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Should I send a Christmas card to my Muslim neighbour?

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SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:28

I have cards for the 8 houses on my little block. She is my next door neighbour, she is a strict Muslim. I only have grinch cards, I'm not religious 😂

I'm not sure if I should or what to write?

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Threadkillacilla · 08/12/2022 16:31

No.

Choconut · 08/12/2022 16:31

I would definitely include her, you can always put seasons greetings, happy holidays or whatever if you want, but I'm sure she knows it's Christmas and wouldn't be offended if you used that word. It goes beyond religion now and is also cultural so there's no avoiding it really!

badassbaby · 08/12/2022 16:32

SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:28

I have cards for the 8 houses on my little block. She is my next door neighbour, she is a strict Muslim. I only have grinch cards, I'm not religious 😂

I'm not sure if I should or what to write?

Why would you?
Does she send you cards when it's her religious festivals?

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Sistanotcista · 08/12/2022 16:32

No. Better to give her a gift at Eid next year.

Lunificent · 08/12/2022 16:32

If you are friends and your card isn’t religious, I imagine it would be well received.

TheLeadbetterLife · 08/12/2022 16:33

If you send them to your other neighbours, why not? I have a muslim friend I send a Christmas card to, though he's not strict, and his wife is from a Christian background. None of us are religious, so the festival isn't about that for any of us, though Jesus is a very important prophet in Islam anyway!

Just write Seasons Greetings and Happy New Year.

JamSandle · 08/12/2022 16:33

I would as it's always lovely to be thought of.

Enko · 08/12/2022 16:33

I send to my friend and she sends me divali lights.

I dont go all religious on her cards but put something like thinking of you and the family at this festive season

ArrrrrghStopLickingTheDog · 08/12/2022 16:33

I would it would seem rude to give everyone else one except her

BMIwoes · 08/12/2022 16:34

You surely wouldnt be offended if she popped a happy eid card through your door when she was celebrating, so I imagine the same would be true of her. You dont have to send a religious message in the card.

grapehyacinthisactuallyblue · 08/12/2022 16:34

Not Merry Christmas card, but seasons greetings card without any religious sentiment if I was doing it. But if I know they don't celebrate, I would just skip the neighbour.

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SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:34

She's really lovely and always chats to us about our Halloween decorations and stuff.

Why would I? Because she's my neighbour and I'm sending cards to send love and wish everyone a happy 2023 too.

I wouldn't want her to feel left out if she talked to every other neighbour

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AnyRandomName · 08/12/2022 16:35

I'd send a happy new year type card, I wouldn't including Xmas. Nice to include her, I can't see her being offended (I am an optimistic type however and am not easily offended)

DenholmElliot11 · 08/12/2022 16:35

No she doesn't celebrate xmas.

SkinnyFatte · 08/12/2022 16:36

Yes.

Jesus/Isa is a Muslim prophet too.

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SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:36

I don't think she would be offended. She's absolutely lovely. I'm just twisting myself in knots over thinking maybe?

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MsFogi · 08/12/2022 16:36

If you are sending cards to neighbours and she is a neighbour you should include her. I take it you wouldn't be offended by someone of another religion sending you a card/something else on their festivals (I know I am always delighted when friends of other religions include me in their celebrations).

Threadkillacilla · 08/12/2022 16:36

Happy New year card is better. In Islam Jesus is a prophet and not Christ so no Christ mas.

Choconut · 08/12/2022 16:36

SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:34

She's really lovely and always chats to us about our Halloween decorations and stuff.

Why would I? Because she's my neighbour and I'm sending cards to send love and wish everyone a happy 2023 too.

I wouldn't want her to feel left out if she talked to every other neighbour

Even bigger yes now! You can always give it to her when you see her and say you hope it's ok. Leaving her out would be really sad I think.

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SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:37

My cards say Merry Grinchmas 😂

I could just write wishing you all the best in 2023 and not incluse anything about the season.

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PersephoneInTheGarden · 08/12/2022 16:37

I send to and receive (non-religious) Christmas cards from Muslim colleagues and friends. Some have a Christmas tree. We light candles at Diwali. Everyone seems happy about this (I have checked, politely!)

WhichWitchIsTheWitch · 08/12/2022 16:37

Agree with seasons greetings and send her something for Eid. We’re the only one on the street who acknowledge Diwali to our Hindu neighbours and they’re delighted that we do.

crumbsneverdid · 08/12/2022 16:37

Send her one that says seasons greetings? My best friend is Muslim, but LOVES the tradition of Christmas, rather than the religious aspect. She puts her decorations up in November :)

greenhousegal · 08/12/2022 16:37

Does she send you a card for Eid?

Given that Christmas - in name a Christian holiday - but in fact adoration of the God of Mammon for the vast majority and since it is celebrated practically around the world, I would leave a little box of sweets/chocolate orange or something small with a gift tag. It is the right thing to do, and if she is offended, which I doubt, that's her problem.

Circumferences · 08/12/2022 16:38

My child receives happy Eid cards, and we like them.

Would you be happy to receive an Eid card?
If you wouldn't that would be a bit bigoted surely.

Likewise, if a Muslim person doesn't want to receive a card for Christmas they probably don't want your friendship.