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Would ADHD medication help me feel less overwhelmed with housework and reduce my general anxiety?

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Return2thebasic · 07/12/2022 14:00

Diagnosed a few years ago. Just applied for medication and in the queue waiting to be seen.

I'm just so fed up with my incapability to tidy up the house. The tasks are so tedious and never ending. I feel paralysed just thinking about it and therefore most of the evenings I feel ashamed that I haven't done enough to change it.

Piles of laundries - just more and more; cluttering with toys, things I can't decide to throw away, shoes that need to be cleaned before being put away, picnic cool bags that need to be cleaned before store away, beddings that require mighty force to change and then a few hours to wash and then dry before they can go back to wardrobe, the garden that needs a tidy up before winter properly sets in, and the list goes on and on.

My husband is also bad at housework - he literally "doesn't see" and never voluntarily help with tidy up and he outright declared he can't do laundry even if he doesn't mind do cooking sometimes. But I'm drowning by all the tasks. And my ADHD just make me anxious but without the courage to put time in to do the chunk of work knowing there's no end. I don't dare to ask any friends or even DS's friends over without being prepared to spend hours to tidy up beforehand.

So, I know this post has become a rant rather than my initial intent about ADHD. And I don't plan to divorce my husband to find someone who's willing to help to marry.

So my only hope is the medication one day when I get my turn to be seen... Would it make housework easier and less overwhelming? I just feel so ashamed but trapped at the same time...

OP posts:
tunthebloodyalarmoff · 08/12/2022 19:30

You don't need medication to sort your house out. Ask a friend or family member to come over and tackle one room at a time. De clutter amd get rid or as much as you can. Then clean and tidy. Give everything a home. One room after another and you will get it done. I don't mean to be rude but you can't be lazy. We all have to do housework

bippityboppity87 · 08/12/2022 20:05

I have adhd and medicated for it. I find that it doesn't help me become less forgetful. So I often leave washing in the machine for example, and still lose things. But on the flip side, I'm a bit more organised, as well as able to have a shower without sitting on my bum for five hours doom scrolling

In terms of anxiety, I do feel calmer/less agitated as my brain isn't going a million miles an hour and I sleep better at night. I take Xaggatin xl and a top up later on in the afternoon

bippityboppity87 · 08/12/2022 20:15

It might also give you an oomph to organise as your mind will be more organised iykwim. I would also suggest decluttering as much as possible. You have to be ruthless. And a place for everything and stick with it. Hooks in every room for keys, coats, towels etc depending on the room so you know where they are has helped too

I also have a file (can buy them quite cheaply) for paperwork with the "subject matter" on top for each thing. Mortgage/warranties/receipts/bank letters too and keep in the same place

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