Received a (TW) pic. So angry!

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So TW for anyone who would be upset by mention of unsolicited NSFW pics.

Some grubby little man has sent me a dick pic today. I got it when I was getting changed after taking ds(6) swimming - it’s bloody lucky he didn’t see it as that would have been an awkward conversation that I really don’t want to have right now. I assume he took my phone number off my website (I run a business). I’ve had some vaguely suggestive messages before (from different numbers) but this is the first time I’ve had an image sent.

I have reported it to the police although I don’t think they can do anything. I’m just so angry! I feel so bloody impotent to do anything beyond blocking the number and cross referencing my client database to make sure it isn’t one of them (I doubt it, but you never know). And taking my number off all my marketing materials and website which is in itself infuriating because it will lose me business, and it takes time and will have costs involved (like reprinting things).

Just - fucking men! And yes, of course not all men. But too many men nonetheless. I don’t even have a question or anything for this thread, I’m just so bloody angry!

Send a message back saying "What is it? It's too small for me to see"

If the dodgy pic was not consented, then it may be illegal,( look for the legislation first). So if you wish, you could threaten him with legal action.

That may cause him to shrivel
off somewhere away from cyberspace.

At least you were not eating. I would have told him he's bringing up my toast.

Get a grip.

Then twist.

Hard.

Done

Grim. Yes to informing the police.

He’s trying to make you very uncomfortable in sending the image.

Could you contact his employer?

The police can do something! A cyber flashing law was introduced earlier this year, I reported someone in the summer, they tracked him down and it’s now on his record.

It made me feel grubby and creeped out. It caused me stress. And, it turns out he was doing it to other people I know too. So I don’t feel guilty for a moment that I used a law that is there to protect me.

He's relying on you to do nothing about it. I would do as other PPs have said - add the number to your contacts, see if he's on Whatsapp and if he is, do a reverse image search on his profile picture. And/or go to the police.

@Nagado happy to share mine but it is vile.

I really think there should be a public website where we could upload these with the number that sent it.

Well there are websites such as Who Calls Me? where I suppose you could put in the number and a note to say "source of unwanted intimate pictures"?

This is one reason that mandating that everyone should declare their sex/gender and put up a photo and lots of personal information on LinkedIn or their own business website, in order to seem more friendly and get more business (not my words, someone doing a coaching session with a group of us the other day), puts some people (often women and children as I include your son in this too) in more danger of being on the receiving end of this too-prevalent criminal behaviour.

Brilliant.

I like the idea of the "automatically forwarded" text, and definitely report it yes. If the police aren't interested and basically tell you that they won't do anything, then other legal means of dealing with it come into play, IMO. I'm not a lawyer. Get advice.

Apologists saying it's no biggie (pun not intended): get knotted (ditto).

I'd send him a dick pick (back Google - not hard to find !) everyday - like a dick pic advent calendar - until
He gets the message! Should do it !

I think if every woman did this it would definitely decrease this abhorrent behaviour.

Oh and ask how he likes getting unsolicited dick picks ....every day .

Agree with the PP that having a second phone for business can work, problem is the nature of work these days mean that you often need to have your business phone on you to respond, while also dealing with children and domestic things, so it doesn't really solve it. One solution might be to use a landline as the business number, divert calls to your mobile during whatever hours you choose (people don't send pics to a landline obvs), and also give an email address (although a few people might send a dick pic via email but it's less likely, and depending on your set up would only be viewable as an attachment not in preview that your son could see). But no mobile given.

I'd send him a dick pick (back Google - not hard to find !) everyday - like a dick pic advent calendar - until He gets the message! Should do it !

@stillvicarinatutu You claim on other threads to be a police officer, and even offered for one person yesterday to PM you for some advice about a situation. And yet here you are giving terrible advice!

Because of course then the OP would also be breaking the law sending this type of photo unsolicited, and if got off Google etc. she wouldn't have permission to use it and would be sharing intimate photos of a third party without permission!

You do know that impersonating a police officer is an offence also?

Buy an old phone for your business page like a Nokia or something that can only accept calls and texts no apps or pictures on there and get a new personal number for the phone you actually use that hasn't been made public. Shame to have to do that bur that way you shouldn't be bombarded with anything inappropriate

TrotOnMinty

This is GENIUS

Off sake get a sense of humour ! I'm not actually expecting anyone to DO this - it was totally tongue in cheek ! Please !

And yes I am a police 👮‍♂️ - with a sense of humour. Something sadly lacking here it appears.

In Future I will post a sense of humour warning. Hope that's ok .

I would save the number in your phone under something like - creep #1 then open a new message to him on WhatsApp (but don’t send anything) just to see if he has a photo against his profile- may help track down if it’s anyone you know or recognise that you should steer clear of

So I have reported it to the police. Then I had one of those marvellous thoughts that you get just as you’re trying to fall asleep, that if he booked an appointment at my own treatment room, I’d have no way of knowing it was him if he used a different number. Oh and I work from home… so yay. So going to be doing some tracking down today so I can try and put a block on my system.

Gah. Bastard!

@stillvicarinatutu Don’t worry, I get the humour.

It’s cathartic to imagine sending lots of the responses suggested on this thread, but ultimately I’m not going to because attention is what they want, isn’t it. Just like IRL flashers get off on women screaming and running away. I have encountered the in-person type btw, and I have to say that once it was over (I gave him my most shrivelling look and he ran off) I wasn’t half as bothered as I am by this, because I knew he had no way to find me again. This feels more insidious.

Hmph. Number isn’t on WhatsApp or Google. Must be a burner phone. Imagine being so deeply, utterly inadequate that you went and bought yourself a special phone just for sending pictures of your nasty, shrivelled little dick to random women? What a pathetic little creature.

Post his number and we’ll all text him. Or sign him up to websites with his number. Cue spam….

Cas112 · Yesterday 22:52
Buy an old phone for your business page like a Nokia or something that can only accept calls and texts no apps or pictures

This is an excellent idea for your own piece of mind.