Moving into a home where someone died.

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The house I live now was occupied by an elderly gentleman who passed away in bed.

Spent the first 10 years unaware until neighbours told me, seemingly reveling in the fact it happened in our bedroom and he wasn't found for days.

Gave me the Willie's for a short while but didn't bother me really.

But now I'm moving and have been told a small child died in the house.

It's just made me so sad and I really wish I wasn't told.
I kept having dreams about it last night.

It's not put me off the house but I definitely won't be telling my (secondary age) kids.

Just really wish the information wasn't shared with me tbh.

I was brought up in an Edwardian house where I know at least two people died (DGF and GGM) and they're the ones I know of in that place - there must have been others. Flat I have now is 130 years old so at least one person must have died here. Doesn't bother me at all.

I grew up from the age of 11 in the home where four generations of my family had lived and died. Slept in the room where my beloved great-aunt had died, my parents had the room where another dearly loved great-aunt had died a few years before, and before I was born my great-uncle spent ten years in bed in what became our front room after being badly burned in an accident, and eventually died there. I never liked that room and it gave a few of my friends the willies even though I didn't tell them about it, but the rest of it didn't really bother me. A child would be different though, I agree - I'd rather not know about that.

I was told by a neighbour that the house I used to live in was formerly occupied by a woman who did backstreet abortions there (before it was legal). The house was built in the 1850's and I'm sure a number of other people died in it too as I think the majority of people died at home back then, if they were lucky.

It didn't bother me. I did used to wonder what it must have been like for those poor woman to be so desperate but it didn't put me off living there.

I personally wouldn't feel at ease knowing I was living in a home where some had been murdered or had died of suicide. Not worried about hauntings, but knowing such violence had occurred would play on my mind.

Have lived in home where I know people have died of natural causes (even though natural deaths can be pretty harrowing and not very peaceful) but that doesn't bother me.

It's not a rational thing.

Wouldn't bother me. I grew up in a 1700s built cottage, I'd be amazed if no kids had ever died there given the infant mortality rate up until the 20th century. Before that whilst househunting we lived a few months in the vacant house of an elderly relative who had died in the bed, my parents even slept in the very bed.

I personally wouldn't feel at ease knowing I was living in a home where some had been murdered or had died of suicide. Not worried about hauntings, but knowing such violence had occurred would play on my mind.

Why though?

It wouldn't impact on you in any way. It would still have happened even if you didn't know about it. Im curious as to why some people are bothered by it. I don't think it would bother me at all. People die. People die in painful ways several times every day. It's not nice but death is normal. Murder isn't, obviously but it's not happening in front of you.

Now witnessing a murder in a house I can understand but otherwise...

My grandma died in her bed of a heart attack. I now have her mattress because it was pretty new and a good one. I can't see the problem either.

I did end my post with 'it's not a rational thing'.

I just wouldn't like it. It would give me the creeps. Sitting on the sofa watching Netflix knowing someone's head had been caved in in that very room 30 years previously. Nah, I'll keep house hunting thanks!

Every so often a 'notorious' property will go up for sale, Dennis Nilsen's flat for example, and it sells below the market value for similar properties in the area as a lot of people feel as I do. Great if you're unbothered by such things, you could pick such a place up for a song.

The lady who lived in our house died very unexpectedly. She was returning home from a long haul flight and died in the airport.
The kitchen had been newly installed but the rest of the place was shocking. The family did an awful lot of covering up dodgy electrics/boiler/leaky roof etc etc.
When you walk in our front door the view and the light through the patio doors opposite leading into our garden is what sold this place to me. It is a dream living here.

I just think the house was never meant to be sold and I was the lucky person who got it and all because the lady died.

One of the things I like about living in a big city in the UK is that there's more than a thousand years of people living here before me, layers upon layers of lives and history. I don't think there's a square foot available where someone hasn't died.

My gran has just died and the house will have to be sold. The family were the only owners since it was built in about 1900 and my gran is the only member of the family not to die there.
Just off the top of my head I know of deaths in that house of my great great grandma, both great grandparents, grandad, a great great uncle and a female relative who was babysitting and suddenly died. All natural deaths but not all quick and easy either.

My own house is Georgian so there'll be loads of previous deaths in that house and it would be daft to get hung up on it.

Three days after we moved an old man told me a man had hung himself in our house. I was so upset.. DH wanted to go and tell the old man off for upsetting me. I told him to leave it...

Didn't the relatives of the White house Farm murders move into the house not long afterwards. That is bizarre, but I do t think a peaceful death would bother me.

@hopsalong , call me a nasty cynic, but my first thought was that the agent was deliberately trying to put people off, because either he or a mate, or someone dishing out brown envelopes, was hoping to pick it up cheaply.

My grandma died in her bed of a heart attack. I now have her mattress because it was pretty new and a good one. I can't see the problem either

When DGF died we re-arranged the bedrooms - DM moved into what had been his and as far as I know used the same bed.

Our house is fairly recent (1970s) but the last owner was a very old lady and we assumed she had died in the house as the estate agent was being very cagey. Didn't put us off buying the house. After we moved in we talked to the neighbours and discovered that the old lady had moved into a residential home.

As upthread any house older than 50 years will likely have had people or several people die in it.

I totally understand why you feel like this even if it isn't 'rational' and yes it would be better if you didn't know. It may help though to think of the people who have loved each other in the house, the laughs people have had, the births and birthdays, kindnesses performed, love shown in tiny ways every day by a packed lunch made or a cup of tea brought. We do have a tendency to feel that one tragic event blots out everything else but in the life of a house the everyday small joys could easily add up to more, if you think of past events like that (easier not to but not always possible!!)

If it troubles you OP, how about organising a blessing for the house in line with your spiritual beliefs?

A house for me is up for sale. It’s owner hung himself in it about a year ago.

Houses go like lightening around me. This one has been up for sale for about a year. Every other house sells within a week.

Your son died on Christmas day...?

That's tragic, I'm so very sorry 💐

I feel like PPs are misunderstanding the OP. It’s not that someone died in the house, it’s the knowledge that it was a child, and the tragedy that must have been for the whole family. I can understand why she’d rather not know.

It's very sad, and I think it's normal to feel sad, but it wouldn't put me off the house.

The elderly previous owner of our house died here - we didn't know until we got the post sale pack from the solicitors that included his death certificate.

I'm not woo at all, but when I broke something in the house and 4yr old DD announced 'the man would be angry' 'what man?' 'the man whose house this is' I got a bit creeped out.

Turned out she meant the bloody estate agent!!!

Who told you? I'd put them down as a gossip and keep them at arms length if possible. I've been told random sad things by people that are none of their or my business and it's always someone getting some kind of thrill out of 'knowing' or 'being the first to tell'. It makes me think less of them, that's for sure!

There is a house in our village where the wife of the couple who lived there took her own life there about 12 years ago. She had a long history of severe depression.

When my MIL was widowed and wanted to come and live near us that house was for sale. We took her to see it and she really liked it, so we told her then about its history. She wasn't bothered about it at all.

Everyone who visits (we have carers coming in) says what a lovely house it is, and it is.