Do you think Facebook is toxic? And if so do you limit time on their

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I do find a weird way that you can end up wasting time on
as I often feel I need to check it incase one one put anything important on there so try n check it every day but that end s U.K. being half an hour or even an hour … if you get sucked in to look in at other stuff

Exactly this

need to find a way to use it without getting sucked into all the stupid ads and reading ransoms comments about things in not even interested in

I do have it. I actually opened it yesterday. Last time was early September. I keep it because I have some family overseas and it's interesting to see what's going on with them .

However if it's something important. I'll do that weird thing where you use your phone /video call and SPEAK to them . (Yeah - I know, radical )

I've seen some fb pages which seem to be all about trying to shine a spotlight on their perfect lives. It's like a constant brag fest and very unedifying. If that's the rabbit hole you've gone down OP I would just delete the app and gain my life back.

I don't worry about missing the birthdays of people I don't know well enough not to have them on my calendar.

I got rid of the app and check it once a day now. So much better for me. It’s just adverts anyway.

I actually find mumsnet more toxic. I can mostly manage Facebook so I'm only seeing the stuff I want to see. I only have close friends and family and lots of stupid stuff 'hidden'.

On mumsnet the most inoccuous sounding thread can be full of twats with hateful posts

No. I don't see it as toxic at all. I check it at least a few times per day. Enjoy it. Never had anything nasty on it. Toxic in what way?

No I don't think it's toxic, my friends aren't toxic so why would it be?

I don't use Facebook to keep up with individuals anymore, nor post to my page. I use it purely for groups and discussion.

Why do you need to wish an old colleague you would otherwise never see a happy birthday, though?

Doesn't that all seem a bit superficial? What's the point?

I mean with people you are just not going to have a relationship with going forwards - you worked together for a while, one of you left the job, and now you haven't maintained a friendship and don't ever see each other. Why is it important to try to keep that relationship? It's not adding anything to your life anymore.

Sometimes people aren't meant to be in our lives forever - I think Facebook/ social media makes us stress about things that really, in our actual day to day lives, simply don't matter.

We can't maintain relationships with everyone weve ever met.

Personally I don't really use Facebook anymore. My social network is smaller but built of much higher quality relationships with actual people that I see and talk to.

I have Facebook mastered and it works perfectly!

First I unfriended everyone that hypothetically wouldn't come to my funeral.

That got it down from 300 to about 35 people.

I then unfollowed everyone, so I'm still their friend but don't see any updates.

I then I joined Facebook groups of things I like, history, art, animals, travel, feminist groups, politics etc things that have fascinating articles and interesting quotes and imagery.

I then told everyone 'I don't really do Facebook anymore, if you tag me I will see it but don't look on it everyday".

So now I can go on it read such interesting articles and features it's brilliant. Probably go on it now for about 1-2 hours a week. Have no fomo as don't see what everyone is doing, and when I see my friends in person and they say "I went here or there" I'm really interested as I haven't seen it on Facebook first.

Not nearly as much as Mumsnet ;)

I don't find Facebook toxic. But Mumsnet definitely is!

Do not mebook it or insta or twatter

I’ve recently come off Facebook as a regular haunt but very occasionally dip back into it. I began to find it very inane.
I loath all the adverts which cloud everything else & I have to go hunting for friends’ news.
I agree It’s a useful tool for lots of things but actually I feel better without it.
I think in the end something else will come along & FB will become defunct.
It’s only as toxic as anyone’s use makes it.

It's only toxic if your friends on there are toxic surely? I don't know how anyone can spend much time on it anyway, after 10 minutes of scrolling through adverts, sponsored and suggested posts, just to find something posted by someone I actually know, I've given up and gone elsewhere.

I waste at least half an hour a day on there. I resent it. But I tried to stop and missed out on social stuff. So I have to keep it but just try to limit time. (Hard)

Facebook Purity will filter out the ads most of the time. I'm only friends with people who I like. If someone's posts begin to irritate me, then I hide or unfollow.

Why do you need to wish an old colleague you would otherwise never see a happy birthday, though?
Some of my old colleagues (support staff mainly) were very kind to me when I had a shitty time at work. I don't see them regularly but do like to keep in touch.

I think it totally depends how you and your friends and family use it.

I used to be quite active on there but now I only post something once a month or so, and I've stopped spending much time scrolling.

If I find someone too much, I unfollow them without unfriending them.

I last about 5mins on it before I'm bored!
I keep it for thr selling pages and somewhere to store all my photos(lost ones before on my laptop-i do have a hard drive but like that they R safe onfb and I can look at them easily if I want to)
Other than that nope can't stand it.