, so he usually comes alone and I have never witnessed anything but impeccable behaviour from him, no matter how much we've all had to drink.

He's also a member of my running club, a bit quicker than me, but when I'm running at my best or he's recovering from injury we sometimes run together.

It's very unusual for him to contact me direct, outside of a group chat.

Anyway about 11:30 last night, I got a message full of typos saying he was on his way home but if he gets up, do I want to run this morning. I said, OK let me know what time you're going. (Probably makes no sense if you're not a runner but I never turn down a run!)

So, it's hammering down here, I have a busy day and could do with getting showered and getting on. Am I running with him this morning, or should I just go on my own? 😆

OP posts:
Autumnisclose · 23/12/2022 08:10

Why not just text him to ask?

I don't understand the relevance of the bit about impeccable behaviour? Are you saying his intentions were untoward ? Seems like he was just asking about a run.

CantFindTheBeat · 23/12/2022 08:11

That's a lot of detail for 'will my mate turn up for our run' OP!!!!

I take it you think he fancies you?

WildFlowerBees · 23/12/2022 08:12

This was a bit click bait op! Just text and ask.

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Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:14

CantFindTheBeat · 23/12/2022 08:11

That's a lot of detail for 'will my mate turn up for our run' OP!!!!

I take it you think he fancies you?

No, I don't. And if I did I'd be running a mile.

I think it's amusing to think of the state he must have been in last night, but I'm also someone who generally turns up when I've said I will and so is he, so I don't want to go now if there's a chance he might turn up.

I'm just passing time really.

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User0610134057 · 23/12/2022 08:14

Oh well now that was an anti climax 🙄
how tf should I know?

Newwardrobe · 23/12/2022 08:16

He's probably got a stonking hangover and the last thing he wants to do is go for a run.

CantFindTheBeat · 23/12/2022 08:16

Ah, well, drop him a message and ask if he's still up for a run.

It's chucking it down here - hope it's a bit drier where you are, OP!

rockingbird · 23/12/2022 08:17

Your enjoying the fact it might be more than just a run with a married man.. 🤨

swayingpalmtree · 23/12/2022 08:18

Wow- this thread was a massive let down. Wish I hadnt bothered.

OrlandointheWilderness · 23/12/2022 08:20

He's not going 😂

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Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:21

rockingbird · 23/12/2022 08:17

Your enjoying the fact it might be more than just a run with a married man.. 🤨

No I'm really not. I'm enjoying the fact that he must have had such a heavy night, he's acted out of character. I'd be devastated if it turned out this lovely decent man was a letch.

I also have nothing to do while I wait to see if he wakes up. There's not much point texting him if he's asleep.

OP posts:
Lenald · 23/12/2022 08:23

He’s a leech because he’s asked you if you want to run?

you think he fancies you. And if you think that you should stop meeting up with him immediately.

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Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:25

Lenald · 23/12/2022 08:23

He’s a leech because he’s asked you if you want to run?

you think he fancies you. And if you think that you should stop meeting up with him immediately.

Oh nonsense and I didn't say he was a leech (letch?). That's one thing I'm confident he's not.

I only mentioned his good behaviour because I'm sure there's nothing untoward about his message.

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Itwasntevenblackpudding · 23/12/2022 08:26

@Lenald

OP said letch not leech.

Very different things.

BlueTick · 23/12/2022 08:26

We all know what people can do when they’re drunk - text and suggest inappropriate things.

If it’s highly unusual I’d not contact him and ignore it. He was probably steaming drunk and fantasised about you for a few seconds.

he may we’ll be embarrassed this morning.

just ignore it and don’t let it play your ego. He’s married. Leave him alone.

Thefriendlyone · 23/12/2022 08:26

Well what a usual thread, so a runner asked you if you fancied a run this morning. Ok.

Autumnisclose · 23/12/2022 08:28

'I got a text from a drunk man last night' is clearly meant to imply he might have been trying his luck. Then you add lots of suoerfilous detail about how he's married, his wife doesn't come out and his normally impeccable behaviour. You were definitely trying to suggest this was more than a message about going for a run.

CPL593H · 23/12/2022 08:28

Here's a thought. Text him again and ask if he's still on for the run this morning (or is his head too bad?) If he texts back you'll know. If he doesn't, by a reasonable time, you'll also know.

Lenald · 23/12/2022 08:31

Itwasntevenblackpudding · 23/12/2022 08:26

@Lenald

OP said letch not leech.

Very different things.

I did mis read but they would mean very similar things in this context any way.

Lenald · 23/12/2022 08:33

Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:25

Oh nonsense and I didn't say he was a leech (letch?). That's one thing I'm confident he's not.

I only mentioned his good behaviour because I'm sure there's nothing untoward about his message.

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If you’re so confident why are you questioning it? It is nonsense. Leave the married man alone lol

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Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:34

Lenald · 23/12/2022 08:33

If you’re so confident why are you questioning it? It is nonsense. Leave the married man alone lol

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I'm not questioning anything except whether he's likely to be fit to run 😆

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NashvilleQueen · 23/12/2022 08:34

Whilst I agree that the title suggested something more salacious I do think a man fortified by drink messaging only you to meet up the next morning even if on the pretext of a run is of note.

If he doesn't usually contact you outside of a running group and if you're the only person he's invited then I would see it as a potential come on.

So I'd probably find a way to get out of it and keep my distance.

Original poster
Fadedpicture · 23/12/2022 08:37

NashvilleQueen · 23/12/2022 08:34

Whilst I agree that the title suggested something more salacious I do think a man fortified by drink messaging only you to meet up the next morning even if on the pretext of a run is of note.

If he doesn't usually contact you outside of a running group and if you're the only person he's invited then I would see it as a potential come on.

So I'd probably find a way to get out of it and keep my distance.

I don't think so. Most of our friends will be working this morning. He knows I've finished work because I work in school.

OP posts:
LaMarschallin · 23/12/2022 08:38

Lenald · 23/12/2022 08:31

I did mis read but they would mean very similar things in this context any way.

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How would they?
I agree with Itwasntevenblackpudding, they're quite different.

DonutCrossMeIEatYou · 23/12/2022 08:40

YABU for being all impressive and exercise-y.

But essentially this thread just boils down to go for a run if you want and he’ll either message later or won’t. Get in with your day.

HOWEVER (!!!!) this feels like a non-thread so I agree with PP that your spidey sense has been tickled and you are thinking it was a bit weird. Time will tell!