Do you think Facebook is toxic? And if so do you limit time on their

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I do find a weird way that you can end up wasting time on
as I often feel I need to check it incase one one put anything important on there so try n check it every day but that end s U.K. being half an hour or even an hour … if you get sucked in to look in at other stuff

I just got rid all together and my life is much better for it!

Roach do you not feel bad if you miss peoples birthdays etc ?

I only have Friends that are actually friends and don't find it toxic at all. I don't spend very long on there anyway.

How long would you say you spend on there ?

All my actual friends and family, as in people I actually see and talk to, I have their birthdays and events in my calendar so I don't miss them. Everyone else, no.

There’s a few people I could do with unfollowing

Depends who your friends are.

In all honesty most of my fb page is full of groups/official pages I follow, not individuals posting about their day. I just don't think many people use it that much anymore. I cringe when I look at memories from ten years ago and I was posting about what I was up to, like anyone gave a shit 😂

If I do get the odd annoying one gushing about a new lover, or airing their dirty linen, I just snooze/permanently hide them so it doesn't appear on my timeline.

Yeah o know your actual friends you’d know their birthdays etc just more the wider people like old colleagues and others you could easily lose touch with

A quick look a couple of times a day to see what's happening probably.

It's only as toxic as you let it be.

I only have friends and family on it.

I only follow pages for things like cute animals.

My algorithm only shows me baby/animal/funny videos.

I don't have any one on there I don't like. It's really simple.

Facebook, and social media, isn't toxic.

The way people use it is.

No, I don’t think it’s toxic. I have no need to limit my time on there because I am not, in any fashion, overly attached to it. If I have time to scroll, I might, for a bit, but if I don’t have time, I don’t.

Seems like you spend a lot of time on FB if you are that dependent that you have no other means of tracking people’s birthdays. I think you should consider your use of it rather than blaming FB.

No. I just quickly check it a few times a day. There's usually some useful community information.
Instagram is a bit Stepford Wife. I flick through it but find the fakeness ridiculous. Can't bear such positivity 😁.

I came off it a few months ago. Best thing ever. Haven't missed it at all. Much less feeling worried about/slightly jealous or snidey about people. Still use the messages bit for planning and stuff. Genuinely can't remember what I did on it!

From a security perspective, you really shouldn't have your birthday on your social media profile. I appreciate that's not the point of this thread though...

As others have said, it depends how you use it.

I use if for two things, the messenger bit as some of my friends seem to use that rather than text/WhatsApp. And I’m part of a dog walking group so I use it to see when walks are … so I’m that respect it’s healthy! My feed is full of adverts these days so it’s a waste of time scrolling down to see what people are up to. I think times have changed and people are more on Instagram now (I personally prefer LinkedIn as it’s less image focused but every social media platform is a bit fake)

I only go on there if I have something to get rid of and I keep forgetting to go on and check if anyone has messaged so I’m sure they’re annoyed with my slow communication 😄 I think FB is tiresome the way people use it - my mum and aunts always posting the most mundane things. My aunt takes photos of this car that keeps getting clamped over the road from her and has looked it up on some website and posted a screen shot saying they’re untaxed. When you’re at that level, I’d say yes, toxic and a very small life. So, depends how you use it!

I saw something on there once which really hurt me so only check on the local pages to see what's happening
Works better for me

I think it's toxic.

I came off years ago, I don't miss it at all. Birthdays I remember anyway so doesn't make a difference.

It's always people blowing smoke up their behinds and gloating, when in reality their life's are nothing like that. It's just all fake.

I left insta and Facebook in 2018 after getting divorced and having a proper pity party that new year from seeing loads of "this was my year" videos which were all lovely things happening and I'd just had the worst year of my life (dd also had serious health stuff happening).

Life in my opinion is much much better without it. I just enjoy things now without worrying about getting a picture to share 🤦‍♀️. I love NOT knowing what everyone else is up to. It brings up a lot of low level negative feelings without you really realising it (or at least it did for me). There are probably some good support groups on there for dds condition but I just can't bring myself to join it again.

I have a quick glance and then exit rapidly. As the years have has gone by, my friends are posting less and less and the posts it displays are increasingly trying to sell me stuff or else show me external content which I have no interest in or control over. I'm in a few local groups and it's useful to know what's going on and hear about upcoming events. If it wasn't for that, I might ditch it altogether.

I find it a necessary evil. I find it the best way to find out what's going on in the area and have found some events I wouldn't have done without it. My children's activity groups and DC's secondary only seem to communicate through FB and often their school friends parents communicate through FB.
However I am incredibly easily distracted and I often get sucked in to watch reels or reading pointless comments on stupid articles.

Also just use it for community info. None of my friends post on it anymore, that's been on the wane for years.

I like it! But I can regulate myself and don't have friends who are dramatic, call people hun and make vague illusions to their state of mind

Yes it’s the community info on there is so bloody helpful
I thin that’s what makes it hard to fully quit