Bedroom arrangement

[Homeatlast22]

I have a 5 bed council house. My 12 year old dd is in the small room. Her brother who's 20 went to stay with his boyfriend 6 months ago and basically has not come back. Apart from to visit. I'm thinking about giving my daughter his room. The things stopping me is he could come back. The small room is to small for him. Also dd does not keep her small room clean. But it also feels unfair to keep her in a small room when the bigger room is empty. Other rooms are taken by myself and other kids. So wwud

I'm confused because the thread title doesn't match the opening post and what does the fact it's a council house with 5 beds have to do with anything?

Tell her to keep her room clean for 3 months then reassess

You can get 5 bedroom council houses?

Your thread title doesn't make sense. But I would give your DD the room as you're responsible for her housing while the 20YO can rent their own if it isn't good enough.

Just ask him what's his plans as you are thinking about moving dd to the bigger room as its been empty for 6 months. Just find out if his living situation is looking permanent as of the near future.

The title makes sense to me!

The resident child’s needs matter more than those of the adult who has moved out. So I would give your dd the bigger room, and your son can stay in the box room when he comes to visit.

We did this each time one of our boys moved out - the remaining boys got to move to bigger rooms. Now the smallest room is nominally the spare room, but the cat has claimed it as his!

And why wouldn't there be 5 bed council/HA homes? Not exactly unusual

I would move the oldest child into the bigger room and work down from there.

The small room is big enough for a bed? If so, it's big enough for him.

If you no longer need 5 bedrooms will you downsize?

That's unfair. It's hard to keep a small room tidy and clean, much easier when you have more space. Also, she's 12, it's her room, as long as it isn't unsanitary then IMO it's none of your business if it's messy. My DD is messier than her brothers, who share a room, but other than a no dirty dishes and rubbish on the floor rule, I don't get involved in how she keeps it as I don't go in there.

Has the 12yo actually got space in the smaller room? Its harder to keep tidy when overcrowded.

Everyone I've known in council houses has been stuck in a 3 bed no matter how many DCs they have. My neighbour had 5 (last baby was twins) and had to get triple bunks. We do live in an area with limited council housing stock though.

Can you explain what the OP means by flooring without permission then please? 😊

I'm in a 5 bed HA and can't get a downsize! I'm stuck!

@DuplicateUserName eh??

That's what the thread title says (which is why it doesn't make sense).

"Flooring without permission".

OMG that's so weird!

The title has now changed to 'bedroom arrangement'?

The thread title is bedroom arrangement!

Switch the rooms op. You can't move out and expect you room to be kept when there's other kids. He can stay in the smaller room if he ever sleeps the night.

@DuplicateUserName er...what? This thread is bedroom arrangement?

There’s 6 bed council houses near me so yes

But the web link says 'flooring without permission' , perhaps the OP got it changed very quickly?

It still says 'Flooring without permission' for me!

I'm sorry but I'm confused!!

Oh, a weird glitch. If MNHQ change the title, it usually says that too....

Yes, mine still says that too...

And now my attached screenshot has gone weird!

I give up 😂