Child on play date hated my dinner

[RosieLeaLovesTea]

Oh dear. DD had a friend over the play . I said she could stay for tea. I bought them a
big cheese and tomato pizza to share. But she wanted pepperoni and so I had to do a smaller
pizza on the side with a tomato sauce. She didn’t like the pasta and left it. So has only eaten too small pieces of pizza. I hate the thought that she willgo back to her parents feeling hungry. 😣

Confused here too! After I read it a few times I assumed it was a typo?

My son told the mother (politely) that it was disgusting.

Tbf we had that once when we had a family round. The little lad (aged about 3yo) was sitting at the table obviously trying to think how he could politely say he didn't like it, so he came up with "Excuse me Aunty Margaret, thank you very much for the food, it is totally disgusting."
It was very funny, and we all tried to hide our laughter while dad removed him rapidly from the room and told him very firmly how rude he'd been. He came back and said very sweetly. "I'm sorry for being rude, but please can I just eat the carrots as I really like carrots."

Serving pasta with pizza is a bit odd.

I'm quite old (grew up in the 50s and 60s) and don't think it's a good thing to expect children to force down food they don't like.

Indeed! Unashamedly smug parenting at its worst!!

Honestly, the problem is not yours. You tried to please her. There's not that much more you could have done. There's food at her house that she'll eat if she's still hungry

What??? Pizza and pasta together is not odd. Carb overload maybe. This is a playdate! I honestly worry about some parents. It's a playdate. It feels like you are aiming for some higher recognition from kids!

I've never had them together. Pizza stands alone unless you have salad with it. Also my child is over 40 so I haven't had anything to do with play dates for a very long time.

@BobbyBobbyBobby this is my youngest. She eats ANYTHING at friends houses and even says that her friends houses all have better tap water when we all live in the exact same area! She's also unfailingly polite and well mannered at friends houses though tbf whereas she can be a right mardy arsed fussy eaer here

OP I've never worried what kids eat at play dates. I offer and it's up to them if they eat. I don't think ds ate at a friends house until he was about 14! He'd just pick. I could name the friends of my children who will actually eat when they come because most just pick and fidget and get over excited or maybe I'm a terrible cook

I always used to do a little 'buffet' of sorts, because there would be always one of two who didn't like this or that. So little bowls of chicken nuggets or sausages, hot pasta with a little bit of passata, cucumber, carrot, shredded lettuce, grated cheese and fruit, and let them get on with it (GF versions if needed). I did that every time and there was always some thing for everyone and usually enough for wraps for us for lunch next day.

OK. I'm 40. It's not odd to me.

My children came home from play dates and hadn’t eaten …it’s fairly normal..I just cooked beans on toast and of to bed .

I incr had a kid cry because she didn't know what a mushroom was. Proper sobbing, I offered something else but she was I such a state.over the offending mushroom I had to get her mum (( she had indeed never had mushrooms )) not the kids fault stuff like that can seem such a big thing as a child.

Nope, not just you 😁
I'm there thinking "pasta? Eh?!"

The comment I will never forget is serving quorn pasta and garlic bread to a play date who we knew very well and she said the quorn looked like dog food 😂

she had never had it and prob not had it since but every time I use quorn pieces I think of her and this was years ago.

There was only one alternative to lunch/dinner in my house and that was a cheese sandwich. My children or anyone else’s. Do I look like I run a short order restaurant? No I do not.

This could have been me with a few details changed! 'Spaghetti' in my family growing up meant tinned hoops in sauce. Visited a friend whose mum asked if I liked spaghetti. Yes, I said. What was served up was probably a very lovely home cooked meal, but to me it bore absolutely no resemblance to 'spaghetti' and I refused to even try it. Couldn't explain why because it just felt rude to say they were lying about what the food was - but that's how it seemed to me! Ended up with toast instead.

Years later when I realised what had actually happened I felt so bad for my friend's mum who had gone to all that trouble only for me to refuse a meal I'd said that I liked!

That's it, I'm having tinned spaghetti bolognese tomorrow.

Don't worry op, I've spent years making meals from scratch and all manner of puddings and cakes for my DS and his pals, they never like it and always prefer some tinned/shop bought processed junk. I try not to let it get to me as I sob into my apron lol you'll get used to it!

One of DS’s friends came round for a play date. Offered him 3 sandwich options - only eats tuna fish. We are vegetarian, no tuna fish here. Then turned his nose up at crisps and biscuits (only eats plain biscuits and cheese and onion crisps, we had chocolate biscuits and ready salted or salt and vinegar crisps). Oh, and he doesn’t like smoothies, water, milk or squash, so also went home thirsty.

I remember turning my nose up at sandwiched made with non-Lurpak butter at a similar age - I had definitely eaten non-Lurpak sandwiches prior to that without issue, so I have no idea why it became so vitally important to me round at my friend’s house.

I think kids just don’t eat much food on play dates and it’s best not to interrogate it too deeply.

I once had a child refuse a meal she'd asked for because I didn't have Caesar salad sauce to put on it. It wasn't salad or even an appropriate meal to put that on. I had another refuse a roast dinner because "it wasn't Sunday". Oh and then there was the one who asked me for a burger and then listed the specific ingredients that had to be included before he'd eat it. I failed. Kids are arsed. You tried 🤷🏻‍♀️

The absolute smugness of it. Hilarious. Why don’t you get this printed and laminated and hand it out in the streets to show everyone how absolutely brilliant and superior you are to all the uncultured tin-eating scum around you. I bet your child is such a humble angel too… you know educating those lowly thick folks on their disgustingness … you must be so proud. 🙄

Lots of kids are like this. She’ll survive fine. Don’t give it another thought.

I think @Notsureaboutusername is joking, or at least I fucking hope she is

@Notsureaboutusername might have been the better cook, but her manners - and those of her son - are non existent.