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If you had anxiety/depression and you don’t anymore what happened ? What changed ?

111 replies

Amiterrible · 17/12/2022 14:34

What worked for you ?

OP posts:
Helpwithaparcel · 17/12/2022 15:33

Sorry wrong topic, have reported. This is a good thread though ;)

Xiaoxiong · 17/12/2022 15:37

Walked out of my job and served my notice while signed off. Started a new job which was so much better.

Luredbyapomegranate · 17/12/2022 15:40

Medication.
Some CBT
Time and perspective

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thecatsthecats · 17/12/2022 16:02

Left my job after severe stress caused an acute period of anxiety. Went on medication for a year. Had a horrible comedown coming off the meds, but happily off them now.

Switched to a mostly organic diet avoiding ultra processed food. Go for a walk twice a day, even if they're only ten minutes long.

Changing jobs again.

Newusernameaug · 17/12/2022 16:05

Cold water dipping and swimming
Going into nature for 1 hour every day
Getting sunshine whenever possible
Vit D oral spray
Minimal alcohol and never binge drinking
Chakra meditation
CBT basic stuff such as a positive daily log, every day write briefly what went well, what you’re happy about / grateful for
Conscious dance / 5 Rythms
Running
Boxing
Rage release - screaming in my car

And lots of inner work.
For me Depression is suppressing the emotions.
Anxiety is huge fear - so anything that either moves my emotions, releases them or I have to face my fear in healthy ways (cold water swimming) really helps.
Also nature and water just seem to really help it too.

Oh and eating more fresh fruit and veg and home made food. And lots of good quality water (ie not tap water!)

SquigglyOne · 17/12/2022 16:07

Citalopram 👍

OddSocksAndHollyhocks · 17/12/2022 16:16

This is really interesting. I have another thread going in the Relationships section - with hindsight it may have been better here or in Mental Health. I went to couples counselling with DH and the therapist basically tried to pin all our issues on my anxiety but, for me, I actually don't see my anxiety as a part of me I need to exorcise. Yes I'd obviously like to have less stress, but like some other posters on this thread, I've learnt good coping mechanisms and I think I function pretty well. I'm personally really against medication (for me, totally respect people who want it for them) so am finding it very interesting reading people's experiences here who found it the main thing that helped them. Vs those who could only lessen their anxiety by changing marriage / jobs etc.

AwfulSomething · 17/12/2022 16:20

Exercise/meditation/sertraline/mortgage free. Hard to say which had the biggest impact.

surreyisik · 17/12/2022 16:25

CBT, an 8 week at home mindfulness programme, better diet, daily walks in the nature... I still have it in varying degrees but nowhere near how it used to be and I feel in much better control. It used to feel like I was being controlled by anxious and depressed thoughts

mdh2020 · 17/12/2022 16:28

I gave up teaching. Sorry - I wish I had some profound advice but it’s true

Arcadia · 17/12/2022 16:34

Boxercise, yoga, less alcohol, less caffeine.
Concentrating on close friendships that I feel safe in rather than spreading myself thinly socially and trying to please everyone.
HRT.
Giving myself permission to watch crap tv and chill when I get some time to myself.

GreenBirdy · 17/12/2022 16:35

MzLucky · 17/12/2022 14:59

I do still have anxiety some days. My depression has gone. I hope it doesn't come back. I stopped taking antidepressants because they made me feel really sick and lazy (with my gps help)

I think for me it was acceptance. Acceptance that mental health is just the same as a broken leg. I needed to put myself first and work through it. I started journaling to write my thoughts down and work through stuff. I got back into self care and exercise. I started eating better and cut down on alcohol. It wasn't easy and it's been a long road but I've got better over time. I still have weeks/days where I am overwhelmed and things are a struggle. I just priorities what needs done that day and leave the other stuff. My insomnia is still bad so try and work round that. Oh and I got into yoga and meditation on YouTube. I have cut down my hours at work to get a better life/work balance.

I also uncluttered the house and decorated every room.

Hope that helps you op 💐

And please don't think that I am a transformed yoga goddess now. I don't do all the above daily, I just try and go with the flow now and do them when I can. I am Petrified of going back to how bad my depression was and try to take one day at a time (not easy to do)

Oh and joining mumsnet definitely helped. Reading other people's experiences and joining the self care/exercise threads etc. Made me feel like I wasn't alone.

Wishing you all the best op 💐

@MzLucky can I ask which threads on here helped you with self care & exercise? I've had a look but there are so many!

InSummertime · 17/12/2022 16:38

I think self care too and I’d like some tips
counselling and serious therapy

Sodonewiththisshit · 17/12/2022 16:39

Medication.

Came off medication when circumstances changed and still off it.

Surreality22 · 17/12/2022 16:41

Ayahuasca ceremonies, changed my life and outlook.

Stormz · 17/12/2022 16:42

@GreenBirdy I don't know how to search on here. I type into Google what I am looking for then add mumsnet. Old threads come up.

Or I read the threads in chat/style about small changes to make/people looking for advice on getting out a life slump.

Sorry that's not much help.

maskersanonymous · 17/12/2022 16:43

Diagnosis of ASD. Diagnoses and recognition (after decades of ill health) of chronic/auto-immune illnesses which led to self-knowledge, acceptance and finally knowing how to better take care of myself. Huge lifestyle changes (anti-inflammatory diet etc). Mindfulness. Possibly HRT.

AD's and CBT didn't work for me and I don't think they could until the the bigger issues were identified.

Cassillero · 17/12/2022 16:45

Therapy, self care, good diet and exercise. But yes also divorce 🤣🤣

MavisBeacon1234 · 17/12/2022 16:46

A divorce as well

megletthesecond · 17/12/2022 16:48

Exercise, inside and out. Eating really well.
Long term counselling, although this was 25yrs ago when you could still get it on the NHS.

Tbh my middle age grumpiness seems to have permanently scared off depression. Also, accepting I'm the glass half full type isn't a bad thing.

tulips27 · 17/12/2022 16:50

(I only had anxiety not depression) Stopping all caffeine and then gradually re-introducing morning coffee that was 50-50 decaff and normal coffee mixed, working my way up to fully caffeinated over several months. I never went back to my previous levels of caffeine intake, I have a maximum of two morning coffees and then I have decaff tea (PG Tips).

tulips27 · 17/12/2022 16:51

Not that I'm saying caffeine is evil but something changed in me and I couldn't tolerate it any longer, no idea why. I think it was just ramping up the intensity of any worries.

Greenandcabbagelooking · 17/12/2022 16:54

Citalopram, CBT, changing jobs and exercise. The root cause was the job, so once I could get out of that, my anxiety lifted. Carried on with the first two for six months after I left to ensure I was ok again, then tapered off the meds, and finished my CBT. Still do the exercise though.

ChristmasCaroline · 17/12/2022 16:56

CBT, sertraline, low dose antipsychotics, changing jobs, remembered it is just a job

SirenSays · 17/12/2022 16:59

Never found a medication that worked for me and have done so much therapy. Honestly nothing really works, except travel. When I'm backpacking i feel like an entirely different person. I dislike england and have so much trauma here. There's a certain freedom that comes with being alone with nothing but my 45l backpack. Nothing to lose.