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If you had anxiety/depression and you don’t anymore what happened ? What changed ?

111 replies

Amiterrible · 17/12/2022 14:34

What worked for you ?

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Byfleet · 17/12/2022 18:34

Giving up teaching in further education!

PinkCosYouAreSoVery · 17/12/2022 18:37

@ByTheGrace if you dont mind sharing, what doesage of propranolol are you on? and how frequent? I have 40mg up to 3 times a day, but at the moment I only take it occasionally but feel like it might be better to take it each day regularly. I also have the slow release tablets as an option. not sure what's best.

ArtixLynx · 17/12/2022 18:43

a mixture of divorce, cbt, and adhd meds.

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NeverEnoughCake2 · 17/12/2022 18:44

For me, two things:

  1. The right antidepressants and staying on them when I feel well. I've had a lot of depressive episodes so my risk of recurrence is really high. It took five goes to find the combination that works for me
  1. Three years of private therapy with a schema therapist. I'd already done CBT, but it turns out I needed a therapist who took a more holistic, trauma-informed approach.
DandelionPockets · 17/12/2022 18:54

Quit Instagram.
Walking, a lot.
Private therapy sessions.
Posts on here, one thing I read became my mantra 'pay it no heed, it will pass'. Not sure why it has become so powerful for me.
'Know thyself', I don't like big social gatherings. So I'm no longer going to put myself through them. What do I want to be doing right now with my time and ultimately my life.

Ellmau · 17/12/2022 20:13

Medication for my DM, but it took a while to get the right dosage.

PersonIrresponsible · 17/12/2022 20:42

BigGreen · 17/12/2022 17:30

@PersonIrresponsible Tell us more! Where did you walk, and for how long?

From Mexico to Canada - five and a half months.

And if that wasn't bad enough, a global pandemic broke out.

I then wrot.😜

triplecheeese · 17/12/2022 20:46

Exactly this. CBT worked for me the second time I tried it. The worry tree app is a good resource for getting started on thinking about dealing with intrusive worries.

I do still have anxiety. But now I can see a bad time coming and put protective measures in place or seek more support when it comes. That comes from CBT.

SwiftSnail · 17/12/2022 21:21

Exercise

Realising my thoughts impact almost everything and have a ripple effect. Reframing. Taking more joy and appreciating the little things.

Being more proactive in life. Taking control and making change.

Taking risks and facing fears.

Ijuststoodonlego · 17/12/2022 21:29

ValBiro · 17/12/2022 15:10

Stopping alcohol.

Honestly - game changer.

Same here. Also CBT/books.

TheFormidableMrsC · 17/12/2022 21:36

Counselling. My ex-h cutting off contact with our DS and moving 700 miles away. The relief was immense. I never thought I'd recover. Oh and being diagnosed with cancer. That somehow changes your perspective on everything. It certainly cured my horrendous health anxiety!

LaBelleSauvage123 · 17/12/2022 21:40

A combination of Sertraline and meditation/mindfulness, particularly when I learnt how to ground my body, which made a huge difference to my physical symptoms.

ByTheGrace · 17/12/2022 23:40

PinkCosYouAreSoVery · 17/12/2022 18:37

@ByTheGrace if you dont mind sharing, what doesage of propranolol are you on? and how frequent? I have 40mg up to 3 times a day, but at the moment I only take it occasionally but feel like it might be better to take it each day regularly. I also have the slow release tablets as an option. not sure what's best.

I haven't taken it for years now. I took 3x40 everyday (not slow release), for about 6mths, then just took it in the morning for a couple of months. After that I took it as and when I needed it, but I haven't needed it for a long time. I don't fear spiralling into anxiety now as I know I have the option of taking it if I need it.

I very much felt it was helpful to take it regularly at first, as it helped completely break the cycle of anxiety. I don't think it works as well if you are just using it to take the edge off.

Ozgirl75 · 18/12/2022 02:36

For my husband - also stopping alcohol. He can still muse on things and feel worry but he says in a “normal” way where he can rationalise out of it. Whereas when he used to drink, alcohol made him almost have a breakdown due to severe anxiety.

MintJulia · 18/12/2022 02:56

Spent a couple of weeks hiking with infant ds and realised that

  • I loathed living in the midlands with ex, I'm not a city girl, hate traffic and I wanted to be back in clean air and empty countryside
  • I wanted to go back to work and there were no jobs in my industry where we lived
  • Ex had morphed into 1950s man when ds was born and was trying to isolate me and force me into being the 'little housewife'.

I got a job in my home region, DS & I left, I bought a house amid open fields and found ds a lovely child minder.

Problem solved.

HappyAsASandboy · 18/12/2022 03:21

Medication for 6 months and CBT for the same 6 months got it mostly under control.

A vast improvement came when I gave up work.

Skethylita · 18/12/2022 06:41

You need to find out what your personal triggers are - they'll have been different for all of us.

If it's related to drinking/ smoking, diet, weight - there is an easy solution to that.

If it's related to personal circumstances, change what you can change to improve your life - get divorced, change jobs, move house,...

If nothing logically sets it off in a predictable pattern, get CBT and a full physical check-up to find out the reasons. Sometimes it's hard to recognise your triggers without external help.

Sunnysideup999 · 18/12/2022 06:51

Quitting a stressful thing that was making me very anxious. Hard to do as it meant accepting it wasn’t for me
a lot of private therapy
no alcohol
stepping back from toxic people in my life.

recognising that the happiness of one’s life depends on the quality of one’s thoughts.

EmpressaurusOfWitchesBackFromTheDead · 18/12/2022 07:15

Divorce, a new job, CBT & citalopram.

GhostBridezilla · 18/12/2022 07:18
  1. Divorce
  2. forging a life that brings me fulfilment and joy.
  3. finding a job that didn’t make me ill.
  4. Therapy
  5. antidepressants which I slowly came off over time.
ohioriver · 18/12/2022 07:25

Divorce

A fuckton of therapy

ASD and adhd diagnosis

The right job for me

PolkaDotMankini · 18/12/2022 07:28

In chronological order:

  • Finding the right anti-depressant
  • Divorcing my awful husband
  • Finding the right counsellor
  • The children getting older and more independent (they're now 10 and 12)
OhAmBackAgain · 18/12/2022 07:46

ADs did nothing but dull my emotions and make not be-able to muster more than a meh reaction to my shitty situation.

After 3 years I came off them and got angry and tackled my relationship, home life, work life head on, plus started psychodynamic therapy, so covered lots of childhood issues on top.

So I suppose it came down to changing my circumstances, taking control in my life again, grieving and coming to terms with my past, and learning about myself and how to move forwards and break behavioural cycles.

Catmum2022 · 18/12/2022 07:46

Definitely cutting down on SM. I deleted everyone off FB and just had positive things on my feed. Stopped reading the Daily Mail and made a task list every day to make me do something useful/productive. A lot of CBT/EMDR therapy which is helping enormously. Telling people how I feel so adaptions can be made to avoid triggers - especially in work - which has lifted a huge burden. Trying to get as much sleep as I can and taking time to look after me. I’ve started reading books again - actually paper books and not on a tablet so I won’t be distracted by the internet. And finally accepting some people in your life are toxic and letting contact drift. You’d be surprised by how long it takes them to contact you!

FortyFacedFuckers · 18/12/2022 10:39

Yip exercise!
I was on Setraline & counselling and got myself to a place where I could walk into a gym and it honestly made me feel so much better.