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If you were in 2 minds leaving London… and did… did you regret it?

135 replies

lking679 · 19/12/2022 12:52

Just that.

If you lived in London and weren’t sure about leaving… then made the move and did…
did you end up regretting it?

OP posts:
RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 10:13

Igmum · 20/12/2022 10:00

Never regretted it for a minute. I live in Manchester so plenty of big city advantages plus I can actually afford a naice house with a garden. I loved living in London but realistically didn't use and couldn't afford most of it. So relieved I was never a parent in London

Moving to Manchester is different, I think. It’s a fantastic city and has most of the stuff London offers (buzz, diversity, culture), albeit on a smaller scale. And lots of cool stuff of its own. I think most hardcore Londoners could live there quite happily. I certainly could.

Odessafile · 20/12/2022 10:23

Not being funny but don't most Londoners move to the desirable places outside London ? It's not like they move to Bolton or Oldham so why would things be worse ?
Every thread like this always has ex london folk going on about how great life up north is, living mortgage free, WFH, but they always head to places like York or Harrogate which are incredibly expensive.

TitaniasAss · 20/12/2022 10:26

Zippedydoo123 · 19/12/2022 18:10

People seem less interesting elsewhere. But more relaxed.

I've never found this at all. Quite the opposite in fact. Perhaps I spend more time talking and, most likely, listening to people now, I don't know. The place I live in now is full of people who have done and experienced some quite remarkable things so I don't believe that London has the monopoly on 'interesting' people. Though I guess that whole concept is subjective anyway.

Crikeyalmighty · 20/12/2022 10:28

No- but we moved to Bath which punches above its weight in many ways -. I think a lot of this really depends on personality and what you would miss and stuff like do you drive? Can you afford 2 cars? Do you like pottering in town a lot or enjoy being at home a fair bit, like long walks etc, need really high speed internet for work . i would be bored living very rural- but I totally appreciate others would love it . A small city/big town with nice countryside close by suits me fine. We also go to London a fair bit with work (Well Richmond area)

lynthesearesexpeople · 20/12/2022 10:30

Odessafile · 20/12/2022 10:23

Not being funny but don't most Londoners move to the desirable places outside London ? It's not like they move to Bolton or Oldham so why would things be worse ?
Every thread like this always has ex london folk going on about how great life up north is, living mortgage free, WFH, but they always head to places like York or Harrogate which are incredibly expensive.

Well, I moved to a shithole after being priced out of London. Hate it. The locals here mainly hate it too. Absolute run down, drug infested dump but we couldn’t afford anywhere else.

But I guess I am in the minority on mumsnet.

TerraNostra · 20/12/2022 10:31

What do you mean by “local town”? That sounds like you aren’t actually in London. Or do you mean a local centre like Walthamstow, Crouch End, Wood Green, Woodford etc?

Mumuser124 · 20/12/2022 10:42

I grew up in Shrewsbury, I absolutely loved it. My childhood was amazing.

We moved to Cambridge when I was 15 and although we are settled here, we often talk about how lovely it would be to bring the kids up in Shrewsbury.

Absolutely cannot stand city life, husband and I now actively avoid, I feel like a squashed in sardine. Husband has always lived in cities until 6 years ago, we now live semi rural and said he would never go back to living in a city.

I suppose it’s person specific. Nobody could say what another persons experience would be.

Ruu · 20/12/2022 10:45

Lived in London for almost twenty years from after uni through to marrying and having kids. We moved for space, a house and an easier life. The kids swapped Victorian schools with metal detectors to schools with huge playing fields and fresh air.

We bought our first, and probably last, house. I don't worry about them walking to school (primary and secondary) and going to the park round the corner by themselves. Their friends are within walking distance and because we live on the edge of a market town, we can stroll into the market, shops, restaurants and open air pool when we like. My son has discovered cricket which has given him a brilliant outlet and focus. I doubt he would have found it if we were still in London.

I discovered the joys of gardening and I've been able to take on freelance jobs locally. My husband has kept his London job but wfh 50%. Yes, the commute is expensive but house prices are lower.

