Signs from the dead

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So I tried watching 'The Good Place' on Netflix which was utterly awful and I turned it off after a while but then a 6 part series called 'Surviving Death' popped up on my home screen. Really interesting take on people's near death experiences and then the fourth episode is about people getting signs from the dead.

About 20 years ago my best friend died. I was living abroad at the time. But at the time where she would have died I had an experience where a hummingbird hovered in front of my face for what must have been about 20 seconds. It felt longer but in reality must have been about that long. I never experienced anything like it and nor had anyone else living in that area that I spoke to. Also her parents found a butterfly in her hospital room after she died, I'm not at all normally inclined to think there could be signs from the dead but these two species are talked about loads in this episode. Also my Nan said she felt a kiss one morning, at the time when she knows her best friend would have died.

Have you ever experienced anything like this?

Not me but my Mum did twice. On the first occasion she was a child in hospital and her paternal grandmother came to sit with her during the night. She just held her hand until she fell asleep. She wasn't especially close to her so mum thought it a bit odd The next day, her Dad arrived at visiting time and told her his mother had died the day before.
On the night my Dad died, my Mum said she really sensed her own mum close by then felt a kiss on her cheek. My Mum was the least woo person ever so I believe she did experience something.

The night my grandma died, I had a dream about her, and she was telling me to stop worrying about her and she was fine.

She'd had cancer for ages and been very sick. In my dream she looked amazing.

The day my grandad died, he told the nurses that he'd seen his mother that morning (who'd been dead 25 years) and she looked beautiful. Nurse phoned my mum and he died later that day.

A few weeks before my family member died, they saw past relatives who told her they had come to take her home. The day she died she smiled at the nurse and said 'I'm going home today'. I'd struggled with their death for a few weeks and one evening when I was asleep, I could hear her voice so clearly telling me she loved me. I woke up and it felt as if she was next to me.

I think it’s lovely that people have these extraordinary moments that make them feel comforted.

But as someone who has recently lost their mum, and had absolutely zero signs or dreams or anything it feels a bit shit. My dad and brother both had the same dream about mum shortly after we lost her and I couldn’t help feeling left out. She was my person, best friend, rock and we had always been so close. So I do tend to steer on the side of you believe what you want to believe, which is a bit sad to feel like. Then again, my reaction to grief is shutting down and distraction so maybe I’m not in the right head space to receive.

I think my dm has visited me 3 times.

One night after she just died l smelt roses in my bedroom in the middle of the night. Never smelt them again.

Whrn Dd was being born by section, l just knew she was in that room with me. It may have been the drugs, but l felt it before I’d had any.

When l was having an episode of terrible mental health l couldn’t sleep. One night l felt a finger in my back. I turned round but there was no one there. It was so weird. I just knew it was her.

All these things happened within a space of about 3 years after she died.

She doesn’t feel near anymore.

When i was looking over my grandads body saying goodbye, I felt some sort of pressure on my shoulder as if someone had put their hand there to say "its ok"
Was comforting anyway whatever that feeling was.

I'm so sorry you're feeling like this @1wokeuplikethis. My dad died 3 years ago and I had no experiences like that at all of him which feels more normal to me. I just need to look after Dmum as I know he was worried about how she would cope without him. He had suspected pancreatic cancer and died even before we got the diagnosis but it was enough to put the fear in him- we had 10 days from it being suspected to losing him. I know he could have had a horrible prolonged time so a quick departure was best for him with the least loss of dignity. However he knew that I knew what was going on. So perhaps he didn't need to send me a message.

I found it easy to dismiss the experience with my best friend and the hummingbird but they talked about butterflies and hummingbirds a lot on the programme so now it makes me wonder. I didn't know about her accident so perhaps she needed to reassure me more than my dad did.

Was your DM unwell before she passed? What was the dream your DDad and DB had?

My ex deceased FiL had always seen a Robin whatever time of year when someone was about to pass. When I met my 2nd husband, when we got engaged and on the morning of the wedding, the rohin was there. He was giving me his blessing. He knew what his son, the ex, was like.

When the ex 2nd wife suddenly passed, our TV stopped working. The night morning, it was fine. I found out later that the time the TV went bonkers was the time she passed.

When my mom passed, the same happened with the TV. It wouldn't work all day on the day of her funeral. It was fine the next day.

We didn't even bother turning the TV on when my late husband unexpectedly passed.

Putting those aside, I have had many signs with my late mom and my late husband they are still with us

I had a missed call from my mum about three months after she died.

Her phone had been wiped and given to a friend of hers, so I can’t really explain it.

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow did your DMum have an association with the smell of roses?

That last sentence is heartbreaking 🥺

On the night my youngest son was born I knew something was wrong but the clinicians weren't listening (I was right he did have a congential condition). At my most desperate, in the middle of the night I could feel and smell my Dad next to me - he used to smoke quite heavily and I could smell the tobacco. He had been dead for 3 years prior to my sons birth and hadn't smoked for years but the smell was comforting.

My great nan used to say you’ll know when I’ve passed away as a bird will fly into your house. Sure enough…

I seem to attract friendly robins wherever I go, I’m not sure who it is but it’s nice.

Yeah, roses were her favourite flower.

An ex - boyfriend, who I remained friends with, had a pet name for me ( which no-one else knows .) I woke up with a start one night and could hear a voice ( his voice ) calling me , it was so real . Two days later his friend rang me to say he'd died , I've never told anyone. 😔

These are comforting yet sad at the same time.

It does make you think though what about the parents of young children who die that are desperate for a sign? If some can let us know they are ok why can't all?

The Good Place is one of the best TV shows of recent years, it's absolutely brilliant!

Well this thread has certainly risen from the dead!

Aw didn't notice

In 1994 I Was 24 When my dad was in the last few days of cancer and I was staying with my parents to help my mum.

I had a dream and in it a woman with long auburn hair said her name was Agatha and that she and John would look after my dad.

I told my mum the next morning and she looked shocked. Apparently dad had an aunt aggy and uncle John. They had both died in the 1960s long before I was born and had a lot of involvement in my dad's life when he was a boy. Agatha had long auburn hair. I had never heard of her before, and I would only have seen black and white photos.

FIL died recently and very shortly before DH took the call a bird flew into the house.
That's never happened before.

Really odd but my mum passed away at just over 100 in the August of 2017. Exactly six months later in the February I was doing some tidying and cleaning before rushing off to work. Just about to vacuum in our bedroom and there was a bird in the room. It was a really cold day and there were no windows open. Anyway opened a window and it flew out. Told DH, rushed off to work and in the early afternoon when he'd just got back he called to say he'd gone upstairs to the bedroom to change and there was a bird in the room again. He opened the window and it flew out. We've never seen/heard anything strange since but it was exactly six months since my mum passed. Everytime I see a Robin I think of her too as she loved them.

For a year after my DH died the television would suddenly switch on at the time for the News. DH never missed watching the News.Also the wireless in the bedroom, I would go up to bed and the wireless, which I knew was switched off and it would be blaring away.He was ill for a long time before he died and quite often go to bed early, and switch the wireless on as he drifted into sleep.
He would often sit in the front room and I would find the radiator turned on in there after it had been off all day.
I like think this was his way of telling me he was alright, by doing familiar things in the house.