Moving into a home where someone died.

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The house I live now was occupied by an elderly gentleman who passed away in bed.

Spent the first 10 years unaware until neighbours told me, seemingly reveling in the fact it happened in our bedroom and he wasn't found for days.

Gave me the Willie's for a short while but didn't bother me really.

But now I'm moving and have been told a small child died in the house.

It's just made me so sad and I really wish I wasn't told.
I kept having dreams about it last night.

It's not put me off the house but I definitely won't be telling my (secondary age) kids.

Just really wish the information wasn't shared with me tbh.

I get it op. Its isn't about the heebie geebies, it's about the home being happy. This is probably why people used to have their houses spiritually cleansed. Our local priest used to go out to bless parishioner's new homes. I even saw him bless the car of a traveller family once.
The old gent who owned our home died in it, which is natural and quite nice (for him), but a child would be another matter altogether. Can you do a bit of research on cleansing, setting crystals and burning sage, that sort of thing?

If you live in a house built in the 19th century, then it's almost certain that a child died there, given the high infant mortality at the time. Also likely a mother died in child-birth as well.

Yes, our old vicar used to do this quite a lot as well. (C of E). I assume the new one does I don't go to that church anymore. I like the idea of a cleansing. An gentle prayer and acknowdlegement of the past.

What i meant to say is that if you ask your lcoal vicar- even if you do not attend the chruch I am sure they could either do this or point you in the right direction.

If a someone (in particular, a child) was murdered, not sure if so could live there peacefully.

I’m looking to buy a property, and the agent mentioned the previous owner died of cancer. He was my age. It made me terribly sad walking through his property, but it had the most lovely and warm feeling.

It's not put me off the house but I definitely won't be telling my (secondary age) kids.

Why on earth not? That's just weird. They aren't 5 - and even if they were, what do you think they are going to do? They aren't being presented with a body
People die in a myriad of places - bus stops, beds, attics, cellars, theatres, aeroplanes....
You/your children could be in an of those places, sitting on THAT seat...

I'd rather know about it, I lived in a flat once & I'm pretty sensitive to places so..just didn't feel comfortable in this flat, it was as if there was an unhealthy feeling coming from the walls. This was the only way I could describe it.
One day I was talking to the landlord, turned out that the last person who had lived there - a young lad- had died following an overdose, and he wasn't found for days.
Strangely once I knew I was ok with it, I understood what was going on & felt at peace with it.
I also lived in a house where I always felt an old womans presence. I think someone had died there too. I do believe that places hold memories but you will make the house your own. You need a cleansing ritual or something!

Your house is hardly unique. Most people die at home!

Incredible that people believe they are sensitive to non-existent woo-woo
Once you are dead you are dead. No spirit (benign or malignant), no aura, no nothing. Nothing hanging around flats/houses/mansions. Nada. Dead, gone
Mediums are charlatans who rip people off and play on their grief and gullibleness

lots of people die in their homes, it’s inevitable. It’s sad that it was a child of course - but it happens and o wouldn’t let it get to you.

not quite the same but my DB used to be scared of the ‘dirty man with the geese outside’, my parents thought maybe he’d caught a glimpse of something scary and was working himself up. It went on for a long, long time. They eventually went ok to look up the history of our house and it was indeed built on an old goose farm. It gives me chills as now my own DD has an ‘imaginary friend’ but it does make me wonder..

Are you sure that the neighbours are telling the truth? It’s a weird thing to actually tell someone even if it’s true. I would never ever mention that to someone as it’s so upsetting and feels mean spirited to tell someone who has nothing to do with the event. To me it’s more relevant that the neighbours are weird than what actually happened as walls and houses don’t retain memories or patterns of behaviour.

We’re in rented at the moment but have always had a slightly odd feeling near the bathroom door, like there was someone waiting just behind the door, even though I was home alone.

anyway, next door neighbour told me that there used to be an old lady in the house prior to us, and she had been found dead in the bathroom, so I guess that explains the weird feeling!

it doesn’t put me off, as such, but I’m looking forward to moving to our nearly new build when it completes in the new year… (fingers crossed!!)

We live in a property where an elderly lady died, doesn’t bother us, a natural death of an elderly person in their own home is fairly likely over the course of a properties history, as are babies being born there.

A tragic death of a young person would put me off if I am being completely honest. Why tell people this kind of thing? I certainly wouldn’t.

Look at it this way; we are a small island, countless people have died here, some in their own home, some in battle ( lots of them) some just out in the open, some peacefully, some not.You are going past places where people have died constantly. We have all probably lived in a place where a tragedy has occurred, you don't know because it was ages ago, undocumented and forgotten . Do you spend your time worrying about it? Of course, you don't. My DH died at home earlier this year, I sit in the same room ,sleep in the same bed , carry on with things.
When my sister was young she insisted there was a green man in her bedroom, very old cottage , no one bothered about it. Neither was she scared.

We moved into a house when my oldest was 2 and she used to talk about the nice old man with the hat upstairs. The last owner, an old man had died up in his bedroom we discovered from neighbours.

I think some people are sensitive, we once looked at a house where the woman had apparently died of cancer and I couldn't stay in there for more than 5 minutes, the place was filled with pain and sadness, I felt physically ill, my DH wasn't remotely affected.

The death of a child leaves so much grief. I was recently told by a distant cousin of the death of a baby in my family which had caused a total rift. I wish I didn't know. We've sanitised and dismissed death in modern times but even animals mourn, these things matter and I guess neighbours say out of shock or sorrow. Some good posts above about getting a vicar (or a shaman kind of person) involved if it feels like a thing to do.

I think I'm the UK with the ages of our housing you'd be hard pressed to find an older home that hadn't had someone die in it if I'm honest

There have been about 80 billion people born on our planet. There have been humans in the UK for about 40 000 years so even if one hasn't died in your house it's likely life and death happened on or around where you live.

Sometimes I best not knowing the history. Elderly folk passing at home is not the same as a child death, suicide or murder and I get why people might find it disturbing

I agree with you. I think as you led and went on about the old man first then literally did one sentence on the child , like a foot note, most folks are focusing on the man.

That would bother me too op, not in a woo way, but it would be on my mind all the same. I’d rather not know and I agree that it’s very unkind to tell you.

As my Gran said it is the living you need to be scared of not the dead.

I wouldn’t care if someone just randomly died in a house, I mean people die all the time. But a particularly infamous murder / house would put me off. I’ve always found it quite creepy that Rose and Fred Wests house for example has been demolished (as it should have been) and many other similar houses (Dahmers whole apartment block for example) but yet Dennis Nilsens flat was just repainted and put straight back on the market 😳 I couldn’t imagine living there, knowing what went on in that flat. I wonder what the people living there think or if they care. Fair enough if they don’t but I think it would bother me.

My previous house was about 200 years old so chances are more than 1 person died there, that doesn’t bother me. Our current house is much newer but I do know that someone died in the house, which might be a little more unusual. I like to see it as houses see many memories, some very happy and some very sad, the house is the constant and we move about our lives. Since we moved in we have brought home another baby DC, so I suppose that balances out some of the houses “memories”.

As my Gran said it is the living you need to be scared of not the dead.

Wise woman.

Consider this: the child, unlike your elderly chap, likely died surrounded in love from their family in comforting surrounding.

My house was built in 1803 and I know a couple of small children died here, one infant. Probably a few old people too! I don’t give it a second thought tbh. People die, houses have a history.