The month after we left, one morning there was a drive-by shooting outside their school breakfast club, twenty minutes before the kids would have been arriving. My London friends were just quite blase about it, but for me it just reinforced the feeling that our move was a great one.

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 10:53

Mumuser124 · 20/12/2022 10:42

I grew up in Shrewsbury, I absolutely loved it. My childhood was amazing.

We moved to Cambridge when I was 15 and although we are settled here, we often talk about how lovely it would be to bring the kids up in Shrewsbury.

Absolutely cannot stand city life, husband and I now actively avoid, I feel like a squashed in sardine. Husband has always lived in cities until 6 years ago, we now live semi rural and said he would never go back to living in a city.

I suppose it’s person specific. Nobody could say what another persons experience would be.

Did you misunderstand the OP?

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 10:56

Ruu · 20/12/2022 10:45

Lived in London for almost twenty years from after uni through to marrying and having kids. We moved for space, a house and an easier life. The kids swapped Victorian schools with metal detectors to schools with huge playing fields and fresh air.

We bought our first, and probably last, house. I don't worry about them walking to school (primary and secondary) and going to the park round the corner by themselves. Their friends are within walking distance and because we live on the edge of a market town, we can stroll into the market, shops, restaurants and open air pool when we like. My son has discovered cricket which has given him a brilliant outlet and focus. I doubt he would have found it if we were still in London.

I discovered the joys of gardening and I've been able to take on freelance jobs locally. My husband has kept his London job but wfh 50%. Yes, the commute is expensive but house prices are lower.

The month after we left, one morning there was a drive-by shooting outside their school breakfast club, twenty minutes before the kids would have been arriving. My London friends were just quite blase about it, but for me it just reinforced the feeling that our move was a great one.

This sounds lovely. Now I want to live where you live!

Alwaysworryingoversomething · 20/12/2022 10:58

Regret it every day. Can't stand village life.

Igmum · 20/12/2022 11:02

Very true @RishisProudMum but there are also a lot of other great cities available - I think any city kid/Mumsnetter/significant other would struggle if they were uprooted from London and headed straight to the wilds of the countryside (though interesting to read the people on here who love it). But there are a fair few cities with theatres, cinemas, plenty of takeaways, public transport and coffee shops but which also cost a fair bit less than London to live in 😀

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 20/12/2022 11:02

@RishisProudMum - but when you move eg to Coulsdon you’re still on eg Thameslink routes into London. I’ve got a friend living in Sanderstead and she regularly comes into London. I’m not saying Croydon is London as it isn’t but the transport links are very good.

Whereas I’ve got another friend in Bishops Stortford which you’d think isn’t a million miles away but she finds a trip to London to be nice but hard work (she lived in Camberwell etc for years).

But then you get my SIL who needs to be on thameslink for work, wants to move to a house but vetoed Coulsdon and Purley! She loves Beckenham.

I’ve got a friend currently living in South Norwood who wants to move eg Tunbridge Wells etc but says Norwood junction is great for transport, she can get to somewhere near Welwyn Garden city at weekends (hair). She knows once she’d moves further out she will have to drive more.

Elsiebear90 · 20/12/2022 11:06

My wife moved because she was working three jobs just to cover her rent and bills and didn’t have any money left over to actually enjoy London. We live in a suburb on the edge of Birmingham now, have our own home, which if we sold probably wouldn’t even get us a flat in London. She says she misses it sometimes, but has always believed London is only fun if you have enough money to enjoy it.

sinkyt · 20/12/2022 11:07

everyone I know in the Croydon outskirts has a car cause you still tend to need one with dc.

