What age do adult children stop having their own room in their parents home?

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I'm looking at our house which has got a bit full and chaotic, and thinking about whether to move things around/consider a loft conversion/move house.

When your kids left home, how long did you keep their bedroom intact with all their things? At what stage in a person's life do they feel adult enough for their parents to turn their bedroom into a spare room, or hobby room or whatever?

I will always, always welcome my kids, and am in no rush to have them leave, or repurpose their bedrooms, it's more that I know that sadly this will happen one day, I just have no idea what age it happens, so it's difficult to plan for.

NB we extended since so do now have spare bedrooms, as even older adults need a place to stay if it's possible.

Once they move into their own home (excluding university or single person forces accommodation)

My sister (last one to leave home) moved out to go to university 13 years ago and my mum still keeps her room and refers to it as her room. I don’t think she’ll ever give it up and let go. She has redecorated and put a sofa bed in but it’s still ‘sisters room’. They only live in a 2 bed bungalow so not like they have loads of room!

Keeping it with kids stuff would be weird, but most kids move out when they are adults, so the room isn’t child like. My daughters isn’t.

she has final say in any decor, so recently I painted it, she decided the colour. I also buy her new towels or bedding, throws etc and I check with her first.

it’s full of toiletries, make up etc and lots of clothes she leaves here, like hoodies, T-shirts, jogging bottoms, underwear etc,

she moved out years ago and has her own place, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t come to visit and stay , as said it will always be her home, her family home and as such she will always have her own room. It’s her space. I simply can’t imagine any other way

we do have guests stay in that room when she’s not here, but it doesn’t make it not her room.

I don't think there is 'an age'. It depends on your family circumstances.
If economics dictate you need to move / downsize, or if a younger sibling needs their room, then that is what needs to happen.

If it doesn't need to, then for many families, it will be when they buy their own place.

Me and my brother still have bedrooms in our parents house and we're in our 50's! They never had anyone to stay or if they did they just used my room as it's the bigger of the two. I've got grown up DC's away at university now but no rush to appropriate their rooms into anything else really.

Why would you keep their room with a their stuff once they've moved out?

To use it a shrine? Wtf.

Ds will always have a room but by the time he moves out it may have our stuff and his so multi purpose

It depends on your need. I’m 34 and i really close to my parents. They still keep my room and my sister room in their house. We both have our own houses too. I always visit and stay over at mum house at least 2 days a month with my kids. My mum got 6 bedroom house, so he got lots spaces for something else. I think thats why she still keep my bedroom.

The day i moved out to move in with DP my mum turned my room into an office. Its now got a bed for when DC go for sleepovers but its still her office. Didnt bother me.

I’m 32 and moved out at 23, my room at my parents house is still mine with my stuff in. I am an only child though and they have a separate guest room if needed.

I moved and my son didn't come with (18 at the time). My daughter and I live in a terraced three bed. My son stays in the guest room when he visits - if he moved back in obviously it would be his room but it would be tight - we had a much bigger house before.
My parents turned my old room into a study/TV room shortly after I left aged 20. I stayed in the guest room and if my other sister came she'd sleep on the sofa. I think eventually I'll be moving out of this house to a smaller flat in town and one of my kids will have the house.

Mine are 25, 22 & 20 and still have their own rooms even though they live away! I want them to feel they have their own space when they come home at Christmas etc.

I still have my own room in my mother's house. I am 56 and have had my own home with DH for many years.

I think I was probably in my mid/ late twenties? When I stopped coming for extended stays, and bought my own place! (Twas a different time when people in their mid twenties could buy a flat!).

I don’t have a “room” (early 40s now) but there’s a guest room I stay in when I stay over. It’s the same one my sibling uses when she stays over too.

I moved out at 18 and my brother was in my room before the door shut😂 I'm still always welcome at my parents house, but there's no need for there to be a room specifically for me, especially not when I have my own house 🤷‍♀️
I've only got 2 kids and they're only small, so when they move out I doubt I'll need the rooms for anything, they'll probably just stay as they are

My mum never did and I moved out at 16!

My old bedroom was intact until they moved house. It was a big house and they didn't need the room, I found it a bit freaky but also comforting. They moved when I was 40 😉

My parents completely erased me from the house and my old room as soon as I left for university.

My DH mum turned his bedroom into the dining room when he went to university.

Does this help?

Same as @userxx my parents moved house when I was 44 and my old room was mine right up til then despite me having owned my own home for most of the previous 20 years (the other side of the country!) They had a proper spare room and an office as well though so it was never needed to be something else.
In their new house now I stay in a spare room, but it’s got my childhood wardrobe in! 😂

Im mid 40s. Married 24 years, paid off mortgage. Moved out 1998.
Until their recent downsize my bedroom at DPs house still has my old smash hits posters on the inside of the wardrobe doors, old school books and random 90s taped from the top40 mix tapes
They moved house 2 years ago and sent whatasapp pics of wallpaper and bedding for me to choose in my 'new beedroom.
My stuff in my dressing table, pjs, dressing gown and always a full outfit.
I didnt ask for any of this and dont encourage it. I do think its cute though.
DB moved out and they redecorated his room within 6 months!
I dont think its a golden child thing. He moved around the corner. I live at the other end of the country......and they didn't think DH would last!

I came home after my first term at uni and my parents had partially turned my room into an office. 🤣
It still had my bed in it, moved into the corner, and that was eventually replaced by a sofa bed.

it didn’t really bother me, my clothes were still in the wardrobe and other stuff there, just had a filing cabinet and they were using the desk.

My room at my parents never altered after I left home to get married aged 24. Although it only had a single bed in it so if I stayed over with DH we stayed in my brother's old room which had a double bed.

DH never returned home after Uni and his parents moved house and area shortly after so he didn't have a room at their new house.

My DS has returned home after Uni as he got a job locally. He's saving up to buy a house. We don't need his room - we've got other spare rooms for guests - so even when he leaves it's likely his room will remain as is until we downsize.

@Penaltyshootoutfan Mum, is that you?????😂

It's not based on age it's based on when they leave home.

So as soon as mine left, I grabbed the wardrobe space.