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Should I send a Christmas card to my Muslim neighbour?

135 replies

SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:28

I have cards for the 8 houses on my little block. She is my next door neighbour, she is a strict Muslim. I only have grinch cards, I'm not religious 😂

I'm not sure if I should or what to write?

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SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 17:07

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 08/12/2022 16:45

Christ said ‘love your neighbour’. So that’s His advice

I'm an atheist 😅

But appreciate the message for sure!

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RogueV · 08/12/2022 17:09

Can’t believe the people saying no!

of course you should sent her one!!! Why wouldn’t you?!

WeightoftheWorld · 08/12/2022 17:15

Yes! I'm Muslim and we always got and still do give and get Xmas cards from our neighbours.

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pinneddownbytabbies · 08/12/2022 17:21

Jesus was also a muslim prophet, so I don't see why not.

I send a couple of cards to people of other faiths, and just put 'With Seasons Greetings and very Best Wishes' in them.

alasangne · 08/12/2022 17:22

Omg no don't send those to any of your neighbours

alasangne · 08/12/2022 17:22

RogueV · 08/12/2022 17:09

Can’t believe the people saying no!

of course you should sent her one!!! Why wouldn’t you?!

All the neighbours will think OP is calling them a grinch

vagmons · 08/12/2022 17:24

I live in a majority Muslim country and Christmas is very much celebrated here! Christmas decorations, parties, food…and people wish me happy Eid knowing I am not religious but that it’s nice to be included.

Winterfires · 08/12/2022 17:24

Its funny to see people tying themselves in knots about this, of course you give her a card too, it’s a no brainer.

Winterfires · 08/12/2022 17:25

alasangne · 08/12/2022 17:22

All the neighbours will think OP is calling them a grinch

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I hope you are taking the piss

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 08/12/2022 17:26

SpidaMama · 08/12/2022 16:37

My cards say Merry Grinchmas 😂

I could just write wishing you all the best in 2023 and not incluse anything about the season.

This seems perfect.

BettySwallocks · 08/12/2022 17:26

No

Wtafis · 08/12/2022 17:27

My neighbours are Muslim. I give them an Xmas card saying I hope they enjoy the holidays, and a box of chocolates.

They often send a gift at Eid. Sometimes an Xmas present.

it’s nice to be nice.

limitedperiodonly · 08/12/2022 17:27

Why not?

Lentilweaver · 08/12/2022 17:28

Yes. I am not Christian and I would be happy to receive Xmas cards.

PriamFarrl · 08/12/2022 17:28

My Muslim neighbours sent me a card not long after they moved in last year. My neighbour over the road, who as converted has asked that I don’t send him a card.

TheOrigRights · 08/12/2022 17:29

I send Christmas cards to my Hindu family in India. I'm not trying to bloomin' convert them!

Armychefbethebest · 08/12/2022 17:29

We have Muslim neighbours at Xmas a box of traditional Asian sweets are much appreciated and they send us a Christmas card and chocs at eid we buy a eid card and also more traditional sweets everyone is happy x

ladyvimes · 08/12/2022 17:31

Of course she won’t be offended that’s a lovely gesture!! Definitely send her one! It’s ridiculous that some people think she wouldn’t like it.

My sisters’ partner is a practising Hindu and is spending his first proper Christmas with my sister this year. He’s really excited and my mum is doing them both stockings. It is possible to be included in a religious festival without being of that religious yourself.
And yes, before anyone says it, my sister has also been included in some of her partner’s Hindu festivals too!

Lentilweaver · 08/12/2022 17:31

Honestly, after the pandemic and subsequent social isolation, I would be happy to be thought of kindly by anybody. Cards, chocolates, anything will be gladly accepted at any time...:)

Boshi · 08/12/2022 17:34

Yes defo give a card, especially since it’s not religious. It would be mean to leave her out. We are used to giving and receiving christmas cards and gifts it won’t be something she will be offended over!

SoundsOfThunder · 08/12/2022 17:39

It's fine to give a card. She'll probably just think you're a lovely neighbour, unless she'd unhinged.
I think it's more insulting to exclude people because of assumptions.

GelPens1 · 08/12/2022 17:41

A family member is Christian and her neighbours (a family) are Muslim. Her neighbours give her a Christmas card and present. My family member gives them a gift for Eid. It’s nice!

LittlePearl · 08/12/2022 17:43

My niece and her husband are muslims and I always send them a card.

cptartapp · 08/12/2022 17:47

She'd be more offended to be missed out of the neighbours than receive a card with good wishes in it.
Send it but keep the message bland.

ShouldersBackandTitsOut · 08/12/2022 17:47

People send cards to non Christians all the time. Why would this be any different? She may do something celebratory, some Muslims do. And you could emphasise the new year.