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 11:08

Igmum · 20/12/2022 11:02

Very true @RishisProudMum but there are also a lot of other great cities available - I think any city kid/Mumsnetter/significant other would struggle if they were uprooted from London and headed straight to the wilds of the countryside (though interesting to read the people on here who love it). But there are a fair few cities with theatres, cinemas, plenty of takeaways, public transport and coffee shops but which also cost a fair bit less than London to live in 😀

Hahaha! True! 😁

purpledalmation · 20/12/2022 11:09

Born and grew up in London and just hated it. It was making me mentally ill I think. Finally ended up in a Yorkshire village. Beautiful, peaceful, lovely countryside and community. Hampshire was too much like a building site for me, with our village merged into the neighbouring one because everywhere was house building. I'm not a city girl at all with no wish to even visit London.

Season0fTheWitch · 20/12/2022 11:24

We moved from a penthouse in london to a house in the middle of nowhere, it couldn't have been a bigger change to adapt to and we really regretted it at first. But I now prefer a garden centre visit to a shopping trip in central London, and I'd rather see cows outside the house than a mugging. People are friendlier here, but I miss the freedom of walking through town without speaking to anyone sometimes

As long as you can drive it's fine, but I left London without a car and was really stuck without the good transport!

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 11:28

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 20/12/2022 11:02

@RishisProudMum - but when you move eg to Coulsdon you’re still on eg Thameslink routes into London. I’ve got a friend living in Sanderstead and she regularly comes into London. I’m not saying Croydon is London as it isn’t but the transport links are very good.

Whereas I’ve got another friend in Bishops Stortford which you’d think isn’t a million miles away but she finds a trip to London to be nice but hard work (she lived in Camberwell etc for years).

But then you get my SIL who needs to be on thameslink for work, wants to move to a house but vetoed Coulsdon and Purley! She loves Beckenham.

I’ve got a friend currently living in South Norwood who wants to move eg Tunbridge Wells etc but says Norwood junction is great for transport, she can get to somewhere near Welwyn Garden city at weekends (hair). She knows once she’d moves further out she will have to drive more.

We’re thinking about moving to Beckenham! It keeps popping up in conversations I have on MN. Shall take that as a sign! 😁

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 20/12/2022 11:35

sinkyt · 20/12/2022 11:07

everyone I know in the Croydon outskirts has a car cause you still tend to need one with dc.

That’s people with kids though! I know several people and one with epilepsy (no kids) so can’t drive who manage fine with no car. The good thing about Croydon outskirts is buses and trams connect very well to eg East Croydon or west Croydon.

Friend from south Norwood yesterday got tram into Croydon (she drives) as easier and saves money on parking etc.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 20/12/2022 11:37

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 11:28

We’re thinking about moving to Beckenham! It keeps popping up in conversations I have on MN. Shall take that as a sign! 😁

I love Beckenham and would move if I needed to!

Check the trains though as slightly reduced service but do if you haven’t done so far, trips to see it. Night can be a bit of a meat market but still lots of lovely restaurants and bars. My hairdresser who lives there says the secondary schools are excellent.

sinkyt · 20/12/2022 11:41

@GonnaGetGoingReturns hence why I said with kids! 😆. I personally don't like Croydon & don't go there anymore but it has got good connections.

Mumuser124 · 20/12/2022 11:42

@RishisProudMum

It seems I have. I have no idea why I read the original post and decided it said ‘Do you prefer city life or town life.

In my defence, I am in the middle of a very taxing Christmas clean... skulks off.

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 11:52

Mumuser124 · 20/12/2022 11:42

@RishisProudMum

It seems I have. I have no idea why I read the original post and decided it said ‘Do you prefer city life or town life.

In my defence, I am in the middle of a very taxing Christmas clean... skulks off.

Oh, it happens to us all! I wouldn’t worry about it! 🤣🤣🤣

RishisProudMum · 20/12/2022 11:54

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 20/12/2022 11:37

I love Beckenham and would move if I needed to!

Check the trains though as slightly reduced service but do if you haven’t done so far, trips to see it. Night can be a bit of a meat market but still lots of lovely restaurants and bars. My hairdresser who lives there says the secondary schools are excellent.

I’ve been a few times and really liked it. Very nice vibe, nice houses, good schools. It’s definitely top of our list. Never been there at night, though!

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